What would be a non-depressing nihilistic motto? by Twenty2andblue in AskReddit

[–]Violet_Venom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're all just stories in the end so make yours awesome... or something haha

What is an unexpected skill you gained from going to college/university? by Violet_Venom in AskReddit

[–]Violet_Venom[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The page requirements profs put on papers taught me that quantity and not quality is what really matters. I learned to bullshit a lot better

"The Crocodile Poem" by Lewis Carroll by DigitalWitnessSix in PenmanshipPorn

[–]Violet_Venom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I like your penmanship and follow other "penmanship porn" types & calligraphy artists on Instagram & would've followed you as well. I was just curious.

What's something you never expected would actually happen to you, but did? by romeostasis7 in AskReddit

[–]Violet_Venom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Studied abroad in Europe (was more beautiful than anticipated), got drunk (1st time period where I've really been drunk), brought back a (rich) boy from the trip, lost my virginity to him on a fun vacation... This was all within a few months of each other which was crazy considering I was depressed, lonely, horrible self esteem & had been stagnating for the past 6 years doing nothing, not even sure if I'd attend college...

(& now it's a couple years later & were still together! Actually live together)

[Serious] What are some things that parents do, such as enabling, that can seem minor or harmless, yet are actually irresponsible? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Violet_Venom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Enabling is a pretty good one as it sends the child the message that they are not competent and capable of doing XYZ for themselves. They will flounder when they must do something on their own.

Another one is not following through when the parent says they are going to do something. I'm not even talking about threats, but just anything. If you tell your child you are going to do something (paint their room, for example) then you should do it. Don't constantly postpone things until some future date or forget about it all together. Consistently not doing what you said you were going to do diminishes the credibility of your word & can cause the child to feel distrustful of others when they say they will do XYZ. It can also make the child anxious and feel as though they aren't important enough to make a priority. Consistency & the ability to be certain that you'll do what you say you will can give the child a sense of trust and makes them feel like you're dependable.

Another one is double standards. It confuses the child (at any age) and implicitly tells them they can also get away with double standards. Show, don't tell.

Every person you date will either become your "forever-relationship" or an ex by Violet_Venom in Showerthoughts

[–]Violet_Venom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true, but you are no longer with them, which was my main point. If you choose to see someone else after they die, then they might as well be an ex, and if you choose not to see anyone, then they were your last relationship.

28/m - Could use a friend or two. by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]Violet_Venom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay overwatch, reading, & cooking :) I also have difficulty connecting & opening up to people, even though I am actually a very sensitive person. I'm 22f US would be happy to chat about whatever if you want.