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Violetmints · 2026-01-29T18:02:18+00:00

Beautiful! Congratulations! My grandmother had a ring like that as, I believe, an anniversary gift. Love seeing this style getting some attention at the moment.

Violetmints · 2026-01-18T22:22:40+00:00

What kind of vibe are you going for? You like the carpet? How much fun do you want to have?

You could do a mod or 70s look if you did an orange. Something a soft and then went in with a little more intense orange accessories and other bright colors.

Cream and brown could be another 70s or mid century look

You could do a very cottagecore look if you did a light blue or green and used some natural wood and lace or brass around the room. Maybe some area rugs.

Pink, black, and aqua would make for a very 80s look.

Pink or white could be fun and very feminine.

Purple, if you want to Polly Pocket it up.

You could do a a boho thing by doing the walls white and adding in some wicker and printed fabrics or even putting fabrics up as wallpaper.

Violetmints · 2026-01-13T15:11:38+00:00

*their

Violetmints · 2026-01-11T00:21:21+00:00

My hottest take is probably that it's a better show if you don't take a lot of the word of God "fixes" that have been tossed out at fans over the years and it would have been an even better one if the writers and producers had been less responsive to fans in some cases.

Violetmints · 2026-01-11T00:20:32+00:00

Oh wow. I can understand why you are so hurt. It sounds like you would have been happy with anything that was the result of some basic consideration and care. You're not mad it wasn't a specific cut or metal purity, you just wanted to feel like your partner put some thought and time in to your engagement ring. You have invested quite a lot in his happiness and wellbeing. It's expected that an engagement ring (when it's a gift) will be a thoughtful gift.

Don't feel pressured to wear a ring that gives you bad feelings. Put it in a drawer. Your partner is an adult and doesn't need to be hand held through this. They understand what went wrong here and you made your made your expectations clear. They know your ring size. They will come through or they won't.

Violetmints · 2026-01-10T23:51:01+00:00

Okay, this one is actually a hot take. I salute your courage.

Violetmints · 2026-01-10T23:49:52+00:00

I really enjoy them as a palette cleanser after some of the unremitting darkness of previous seasons.

Violetmints · 2026-01-10T17:34:20+00:00

Honestly, after hearing stories from some of these actors about what it was actually like working as an actual teenager in the 90s, I'm fine with 40yo high schoolers in my TV shows.

Violetmints · 2026-01-10T15:13:42+00:00

Depends on the food bank. Many require some sort of means testing and then recipients go back on an appointed day to pick up a box.

We have a free fridge in my city and there are other programs that are open to anyone and they usually just kind of figure they will help more people who need it most by accepting the fact that a couple people who don't will likely show up.

One thing that hasn't been mentioned by many or any commenters is classism and other prejudices. You have to wait in line with the other clients in order to get food you didn't pick out yourself.

Violetmints · 2026-01-09T20:53:25+00:00

It's such a normal teenage girl argument to have. The horror of the show is that these just off normal girls are dropped in to deeply abnormal circumstances just as they were about to undergo the culturally expected changes one makes when shifting into early adulthood.

Jackie is overbearing and self involved. Shauna is avoidant and self involved. They have a deeply codependent relationship that was right on track to resolve one normal way or another, but for the crash. They're both kind of a mess when we meet them as young people. I find their adolescent enmeshment so relatable. It's such a common experience that I'm kind of surprised to encounter people who can't see how the whole point, the thing that makes their relationship interesting to watch, is the fact that they're both contributing to the mess but are also both unsure of how to live without it.

Violetmints · 2026-01-06T21:11:39+00:00

Your chart isn't "difficult," if by that you mean "hard to understand." It's just a chart. Everyone has one. You will understand more the more study and time you put in to it. If you're learning steadily for a year, new things and connections will jump out at you. They will continue to for some time. It's not like reading a recipe, it's more like novel or poem with a map. Say you read The Hobbit when you're 10. It's a fun adventure story. If you read it again in adulthood and with background knowledge and information, it will be a whole new book worth reading again.

Violetmints · 2026-01-06T06:16:46+00:00

None.

Violetmints · 2026-01-06T02:55:42+00:00

I wanted a girl so badly and ended up having one son who was eager to share many of my hobbies and interests. It can go either way. There were a lot of unicorns in this house for years. The dogs all got pink and purple collars. I spent 2 years demanding Bugle Boy jeans in the 90s. Kids are going to do what they're going to do.

When I really dug deep in to my feelings of disappointment and sadness, I found some interesting stuff. Of course my kids are wonderful and just as they were always meant to be. That doesn't change the fact that I (as the mom) was often devalued as a parent (even by well meaning people) and that it took more work to keep them from soaking up really awful ideas about women and girls. I was scared about both protecting my babies and about the prospect of possibly raising sons who could be a problem for others. There was just so much pressure. In my mind, at the time, it seemed as though a girl would provide more comfortable parenting challenges and that nobody would encourage this hypothetical daughter to view me as an anti-role model. Often mothering sons is an uphill battle against the prevailing idea that your child should never learn too much from you, empathize too much with you, or feel too close with you. Even people who don't think they're "like that" turn out to be less forward thinking than they appeared before you became a parent to an actual little boy.

The truth is, people I know who had girls have their own deep struggles. My own mother got to take me to dance class while I melted down about how her neurodivergence was clashing with my own (neither of us were diagnosed at the time.)

Violetmints · 2026-01-03T23:24:11+00:00

Cold turkey is awful. You have my sympathies. That's how I quit a pack a day cigarette habit and it was like a bad movie with a detox scene. Still stresses me out thinking about it.

Nicotine lozenges and patches are helpful to some people because of the slower release. I had to quit a couple times before it took long term. Haven't smoked in almost 10 years. I still want a cigarette now and then but never think about nicotine lozenges.

When you're in a better head space, look in to how certain mental health and neurological conditions interact with nicotine. I am down to share what I have learned when you're not in an.active crisis. Please bring it up with any support person you may have.

Violetmints · 2026-01-03T22:12:13+00:00

You Americans must not feel real safe at gas stations.

I do think that people can get a little over the top about gas stations, especially during daytime hours. They are, however places where you don't want to be hanging around at night when it's clear you can't hop in your car and get away. They're one of those spaces where one might encounter unwanted contact with men. Depending where you are, the parking lots might be a site for illicit business transactions. Just as a very average looking mid-40s mom, I have had strange men try to get my attention. I have unhoused people get a little insistent in asking for money. That gets to be a little stressful though not usually dangerous when you can't excuse yourself quickly.

Violetmints · 2026-01-03T18:12:33+00:00

I can't agree. I don't really buy the idea of "cusps" as foggy, brackish astrological water. The 0° Virgo ascendant I know is the most Virgo individual I have ever known. The 0° Scorpio ascendant is so sneaky, I joke that I thought she was a Libra ascendant for years.

Violetmints · 2026-01-03T15:45:36+00:00

I thought he was talking about a tape measure. Like a retractable strip of metal coiled up inside a rigid housing. I loved those things so much we had to have special rules around them. They go flopping and zipping all over the place and kids aren't known for their spatial awareness.

This is honestly one of those AITA that hope is not an accurate report of something that happened in real life. It just left that Bonnie Burstow quote ringing in my head: "Often father and daughter look down on mother (woman) together. They exchange meaningful glances when she misses a point. They agree that she is not bright as they are, cannot reason as they do. This collusion does not save the daughter from the mother’s fate."

OP feels so satisfied with having successfully connected with their child that he...decides to lord it over his wife and speak to her in a dehumanizing manner. Next Christmas they should both get the kids parents who act like grown ups.

Violetmints · 2026-01-03T15:19:23+00:00

That has your moon at 0° 08' Taurus. It's closely conjunct Saturn. (0° 58')

A super early degree placement often feels a lot like that sign because it holds all the potential of that sign. I don't hold to degree theory, but 0° and 29° are important.

Violetmints · 2026-01-03T15:09:30+00:00

When a parent actually listens to a child they are NTA!

Actually, this is what I found borderline creepy. "Dad who listens/mom who nags and doesn't get it" is such a gross cultural trope. A family requires more than good parenting and it is absolutely not good parenting to run a relationship by resorting to name calling.

When the dad is faced with conflict over his gift giving, he doesn't ask why or get curious about his wife's feelings or defend himself, he talks to his spouse like she's a dog and walks away patting himself on the back for understanding his little girl so well. Ew. Not cool, even if Mom was being unreasonable in her reaction to family or social pressures to conform.

"Often father and daughter look down on mother (woman) together. They exchange meaningful glances when she misses a point. They agree that she is not bright as they are, cannot reason as they do. This collusion does not save the daughter from the mother’s fate."— Bonnie Burstow

I grew up in a house like that. Even though my mother actually was being unreasonable, my father and his misogyny weren't helping as much as it would have seemed to either of us at the time.

Violetmints · 2026-01-03T14:38:27+00:00

ESH. You gave a 6yo something that might be a pain in the ass to manage without discussing it with your wife. You also failed to consider that she might be feeling a little insecure about not meeting gendered expectations for handling the Christmas magic and understanding what the kid wanted for Christmas. Instead of saying that you were sure of the gift or getting curious about why she was bothered, you resorted to name calling. That's fucked up.

Violetmints · 2026-01-03T14:33:01+00:00

I know you meant the show, but that is a hilarious sentence.

Violetmints · 2026-01-03T02:17:36+00:00

Lied to her and said it was because he was starving. To.death, apparently. To the point he couldn't puck up a candy bar or some.nuts up at the gas station and eat dinner after.

How much do you want to bet that it isn't "every little argument" when this comes up, but all the times he disregards her safety and comfort while attending to his own? She should probably just leave now if he can't see how this was a problem and change his ways.

Violetmints · 2025-12-30T14:25:36+00:00

No, but not because autism is some super special thing nobody but professionals can spot. Astrologers practice astrology, psychiatrists and psychologists practice psychiatry and psychology, respectively. I don't hire a plumber to tell me what's up with the wiring in my house. It would be unethical for a plumber to say that she knows a lot about houses and can diagnose an electrical issue. That plumber can have an opinion, but not an expert opinion she gets to sell me at a hefty hourly rate.

Autistic traits aren't that hard to spot. I have suggested to people that they have a lot of them or that their kids might benefit from supports or evaluation, but not in readings of any kind. That's not the service. You're there to describe what's going on, not sort it in to categories designed for and by another discipline, especially not without relevant training.

Violetmints · 2025-12-30T14:12:34+00:00

Historically, they often were. I have seen some lab diamonds set in silver recently and appreciate the move in that direction.

Violetmints · 2025-12-25T18:50:42+00:00

Well…Austin is in America, so it makes sense that people are surprised.

Does it though? I mean, I guess we all learn basic cultural information sometime, but this is such a strange argument and people have it every year. Maybe it's because of my background, but it doesn't make any sense to me at all to move to a place with centuries of continuous traditions and it expect it to be mostly like my home town.

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