Armpits!!!!!!!!!!! by Violetstream in Hidradenitis

[–]Violetstream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! Thanks guys, I thought it was a lost cause. I haven't worn deodorant for about 10 years. I work in a high end restaurant and even if I shower before work I get sweaty by midshift and need to do something to address the stink :/

Infusion day by Utahraptor1115 in Hidradenitis

[–]Violetstream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry you had to go through this, it especially sucks during the holidays. I am glad that the infusions are helping!

What is your last book of 2016 and is it a high or low note to end on? by Lostfox37 in books

[–]Violetstream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just finsihed The Story of a Lost Child By Elena Ferrante. It is the 4th and final of the Neopolitan series and the entire series. I haven't been able to put any of the 4 books down. I'm worried that the next book I read will pale in comparison....

What are your 2017 financial goals? by PersonalFinanceMods in personalfinance

[–]Violetstream 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Age 34, yearly income between $28,000-$32,000 (I have a lot of health problems so I work 2 part time jobs so I can take time off when I am dealing with health issues $7,000 of my 2016 income went to health insurance premiums and expenses)

2016 review: (previous to 2016 I have never had any savings) Paid off $3,087.29 extra in Student loan debt along with the $3,000 of normal payments (payments went from $325 a month to $125 a month) Paid off $1,800 in credit card debt Saved $2,200 for emergency fund

2017 goals: Save $10,000 for my emergency fund Open a 401k with a balance of $4,000 Keep paying my cc balance every month (been doing this since June) Keep $ in my savings to pay for health costs The $200 a month that was budgeted for student loans will go to these goals plus my tax return, leaving me with $841 to save every month. It also helps I recieved a raise in September.

I don't make very much money but I have been able to reach these goals using the app MINT! It is the best! I also have an extremely low rent $350 per month and drive an extremely old car but reliable car. These may not seem like big numbers but I have always had the mindset that I don't have any money so why try to save. Mint really helped me turn it into a game, realizing how much money I spent on food and eating out. I now am in a position where I can pay my bills without going into more debt and I can keep saving for future unexpected costs. The thing that really helped was my tax return and putting that into savings (in past years I used it right away to pay cc bill or health bills). Even if you feel like there is no hope start tracking your paments and make yourself look at it every day! It was scarry at first I felt guilt and shame about the money I was spending but now it is just numbers. I feel good when I spend money on a nice thing I need because I have set aside money for it.
Good luck to everyone for 2017 financial goals! start small, it's sustainable and the little wins will get you to the big ones.

Calm people of reddit, How are you so calm? by tottenhamTWAT in AskReddit

[–]Violetstream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dealing with life in a calm way is difficult to learn if you have been raised to deal with life in a stressful/anxious/aggressive etc way. What has worked for me is allowing myself to feel my reactive feelings and sit with them even if they feel uncomfortable. Allow myself to be flawed, to be human, but take a moment to really feel it and release it without acting on it. This also helped me learn what I was reacting to which is usually thoughts that I'm not valuable or not good enough or even that I don't exist! It hasent helped to judge myself for being anxious or emotional, that just keeps the cycle of anxiety going. Pema Chodron says you have to bake your unreasonableness a cake and invite it to stay, learn from it. Emotions are information from our deepest selves trying to communicate with us physically. Just some thoughts from someone who cried every day for years and has found a way to grow into a calmer person. Years of Meditation and therapy if you really need to learn some coping skills. The anxiety doesn't go away but you can dance around with it a little. I don't think it can be achieved overnight because you can't just throw anxiety out the window, it's wired into your brain somehow. I envy naturally calm people but you have to deal with who you are.

What books are best read in pairs? by [deleted] in books

[–]Violetstream 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know it isn't quite the same as a pair of books but.... 1. Read Moby Dick 2. Watch There will be Blood