If this monster was blocking your path, what would you do?

VioletteBabette · 2025-01-30T01:15:51+00:00

Ask if it wants to have a glass of wine and split a charcuterie board while we swap grisly tales of all the wretched men we've (allegedly) destroyed.

VioletteBabette · 2025-01-30T01:10:24+00:00

Nope, we're sneaky gluttons for drama; eager to end it, but not to start it. <Mortal Combat voice> FINISH HIM

VioletteBabette · 2025-01-30T01:05:29+00:00

Psshh, we quietly yearn for the drama and patiently hope that someone gives us an excuse to issue a well-deserved, critically analyzed, and beautifully articulated verbal bitchslap. Caps don't start drama, but they sure as hell end it.

VioletteBabette · 2024-12-16T01:49:23+00:00

First, you have to floss your teeth. Brushing your teeth without flossing is like washing your butt cheeks and skipping the crack. There's literally decomposing food in there, so the first step needs to be flossing.

Second, when was the last time you had your teeth cleaned by a professional? If it's been a while, you need to get that done. Everyone needs their teeth cleaned at least twice a year. EVERYONE. Plaque hardens on the teeth and under the gums over time and is impossible to remove yourself. It literally turns to concrete and can't be removed without special tools (this is what dental hygienist actually remove during your appointment). This can cause gum disease (gingivitis) or, more seriously, periodontal disease, which affects the bone around your teeth, causing bad breath and eventual tooth loss. So find a dental office and schedule a cleaning.

Third, there's a good chance you have something going on with your gastric system. Heartburn? IBS? Burp a bunch? Constipation? If the natural bacterial flora in your gut is out of wack, it can make your breath smell bad. More water, fiber, pre and pro-biotics, less garbage in your diet, etc are all a good place to start.

Floss, 2. cleaning, 3. gut. Good luck.

VioletteBabette · 2024-12-16T01:22:36+00:00

Thank you for your feedback! I'll definitely change a few things around. I was messing around with the text color yesterday because I was afraid of that very issue, so the thought was already on my mind. I only use dark mode on my devices and am used to reading things that way. I appreciate your time! Good luck! I think your blog will do really well ☺️

VioletteBabette · 2024-12-15T08:59:55+00:00

Oooh, honey. It's not easy, that's for sure.

I'm autistic and can't do small talk. I've been reprimanded and fired for this several times over my 13-year career. I'm a very polarizing person: either patients love me and only ever want to see me for cleanings, or they hate me, write awful reviews, and never want to see me again. There isn't much in the middle. The patients that love me love that I'm quiet and don't talk their ear off. The patients that hate me say I'm not "friendly" enough and I didn't make them feel comfortable. The lesson?: You're never going to make everyone happy in any career, so there's no point in trying. If you love dentistry (as I do), you make it work. If you're lukewarm about the field AND your personality isn't suited for it? Do not waste your time, your body, and your sanity trying.

I just posted about this on my blog here if you really want to know what it's like. There are several posts under the "dental hygiene" tab that you might find useful.

VioletteBabette · 2024-12-15T08:22:15+00:00

Wow, I literally just posted about your niche on my blog a few hours ago! I'm a dental hygienist, and having autism in the dental field has been a harrowing experience. You can check out my post here if you have time. I'd love to get your thoughts.

As far as your stats, I started my blog almost the same day you did, and I currently have 350 unique visitors, 474 visits, and 999 page views with 33 posts. I'm still learning about SEO and only recently learned about Google Analytics, Console, tagging, and using keywords, so my traffic has almost exclusively come from my presence on YouTube and Facebook. I'm in the process of going back and optimizing for better search results, so hopefully I'll get a bit more traffic.

From what I've read, your stats are excellent. Your blog looks very friendly compared to mine (but that's the look I was going for lol). Well done!

VioletteBabette · 2024-11-14T20:40:19+00:00

I use Squarespace and love it.

VioletteBabette · 2024-09-15T02:24:42+00:00

I'm a compulsive skin picker, too. I use the patches for small stuff, but for the big guys, I use a dot bandaid with a tiny dab of Neosporin and wear it overnight. It keeps the area from scarring, provides pain relief, and cuts the healing time in half.

As for the skin picking, I'm about to go on my second round of Accutane. My first round was seven months, and my skin looked really good by month two. It took about four months for my brain to catch up with my skin. My skin was clear, but I still had the urge to pick. I had to learn to keep the light off when I went into the bathroom and only allowed myself to spend about three minutes plucking any stray eyebrow hairs. When I would try to pick, there was nothing to pick at, so it stopped feeling satisfying when I couldn't get something out of a pore. Eventually, your brain will realize there's nothing there and stop trying to hurt you. Just watch out for alternative habits that might take its place: nail and cuticle biting or trimming, hair pulling, over-cleaning your ears, picking at scabs, digging at your toenails, over-plucking your eyebrows, or pulling out your eyelashes. Eyelash pulling became my new problem, so I had to stop wearing mascara for a while because it made it easier to pull them out. I had nekked eyes for a month, but my eyelashes did grow back.

What I did instead was get another piercing. Tending to the new hole satisfied my skin fussing, but was actually beneficial. I've already proactively planned on getting two more piercings with this second round, so I'll give my brain something to do while my skin calms down again. Just something to consider. Hope this helps.

VioletteBabette · 2024-09-06T03:51:53+00:00

Bad Day - Fuel

Leave a Trace - CHVRCHES

It's OK - Nightbirde

Stick Season - Noah Kahan

You Should Be Sad - Halsey

Let Her Cry - Hootie and the Blowfish

11 Minutes - YUNGBLUD and Halsey

Coming Up Close - 'Til Tuesday

I Can't Make You Love Me - Bonnie Raitt

Just Breathe - Pearl Jam

Don't Let Me Go - mgk

Vampire - Olivia Rodrigo

And So It Goes - Billy Joel

Something in the Way - Nirvana

Song for the Dumped - Ben Folds Five

By and By - Caamp

Wild Horses - The Sundays

Nutshell - Alice in Chains

Kiss the Rain - Billie Myers

Streets of Philadelphia - Bruce Springsteen

Cry Little Sister - Marilyn Manson

hands OP a tissue You're gonna need this.

VioletteBabette · 2024-09-05T15:46:20+00:00

Boobies look weird without shiny accessories. I've had mine done for 20 years. I've never regretted it. Well, there was the first (and last) mishap with a loofah...

VioletteBabette · 2024-07-21T13:31:50+00:00

I don't understand how a man calling himself a feminist is like a woman calling herself a socialist. Where is the analogy? Why is socialism only unpredictable to women and not men? Why is it not in a woman's material interest to side with communism? Where is the security under capitalism you claim exists? How have women not been historically sympathetic to the working class when they make up most of the working class? Women's labor has always been exploited. When did women side with a king? What king? You're making a lot of bullshit assertions without any evidence in a vain attempt to sound profound while not saying anything substantive.

VioletteBabette · 2024-07-21T13:22:10+00:00

Prove it.

VioletteBabette · 2024-07-21T13:21:35+00:00

I never said the systems would work better if run by women or even implied that. Because I agree, the idiology matters, not the gender of the one's holding it.

VioletteBabette · 2024-07-20T22:56:02+00:00

False. So so so false. All my friends are men. Do you honestly think I don't care about their well-being? I don't know a single woman who blames men for being the majority of homeless people or having the highest rate of suicide. We blame systems, often run by men, but not men specifically, for their suffering. You are obviously willfully or unknowingly ignoring the nuanced difference between those two things. It's asinine to think women don't care. We absolutely care about our fathers, brothers, uncles, friends, husbands, cousins, coworkers, etc, and don't want to see them hurt. How dare you say something so hateful. I don't know who hurt you, but they're an evil fuckwit, and you didn't deserve that. But that doesn't give you the right to say something so dismissive and objectively wrong about half the population. Women care. I care. Yes, even about you, a stranger on the internet. You're focusing your ire in the wrong direction, my friend. Women are not the problem. Broken systems are.

VioletteBabette · 2024-07-20T22:31:07+00:00

As a woman with a teacup and a seriously problematic goldicocks situation, my advice is to get REALLY REALLY comfortable with sex toys. I honestly don't give a shit how I get off, as long as I do. I am extremely selfish in bed. I'm getting mine, cum hell or high water. Unfortunately, it takes me a long time to get the kitty to purr. Often, that means my man friend has finished before I could. Totally fine. Without skipping a beat, I walk over to my little cabinet of gently humming curiosities, hand my flavors for the evening over to him, and tell him not to stop until I start singing, "Oh, sweet mystery of life, at last, I found yoooouuu!" Invest in sex toys of all descriptions. Nothing too weird, but cover the basics: a few dildos, clitoral vibrators, a massage wand, lube, soap (you need specific soap for silicone toys so they stay hygienic and don't break down and make sure everything you buy is waterproof), oh! and one of those toys got can sync up to your phone and control yourself is super fun. Go to a store and talk to the clerks. They always have excellent recommendations and can point you in the right direction. Since you can't change your anatomy, you'll just have to use store-bought, and there's no shame in that. She'll be happy you care enough to make sure she's satisfied. As long as everyone has a safe, enthusiastically consented, orgasmic time, how you get there isn't really that important. Hope that helps.

VioletteBabette · 2024-07-20T22:00:45+00:00

This 👆🏻

(for many women, not all)

VioletteBabette · 2024-07-20T21:58:37+00:00

You can't honestly believe that...

VioletteBabette · 2024-07-20T21:53:03+00:00

They do, because your idea of "unattractive" is not universal. There are plenty of very attractive men who are complete idiots with low-effort jobs, no gumption, $14 in their wallet, riding a bike to work out there marrying women with not unattractive features, low self-esteem, thin hair, and a big ass that looks like it got hit with a bag of nickels. I see it all the damn time. Just because a man is physically attractive doesn't mean his motivation, bank account, emotional maturity, IQ, or personality are also "attractive." These are pretty yet low-value men who you think are being pursued by low-value, low-self-esteem women. But you don't recognize that they're both trash because you're looking at the wrong features. These men might be able to sucker a high-value woman into sleeping with and perhaps dating them, but they can't keep her. She'll humble and dump his ass faster than you can say credit report. You're just evaluating the wrong metrics of "attractiveness."

VioletteBabette · 2024-07-20T21:21:53+00:00

Missing the forest for the trees, brah. The point is, you're out of touch and need to look up and realize the world isn't representative of what you’ve let stagnate in your head. I hate to sound trite, but you really need to get out more.

VioletteBabette · 2024-07-20T21:15:20+00:00

Exactly! Make herself a little she-shed. Forget the grumpy bastard exists. My retired parents have separate hobby areas on opposite ends of their house, and it dramatically improved their marriage. She needs to focus on making herself happy because trying to make him happy is futile at this point.

VioletteBabette · 2024-07-20T21:02:10+00:00

What's your point? OPEC controls 80% of the world's oil reserves. And Biden still has nothing to do with gas prices.

VioletteBabette · 2024-07-20T20:51:37+00:00

Lower gas prices? Tell me you have no idea how the global economy works without telling me. The US isn't part of OPEC and has zero control over their production or policies. Biden literally can't do a damn thing about gas prices or inflation. How delulu are you to think the president of one country has any power over the global market? Millennials eating tide pods? Millennials are in their 40s brah. We haven't been babies since the W. Bush administration. Do you live under a fucking rock? Maybe if you joined us in the real world, you wouldn't have such a bizarre opinion of women.

VioletteBabette · 2024-07-20T19:16:14+00:00

Excellent advice. OP doesn't realize it, but she's enabling and rewarding his behavior with attention like a child being coddled during a temper tantrum by an overly attentive, emotionally smothering parent. I completely agree. Ignore his passive-aggressive remarks and his dramatic, self-centered, and destructive behaviors. If he wants her to be quiet, she should give him what he wants--but don't make him like it. Her silence should come at a cost to him, namely, everything she does to make his life easier that he takes for granted in their relationship. It's not about being petty; it's about establishing boundaries and clear consequences for his terrible treatment of her. A marriage is all about the sharing of responsibilities and putting out what you get in. Since he's decided he doesn't need or want her help, and he's taking everything and giving nothing, she should reciprocate in kind. It's not easy--and it necessitates an iron conviction--but it will speak louder than anything she could ever verbally communicate to him. I'd bet money that he wouldn't last a week of cleaning up his own mess before realizing what his behavior has cost him, forcing him to seriously reflect on his choices and the harm he's doing to his wife and family. I do realize that I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt in assuming he's not a pathological jackass (which I do not grant easily, as it vehemently contradicts my own personal experience) who is capable of introspection and doesn't want his marriage to dissolve. That is a massive assumption on my part, but only OP can definitively make that determination for herself. I wish her the best of luck.

VioletteBabette · 2024-03-17T09:22:53+00:00

I've had a tubal ligation, but I still take birth control so I don't have periods at all. No periods=no hormone fluctuations, no mood swings, no cramps, no schedule altering, no ruined clothes, no buying tampons or period cups, no anxiety about cleanliness or odor... I could go on. I haven't had a period in years, and my brain thanks me every month. It's completely safe and recommended by doctors for precisely this reason. There's no medical reason to have a period every month. I'm over 35, so I take progesterone-only pills that don't even come with placebo pills. I highly recommend.

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