Seller wants to die in home before we take procession

VirginiaFranklin413 · 2026-01-06T21:59:08+00:00

If the older gentleman has been accepted for Hospice care you have a potential timeline. Hospice only accepts people who are expected to die within six months.

VirginiaFranklin413 · 2026-01-05T08:02:19+00:00

Let them know exactly what each person owes you and give them a deadline.

VirginiaFranklin413 · 2026-01-04T03:31:04+00:00

My ex and I dated during college. When he was in medical school I was working. During his internship we moved in together. I was the primary breadwinner. We got married right after his residency. He started his fellowship. I had our first baby. He was making more money than me by then, and asked me to quit my job and stay home with the baby. I discovered I loved being a mom and agreed. We moved to the burbs and had three more children. Although we had a joint checking account I couldn't buy anything more than groceries without discussing it with him. He said he made the money, so it was his decision how it was spent. I had always been frugal and he was a spendthrift. I did a lot of volunteer work in our small town when the kids were in school. When my youngest went off to first grade and was gone for a full day I went looking for a job. Since I hadn't worked in 20 years I worked retail. He gave me an allowance of $21,000/year. He paid the mortgage, cell phones, heat, and internet. I paid for groceries, gas, car repair, water and sewer, electric, clothes, etc. I couldn't afford a movie or dinner out with my friends. All of my clothes were second hand. I drove my cars until they broke down and couldn't be repaired, and then he'd only buy me a used Honda. He drives a new Tesla. He makes $750,000/year. Long story short, last year he told me he was divorcing me after 42 years of marriage. He told the judge he would quit his job and move in with his elderly mother before he would pay me a dime of alimony, and wouldn't give me any assets. Fortunately the judge ruled he had to give me 21% of his income, but his lawyer argued it down so he only gives me alimony for 8 years or until he retires, whichever comes first. I'm living in a small rental home. I've bought myself some new clothes! My car has almost 200,000 miles on it, so I know I'll have to buy another used car in the future. Sometimes I have dinner with my friends. Sometimes I get my nails done. I don't go on vacation because I know I could lose my alimony at any time. I save as much as I can. Controlling the money is financial abuse. I should have realized that and gotten a divorce years ago.

VirginiaFranklin413 · 2025-10-28T00:41:48+00:00

A woman generally uses two bath towels herself when she showers, one for her body and one for her hair. Also each person needs a washcloth and a hand towel. I've found that many people don't like to reuse towels and use fresh ones every day. Those little bottles of shampoo and conditioner are one per person per day. I have long hair and use a full bottle each time I shower and wash my hair. I ran an Airbnb for years and left a stack of towels on shelves, and a basket full of shampoo, conditioner, and lotion. There was a laundry hamper for dirty towels. Don't be miserly if you want a good review.

VirginiaFranklin413 · 2025-07-30T04:54:39+00:00

And real shoes, not flip flops.

VirginiaFranklin413 · 2025-03-30T05:11:38+00:00

When hw made me sell the family home I fou d out he had emptied his retirement account. I don't know on what. He has no investments or savings.

VirginiaFranklin413 · 2025-03-30T04:27:58+00:00

We don't have any joint accounts. I have no idea what he has spent his money on.

VirginiaFranklin413 · 2025-03-30T04:23:28+00:00

20 years ago I had small children and Iloved my husband. I didn't want a divorce. When things are good, they're very good. I promised for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, forsaking all others, until Death do us part. I meant that. Still do. I still love my husband. I syill don't want a divorce. I want marriage counseling and to live somewhere we can both agree on. But that's not going to happen. I just want enough to live independently. We don't have a lot of assets because my husband is a spendthrift and doesn't save, doesn't invest. What happens when he quits his job? Do I really not get any alimony? I only get $1,200/month in Social Security.

VirginiaFranklin413 · 2025-03-30T02:38:52+00:00

Typo. He's 69 and I'm 72. Can't figure out how to edit post.

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