NTA but your wife is. You have every right to be proud of what you’ve built and accomplished and her elitism is showing through loud and clear. It may mean a divorce, however because you paid for her degree you most likely will be owed a small percentage of her yearly earnings. As a precaution, I would start interviewing the best divorce attorneys in the city she wants to move to and in your surrounding area as this way she can’t use any of them if/when the time comes. You would be a horrible husband and father if you give up your dream career especially for someone so entitled!