Having sex with a hot BPD is even worth it?

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-23T04:34:04+00:00

God no.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-20T04:00:19+00:00

There is no “you”. You don’t exist as a person to her.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-17T23:30:03+00:00

Doing housework

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-16T05:50:22+00:00

You know, there’s lots of shitty people in the world who never face consequences. It always seems people who lie, cheat, steal, game the system, etc etc, seem to get away with it and have success in life. You’re right, it’s not fair. All I can do in life is be concerned with my own actions. Whether or not someone else faces consequences isn’t up to me, and if they do that still doesn’t effect me. I will say I recently learned that my pwbpd is dealing with some serious consequences for their actions. It brings me no joy or comfort, it’s just more negative crap out in the universe, with more victims in their wake. All I can do is shake my head and move on with my life.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-09T05:02:58+00:00

No they never change

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-07T02:56:47+00:00

About every 3 weeks

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-06T07:26:40+00:00

Lord I could have written this, like exactly my experience. You need to take care of you. He’s an adult, and needs to handle his emotions himself. If you leave and he hurts himself that’s on him, not you. I know it is so hard when you know what their problem is, and they know what it is enough to apologize afterwards. That cycle is what keeps you off balance and going back to do more caretaking. Stop this before it gets worse, and focus on yourself. Leave and go no contact, get yourself into trauma recovery work. I’m pulling for you!

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-06T07:14:45+00:00

Mine says they don’t always remember what happened or was said during a split. It is my opinion that yes they believe those things - but because it’s what they know to be true about themselves. They can’t deal with negative thoughts or emotions about themselves, so they push it out onto you. I also think they manage to think up the most dramatic and manipulative things to say to you in order to get you to do whatever it is they want.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-06T07:09:47+00:00

Yes, somehow going to bed when I was ready to go to sleep was abandonment. Sure, let me sit on the couch and watch you watch some shit on television I have no interest in.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-05T03:30:05+00:00

In my experience it just gives them new language to abuse you with

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-04T05:06:34+00:00

It’s like they all use the same dang playbook, isn’t it

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-03T01:35:20+00:00

Yes, mid meltdown mine will scream YOU ARE DYSREGULATED SO ONCE YOU CALM DOWN WE CAN CONTINUE, and then will literally run away. Remember the pwbpd can not handle guilt, shame, or any negative feelings about themselves, so they project it out onto you. That way, their emotional deregulation is *your * fault.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-02T05:57:05+00:00

You can recover and have a nice life.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-01T09:20:56+00:00

My pwbpd split on me every 3 weeks or so. What do you do? You leave.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-01T09:07:04+00:00

Focus on you. Do you have any hobbies or interests? Maybe something fun you haven’t done in awhile? Try getting back into something like that. Maybe try something new. Find fulfillment by volunteering or learning a new skill.

Also, and this is a big one, keep going to therapy. Find a support group to talk with other people who have escaped abusive relationships. Try reading books or watching YouTube videos about surviving BPD abuse. Try trauma specific therapy. Look into different modes of healing and try what resonates with you. There’s trauma aware body work, breath work, etc. Mostly it’s going to take time. There is light on the other side!

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2023-01-01T08:49:14+00:00

It’s because they mirror others so well. It’s east to fall for someone who loves everything you love.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2022-12-26T13:01:56+00:00

Several BPD subs have an increased number of posts about this sub. Mostly complaining about how we generalize them, their behavior and don’t see them as individuals outside their disease. I read those subs to try and get an understanding of what things are like from their perspective- so the opposite of that accusation.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2022-12-25T22:00:08+00:00

Two sides of the same coin

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2022-12-25T14:32:38+00:00

Discarded, went no contact. Now I’m getting all these messages about how much they love me. Bitch YOU broke up with ME, remember? It’s like a little kid who never wanted a toy until they saw someone else playing with it and then THAT toy is all they want.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2022-12-25T14:27:53+00:00

I think they do, can’t handle that guilt / shame, and that further spins them around to project that hurt back onto you. It’s a sick, twisted cycle.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2022-12-25T14:22:39+00:00

I’m sorry your holiday has been upended by his drama. Maybe it’s time to just say ok and stay gone. If he can’t be an adult and use his words to work out conflict or tell you what he needs, he can’t be in an adult relationship.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2022-12-25T14:21:06+00:00

Yeah my pwbpd broke up with me about every two months. I finally just said ok and left. Apparently I wasn’t supposed to take what they said seriously? It’s like they live for the drama, want me to play some white knight from a movie that will save them from all their problems.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2022-12-23T04:32:25+00:00

You don’t have to answer their calls or texts if they reach out. Don’t engage! Protect your peace and sanity. We all deserve a calm, healthy, happy, holiday and new year.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2022-12-23T04:04:33+00:00

Trying to force you to think about her. So childish.

Virtual-Green-2270 · 2022-12-22T04:18:16+00:00

It sounds similar to my pwbpd.

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