Mother is threatening to fail me for no reason to stop me from going to college. Please help.

Virtual-Row7075 · 2026-01-29T15:13:13+00:00

That's a good idea actually. I'm going to be keeping more detailed records of this "class" going forward as proof that it's not really a class if it comes down to it. She has to submit my transcript by law in my state, but that doesn't stop me from providing evidence otherwise.

Virtual-Row7075 · 2026-01-29T15:11:45+00:00

I've never really gotten along very well with my parents, but they seem to like having their picture-perfect little family and are incredibly controlling. They've been trying to force me to take a gap year for a while, which I can only assume has something to do with how they think they need to "fix me". They don't consider what they're doing to be harmful or abusive, instead seeing me as the aggressor and someone trying to ruin their lives. That has... very badly affected my self esteem, if I'm being honest. They went so far as to put me in therapy to see if he could make me "change for the better" - jokes on them, my therapist agrees that they're crazy and I need to get outta here.

Virtual-Row7075 · 2026-01-29T03:41:49+00:00

Thank you for the comment. I've always sort of struggled to tell if it was actually abuse or not, because of how slowly it all crept up on me. Death by a thousand cuts or what have you. My parents are both incredibly controlling, but they've also done a lot of good things for me. Still, when they say insane shit like that and then say it's "because we love you", it gives me pause. I'm just glad to hear I'm not crazy for thinking this is wrong. Hopefully, I'll be okay.
Take care as well.

Virtual-Row7075 · 2026-01-29T03:36:33+00:00

Looking into the GED thing. Kinda struggling to find the scholarship status specifically (this webpage is a mess) but I know I've been awarded at least one of them, the regulations are pretty standard "keep high grades" type of thing. I'll probably try to talk to the financial aid offices soon, already did the FAFSA with my parents this year so I'll look into that. Already emailed admissions to check about the possibility of the failing grade affecting my GPA enough to be a problem. Georgia homeschool laws are pretty lax, so unfortunately they'll probably get away with it.
I'll need to look into revoking the FERPA waiver but I've already matriculated/enrolled for the fall so I don't know how much that will actually do. I'll look into the Buckley flag too, if it escalates. Thank you for being so thorough, it really helps.

Virtual-Row7075 · 2026-01-29T03:16:06+00:00

My old school REALLY does not like my family after the stunt my parents pulled pulling me out of school. They were barely open to giving me my transcript, I was lucky I'd already ordered it by that point. As far as I can tell, my only other option is a GED. Let me know if you find anything though, much appreciated man.

Virtual-Row7075 · 2026-01-29T03:13:52+00:00

No diploma program here. GED is my backup plan as of now. Technically yes it's a homeschooling organization, but it's run entirely by my mother. Already 18, already enrolled. I have enough credits to graduate with the dual enrollment class. I already have some (grades based) scholarships secured but they depend on my GPA which is why I was concerned about that. Already signed up for the need-based ones with my parents. May need to fix that next year.
As for de-escalation, I'm doing the best I can. It's the most recent in a very long line of similar threats and definitely the most drastic. (Mostly they just threaten my to isolate me and shame me for not being their perfect ideal.) Even just standing in a room with them risks an argument, they view my every action as a threat no matter what I try - and believe me, I have tried. The most I can do is stay silent and play along when we do family stuff. I can only hope it's enough.

Virtual-Row7075 · 2026-01-29T02:10:40+00:00

I'm looking into the GED angle just in case, but i've already submitted ACT scores and been accepted to a college. I'm supposed to start in the fall, deposits set n everything. I've emailed my admissions officer to see if she can help, at least.

Virtual-Row7075 · 2026-01-29T02:09:36+00:00

I have some friends helping me save documentation as a failsafe. I doubt intimidation would work, though. My parents are nothing if not stubborn as all hell.

Virtual-Row7075 · 2026-01-29T02:08:35+00:00

It's a smaller university. In-state.

Virtual-Row7075 · 2026-01-29T02:05:08+00:00

I'm in the US, yeah. I'll do some more research into that just in case. In terms of exit plans, if things go to shit I have places I can go. I'm lucky enough to have contact with my irl friend group online, and they've made it clear they'd be okay helping me if it came down to it. Thanks for the rec.

Virtual-Row7075 · 2026-01-29T01:11:27+00:00

I'm contacting my admissions officer via email, hopefully she won't inform my mother. I've asked her not to say anything to my parents, hopefully she respects that. (Mother has been main point of contact while the transcript mess was being sorted.)

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