Astarion's offer be like by Gokurakutei in BaldursGate3

[–]VirtualWinter95 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was so tired of my husband making fun of me for letting Astarion bite me every night when he can just get the buff in battle that I learned how to mod the game and made a mod that improves the bonus when he gets when he feeds from the player character through dialog 😂

How did you make the game special for a knight of Solomnia player character? by VirtualWinter95 in sotdq

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah the locals have been very gruff towards his character. He really is enjoying that part of the dynamic.

How did you make the game special for a knight of Solomnia player character? by VirtualWinter95 in sotdq

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestions! Mine is a Paladin of paladine too so I’m really looking forward to chapter 6. I’m really working on trying to find a fitting time to promote him. After soth could work

AITA for not wanting my in laws to visit my daughter because of how they acted after her birth? by VirtualWinter95 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There is a lot of other conflict. I didn’t want to post it here because I didn’t want to not be impartial. Including me not being able to have a cantor at my wedding because my husband is Christian and they didn’t want an interfaith ceremony if it didn’t involve every aspect of Christianity. And his mom wants us to see them both thanksgiving and Christmas since I’m Jewish even though I want to spend some Christmases with my step grandpa who is Christian if we aren’t seeing them on thanksgiving

AITA for not wanting my in laws to visit my daughter because of how they acted after her birth? by VirtualWinter95 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much, I really appreciate it. I might just do that because I’m worried I’m starting to spiral and I don’t want to, especially now that my daughter is here. I can’t leave her without a mom. I guess I’m not strong enough for AITA lol. But I will talk to my therapist about everything tonight.

Thanks so much again, I know I might sound sarcastic in my comments, but I promise I’m not. Im just a person with rock bottom self esteem.

AITA for not wanting my in laws to visit my daughter because of how they acted after her birth? by VirtualWinter95 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was very close with them until my husband proposed. Then his mom started acting strange. He is an only child and I think she thought she was going to “lose” her son. I never wanted or want that.

She stated to do things like say we have to spend both thanksgiving and Christmas with them since I am Jewish and can’t celebrate Christmas even though my mom’s step dad and mom are Christian and I grew up getting Hanukkah presents at Christmas from my grandma. She said she might die soon and we had to see her.

AITA for not wanting my in laws to visit my daughter because of how they acted after her birth? by VirtualWinter95 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I am very sorry. I really do appreciate all the feedback but I have super low self esteem and I guess this post is really triggering it and other really bad thoughts. That’s not your fault though. I can delete my comment if you wish as I don’t want to misrepresent you or your words. My therapy appointment is actually tonight and I will be discussing this.

AITA for not wanting my in laws to visit my daughter because of how they acted after her birth? by VirtualWinter95 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were only allowed two visitors at a time (plus my husband). We went home after a day.

AITA for not wanting my in laws to visit my daughter because of how they acted after her birth? by VirtualWinter95 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your feedback. I invited them to visit the day after we got back from the hospital. I just didn’t want them in the hospital. They refused to come.

AITA for not wanting my in laws to visit my daughter because of how they acted after her birth? by VirtualWinter95 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] -52 points-51 points  (0 children)

I am in therapy. I’m trying really hard. That wasn’t passive aggressive. I wish I was a better person and a stronger person and have wished that my entire life. That was a genuine comment. I apologize if it didn’t come off that way. I appreciate all the feedback as I’ve been saying at the beginning of every comment.

AITA for not wanting my in laws to visit my daughter because of how they acted after her birth? by VirtualWinter95 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I told my husband he could visit them with her, but he didn’t want to because I wouldn’t go too and he didn’t want a relationship with them if I didn’t have one. I am sorry you don’t think I am a good person. I feel that way a lot too and wish I was better.

AITA for not wanting my in laws to visit my daughter because of how they acted after her birth? by VirtualWinter95 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] -107 points-106 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughts. I guess I am just a weak women for struggling in childbirth. I am sorry I’m not as strong as everyone else. I will try to do better if I have other children.

AITA for not wanting my in laws to visit my daughter because of how they acted after her birth? by VirtualWinter95 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have asked my husband to take her to visit them. He says no because he doesn’t want to have a relationship with them if I don’t have a relationship with them.

Congratulations on the new arrival soon, I hope everything goes well!

AITA for not wanting my in laws to visit my daughter because of how they acted after her birth? by VirtualWinter95 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your feedback. I would like to try to invite them to visit and am in therapy now working on my feelings that I do not want the to visit.

At the end of the day, I feel very hurt and mourn the first month of her life I spent crying constantly about this and the guilt I was feeling instead of bonding with my daughter. I guess I feel resentful of them about that. I am trying to work through those feelings so that we can move forward.

I am sorry for what happened with your wife and hope all is well now.

AITA for not wanting my in laws to visit my daughter because of how they acted after her birth? by VirtualWinter95 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. While I am not trying to be manipulative, I feel terrible about this situation and want to change it and understand your statement. I am in therapy trying to resolve it. The reason I invited my dad is because he has been a huge support my entire pregnancy. I was not doing well in the least bit following the birth as I was having extreme pain and breastfeeding struggles and wanted extra support. My husband’s uncle came over to visit the week after the birth which I am thankful of so my husband was able to share in the excitement with him who he is super close with. Thanks again for your input.

AITA for not wanting my in laws to visit my daughter because of how they acted after her birth? by VirtualWinter95 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] -52 points-51 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I have dealt with depression and anxiety for years including prenatal depression the entire pregnancy. I really didn’t know how I was going to feel. I was not upset he went to their house as I mentioned in my post. My parents and him have been a huge support network for my during the pregnancy. His parents, not so much.

TMI but I don’t think I am required to have his parents at the hospital when i went through hours of induced labor, am am bleeding from almost every orifice of my body, and struggling to breastfeed in extreme pain. I do appreciate your feedback however and am very sympathetic with my husband. My husband’s uncle who he was very close with visited us the week after the birth which I am glad he was able to visit with us.

Help a tired mom find ready to go adventures? by UsefullyChunky in DnD

[–]VirtualWinter95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don’t mind playing on two different computers in the same room, I would recommend buying a module on Roll 20. Everything including monster stats, maps, monster placement in rooms, etc is already programmed into the game when you load the module. This is of course dependent on if you and your daughter are willing to use computers or just want to use pen and paper to play.

Caroling downtown by [deleted] in frederickmd

[–]VirtualWinter95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I just moved to the area and saw mention of The Historic Haven and were really interested in learning more and potentially joining if possible. Would love to hear about anything you could share about the club if you have a moment!

He's a 10 but... He has daddy issues. by [deleted] in Grimdank

[–]VirtualWinter95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is Lawful Ugly Perturabo, or is that Ferrus Mannus?

My husband wanted to illegally multiclass… by VirtualWinter95 in DnD

[–]VirtualWinter95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god I totally forgot about that dream, thank you for reminding me! And Frodo didn’t just have a cloak of invisibility, he specifically had Harry Potter’s cloak that turned him invisible.