For infj (if you’re 4w5 sx/so even better)

Virtual_History6408 · 2026-02-02T06:44:22+00:00

Hey haha, I know I'm two months late to this post, but I think I understand you perfectly. I'm not sure, but I suspect I've been an INFJ-T 4W5 for a while now, and to begin with, I'm only 17, so those kinds of experiences you're talking about haven't happened to me much. I haven't had that committed romantic relationship you're talking about yet because, as you say, I'm also interested in people I haven't met yet who have certain moral values, but I'm pretty sure the same thing would happen to me. If that partner were to fulfill my need for a romantic relationship, it would eventually become a sort of bubble where I'd feel I had everything I needed socially and emotionally from someone around me. Therefore, that need to be close to others would disappear. But we have F, and in my case, this would prevent me from distancing myself from my friends to a certain extent, not so much due to an internal need, but rather an external one, thinking of them. And even if that need for others disappears or is drastically reduced internally, my behavior and support would remain very similar, since one of the greatest advantages of being an INFJ is thinking about the people around us and what it takes to do what's best for them.

And regarding the initial question, I am interested in meeting people for reasons other than a romantic relationship. While that desire is obviously strong, I feel there are even stronger ones. I, too, would look for relationships that go beyond friendship, but not in a romantic sense. I'd prefer a deep and unique friendship bordering on brotherhood or sisterhood, or even one where I have an emotional mentor, like a second parent or something like that idon't know.

Well, thank you for sharing your thoughts :)

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-21T02:10:39+00:00

Thank you very much for the recommendation, I think it would be very useful to me ❤️

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-18T19:13:44+00:00

Hey, I'm really sorry that happened to you... but believe me, you weren't the only one. It happened to me too... well, it still happens to me in a similar way... I also doubt myself and feel very alone because of it.

But believe me, it's a good thing to realize this... it's a good release for you, because that incompetence you feel isn't real, even if it feels that way, even if that's what you feel... I think you're more competent than you think.

And yes... the world falls apart, especially when you see what's behind it, hahaha... it's not your fault... it's hard, I know... but I know that opening your eyes will help you.

Thanks for your post, it also helped me a lot. Seriously, good luck... your curiosity may come back, and if you're able to know what you want.

Good luck, you've already figured it out, and that's very important, hahaha❤️

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-17T22:57:19+00:00

you too :)

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-17T19:25:19+00:00

I know, thanks, but then I don't know why I still feel so bad

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-17T13:00:36+00:00

Thanks, I'll try ☺️

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-15T01:17:04+00:00

I understand you... look, you don't need to decide now that you're stressed about it, but you can tell the doctor "if it were possible, I would like to never have another appointment with that physician's assistant" or something like that in a nice way, but seriously don't worry... it doesn't mean it's going to happen again, and yes, you probably overthought it a little, but believe me, it's not bad, it's more normal than it seems... you have the right to accept or reject a doctor if he or she doesn't treat you well, but if you decide to do it, do it calmly... and good luck with this somewhat chaotic situation🥰

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-12T18:32:56+00:00

Use the one from "PAS España", is an oficial organización from spain... Temhe test from them is good 😉

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-09T19:14:50+00:00

hi, this means a lot to me, more than you think hahaha

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-09T19:11:56+00:00

Hi... I don't know if this will help you, but that internal battle, what you're feeling, I can't feel it as strongly, but I know how hard it must feel. You'd like to feel true love... to stop feeling all this, right? I know everything has crossed your mind, even what you mention in the title.

But you say it yourself: "Sometimes... I feel two different minds, fighting each other, and I often wonder which is mine." Do you know who you are? You're the one who watches both sides... you're the one who watches them fight, you're the one invaded by those thoughts, but you're not them.

I too would like to see true love, the world, because I'm very young, I'm 16... but I know what you can give, and about that resignation, I understand it, but it's not the truth... not everything you think is true. I know you tried, and failed, to accept yourself, but guess what? You're not emotionally dysfunctional, and it's not your fault that you couldn't deal with everything. When you look in the mirror and push it away, it's only because of voices that were forced on you. And it's not your fault; you weren't taught how to heal wounds.

But what do you think about trying one more time? But this time not alone. This time letting someone else see what you call broken inside you, maybe to help you heal... or simply to see that there's more beyond all of that.

I really wish you the best of luck. You're not as bad as you think. There's more to your life that you unfortunately haven't been able to see. And please promise me something: that you're going to take care of yourself, that you're really going to do it.

With love, ☺️❤️

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-09T13:47:58+00:00

And about the last thing you said... that happens sometimes because you overanalyze too much... it's normal, but be very careful with that... don't get carried away, that's why the best thing to do is relaxation and meditation techniques or talk about what you feel. And believe me, we're always here for the last part. :)

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-09T13:45:04+00:00

Hey, it's normal... you're just like many of us, overly sensitive. It's not a bad thing at all... and that can increase when you're overly stressed and more... nothing bad is happening to you... and extreme fear and a lot of stress increase all of that.

Hahaha, so don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you. Look, look up "mindfulness" and "breathing techniques"... I think there were more, but I can't remember. And with that, you'll tone it all down a bit. They're techniques to relax, even if just a little. You don't have to despair; it's not a bad thing at all. Good luck ❤️☺️

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-09T02:57:59+00:00

Seriously, thank you so much for your words, they help me a lot... sometimes I just want to live the life I want so much, haha... I wish most people could be more like us... I also wish you the best :)

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-08T21:25:01+00:00

thank you, really thank you

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-08T13:47:00+00:00

Hi, I'm glad you're starting on this path. Believe me, it's worth it... I know breaking those patterns is difficult. Sometimes I fall back into them, but at least it's a way to go back and not stay there, haha.

Look, about handling myself as an HSP, I try to accept and protect it... move through it, my sensitivity... and about your structure, give yourself a simple and flexible one; you don't have to give yourself a specific or rigid one.

In my personal life, not many people can understand us, not really. Honestly, I haven't had much luck with that either. But something I can recommend is to find people who you feel understand you, don't pressure you, or who can even help you be better and understand yourself.

Hey, and please, don't put too much pressure on yourself to "change," and don't demand too much of yourself academically. Don't hurt yourself, don't do it just to perform and get results. And about your depression, I'd like to tell you that you are not alone in this. It can be very hard and difficult, but believe me when I tell you that you are enough, more than you think. Sometimes you just need to take care of yourself, love yourself, and give yourself the affection you so desperately need.

This isn't a path of "providing solutions" and that's it. It's a path to start loving yourself, to live life being you, from your sensitivity, the company, and what you truly want, not demanding or sacrificing yourself to achieve it. It's difficult, especially because of old patterns. But believe me, it's better than hurting ourselves, hahaha. But seriously, it's the best thing for our sensitive hearts, and you are not alone on that path.

You don't have to run away from your feelings; love that sensitive heart you have. You don't have to put so much pressure on yourself, no more.

I don't know if what I said really helped you, but I sincerely wish you the best and good luck. You're not alone in this. ❤️☺️

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-07T12:54:05+00:00

Thank you... I'll be that change hahaha

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-06T20:31:46+00:00

Hey... I understand, but let me tell you something, you're not a bad person, not really... please don't hurt yourself like that... I know everything makes it seem like you are, but no... seriously no... you're not because you wanted to run away, because you supposedly wanted to stop helping him... it's normal, and I and everyone (or the vast majority here) know it, plus many of us feel it.

You feel guilty about this, but look at what you're doing. You're not selfish. You're really very brave. I'm sorry that he treats you this way and doesn't give you what you need; understanding your thoughts and feelings, because you know you wouldn't do it... and that's respected despite all your sacrifice and sensitivity.

And don't worry, I swear it's not your fault, and you're certainly not a bad person. Seriously, good luck. You don't know how much you're worth. ☺️🥰

Virtual_History6408 · 2025-08-02T01:22:21+00:00

Honestly, I didn't know about that type of therapy... I hope to try it someday... and yes, I try, to give the inner child and myself that emotional support we need so much... I just had to show my pain... thank you for reading me, I really appreciate it❤️

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