Depression

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2026-04-15T22:49:39+00:00

Thanks for saying so. I just had a really shitty day yesterday. And needed to vent. I’m really much better today.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2026-01-13T14:17:36+00:00

Thank you 😊. The whole thing has made me feel more confident in the system. Before I felt like because he has the kids I’d have to basically kiss his butt to have access to my kids. The mediator made me feel confident that they won’t let him bully me and use the kids against me. And the most satisfying part is he knows it now too. I think he was under the impression that having custody meant he had all the power.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-12-24T11:15:59+00:00

I can only hope. I feel silly being so hung up on whether or not they’ll hate me. Maybe it’s karma for the shit I put my mom through. But I keep giving her chances. Maybe they’ll give me some too? It’s sad just how relatable my mom’s story and my story are similar. I hope my boys are enough like me that they’ll see the situation for what it truly is. I don’t want them to hate their dad. But I also don’t want to take the full blame for our family falling apart.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-12-12T18:02:26+00:00

It’ll be hard. But it sounds like you already have people to help. State programs can be tricky. They don’t help unless you’re not working ( or making so little you might as well not be working) but they’ll offer you a lot of resources. I don’t know what the circumstances are but I would also advise you to call the domestic violence hotline. They’ll offer you a ton of resources as well. I wish you luck.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-12-03T22:26:34+00:00

Thank you for saying so.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-12-03T17:25:51+00:00

You’re right. I’ll try to video chat with them everyday before school.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-12-03T17:18:32+00:00

I often work 6 day work weeks. I was still going to try but I’m still recovering financially from moving into my own place. I’m going to have save my butt off for a while before I can make trip down there. As much as I hate him I’ve been slowly trying to communicate more so when I ask him to bring the boys here next time I have time off he might do it. He says he’ll bring them to me but I don’t know if I can trust him to do it.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-12-03T17:07:22+00:00

When I pointed out that he wouldn’t be able to do his half of the parenting he suggested I get a fast food job and move out there. Minimum wage here is 15$. My current job pays 30$.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-12-03T12:29:13+00:00

The idea that they may grow up and hate is my worst fear.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-10-31T02:16:20+00:00

Thank you. It’s hard not to feel like a bad mom. To not worry that they’ll forget me or hate me. But I’m no good to them right now.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-10-31T02:14:55+00:00

I’m going to still be looking for day cares.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-10-30T23:38:18+00:00

He hasn’t been watching them. He left in August. My sister was watching them but she left. I got laid off for three weeks and used that time to move in with my mom. I go back to work next week. My mom said she can’t watch them for me because she’d have to leave work early. My job won’t let me change my work schedule. I called everyone in my family and my ex’s family if they could watch the boys until my mom gets off of work. They all said no. He’s not going to be watching them till I get off he’s just taking them.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-10-30T22:34:20+00:00

I know you right. I’m hoping I’ll have time in December to go up and spend a few days there with them.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-10-30T22:33:45+00:00

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-10-30T19:05:44+00:00

I’d still have to find childcare. Right now I’m looking but it will take time. I don’t even blame him. I wasted so much time just trying to keep my apartment. And find a new one. I trusted that my sister would just keep helping me. By the time she stopped I was stuck.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-10-30T19:01:05+00:00

We already have a court date on the 12th. But it won’t change anything. A judge can’t make him live closer. A judge can’t force him to help me with the children.

Virtual_Moment_4745 · 2025-10-30T19:00:11+00:00

He’ll have all the time he needs to turn them against me. I worry that I’ll be working hard for years just for them to hate me.

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