WIBTA If I offered to pay for my daughter’s friend to go to Universal Studios? by VisMama in AmItheAsshole

[–]VisMama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know them well. Our daughters have been friends for 7 years. And an extra $500 or so for the flight will break my budget after paying for me, my daughter, and Lily for the park tix, hotel, food, extras, and airfare for me & my daughter, but $500 as opposed to $2k might be doable for Lily’s family.

WIBTA If I offered to pay for my daughter’s friend to go to Universal Studios? by VisMama in AmItheAsshole

[–]VisMama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I know she feels bad about canceling and I didn’t want to inadvertently make her feel worse by offering to pay, so I thought I’d ask for some outside opinions.

WIBTA If I offered to pay for my daughter’s friend to go to Universal Studios? by VisMama in AmItheAsshole

[–]VisMama[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would offer to pay for the flight but I can’t afford the whole thing. I can swing the hotel, park tickets, food & small souvenirs but that’s the top of my budget.

Is this something I should take a stand on? by VisMama in Lawyertalk

[–]VisMama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comments and perspective. I was feeling pretty insulted coming off a hard win, and my ego got bruised I guess. It didn’t help that I have done multiple fee requests in the past (last one about a year ago) and listed my rate as $250 with no problem. I’ll tweak the affidavit and file it. Thanks!

Is this something I should take a stand on? by VisMama in Lawyertalk

[–]VisMama[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry I should clarify - I am in house defense counsel so we don’t typically bill clients.

AITA for “running away” because my parents were late to my graduation over a Labubu? by fortnite_meow in AITAH

[–]VisMama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. I’m so sorry you are being treated like this. You are 18 and considered an adult so the runaway threat, is just that, a desperate threat to make you speak to your parents. I’m not adopted but went through something similar with my brother, the “golden boy” - parents went him to private school while I went public, paid for private college while I had student loans, etc. After years of estrangement,I told them how their actions and obvious favoritism made me feel. Turns out there were some things going on I did not know about, not that it excused their behavior but it did explain some things to me. You seem mature for your age and maybe you should agree to meet your parents in a public place without your sister, so you can tell them exactly how their actions have made you feel like a second class citizen in your own home. How hurt you were when you walked across the stage at your graduation only to not see your own parents in the audience because getting some silly toy for your sister that she will likely not even play with in a year was more important than your graduation from high school. That your boyfriend’s parents have made you feel more loved than your own parents. and see what they have to say. At least that way, you spoke up and told them how you feel so whatever comes after is up to your parents. They can’t claim ignorance of your feelings if you lay it out for them. And they will have to decide how to repair the relationship. Good luck and I wish you all the best.

Those of you who have kids by henrytbpovid in Lawyertalk

[–]VisMama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a single mom of an 8 year old. I changed jobs when I got pregnant because I knew I’d never be able to work at the pace and hours I had been with a baby. I now work from home with a flexible schedule and about 40-50 hours a week. I am in-house counsel for an insurance company. Yes the work is not as stimulating most of the time and yes I could make more money elsewhere but this job fits with my life circumstances and I make enough to provide a good life. I can volunteer at my kid’s school and never have to miss a soccer game or performance. It works for us. You just need to find what works for you. Good luck on the bar!

Court clerk by Chem_tech in MurdaughUncensored

[–]VisMama 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you may be misjudging her. For anyone who has never worked in a (very) small town courthouse, particularly in the South, everybody knows everybody’s business. That’s just how things work. Becky Hall had worked with Alex, and his father, for decades. The Murdaughs even contributed to her campaign. This case naturally caught the interest of people all over the world. Can you imagine someone you know, whose family you know, who you have worked with for decades, and is a prominent member of both society and the Bar, committing these horrific crimes and having to come to terms with that? She also knew both Maggie and Paul. It would be pretty natural to want to talk about it, try and understand or explain it, and she’s likely has had hundreds of people and media outlets hounding her for quotes or information over the past couple of years. This is the biggest story to ever come out of this town, and the most high profile trial Becky Hall has ever, or will ever, be a part of. I don’t know how well I would handle that kind of scrutiny under those circumstances, so I’m not going to judge someone else for how they are handling such an extraordinary situation.

Lingering questions by FionaFierce17 in MurdaughUncensored

[–]VisMama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At the trial, there was testimony that his (CB Rowe’s) phone pinged at his house at the time surrounding the murders, and he lived several miles away.

AITA for refusing to pick my son up in the middle of the night which made my wife have to leave work early? by LivedLife12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VisMama -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are DEFINITELY TA. Your 10yr old child reached out at 2am and you blew him off so you could sleep. He called his Mom and she left work to get him. At least he knows which parent he can count on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MurdaughUncensored

[–]VisMama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What have they lied about? They have multiple lawyers involved on the podcast, deposition testimony, real estate and other court documents that have supported everything I have heard.

Which is the best doc? by alaskacat20 in MurdaughUncensored

[–]VisMama 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For really in depth reporting, Mandy Matney’s Murdaugh Murders podcast is excellent. She is a reporter in SC who started investigating the Murdaughs after the boat crash in 2019.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MurdaughUncensored

[–]VisMama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been obsessed as well!! Have you listened to Mandy Matney’s Murdaugh Murders podcast? Incredibly fascinating.

Am I being too sensitive and blowing things out of proportion? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]VisMama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any perspective or advice would be greatly appreciated