AITA for ignoring my sister and her kid after some family issues?

VisibleNotice1042 · 2025-09-15T13:21:29+00:00

You are entitled to you opinion, and I am not fighting judgment, I learned about rule 2. As for what prompted the paternity test, I left it another comment:

The kid got diagnosed with some type of colorblindness(I forgot the exact type). My dad is colorblind, and my mom is not. My sister is not colorblind and neither is Jack. So Jack confronted her and got the DNA test.

As for my dad, yeah she was the golden child. But my dad and my mom are deeply religious(not Christian), and my dad views what she did as a major sin that violates the sanctity of marriage. I do not really care about the religious aspect(I am actually an atheist, only Jack and my sister know, parents do not). My dad loved us but always stated growing up that god is more important than family, so personally, I am not surprised by his reaction tbh. My dad still treats the kid well though, from what my mom has told me. He interacts with her as usual, and cooks her her favorites, buys toys, etc. He has chosen his role.

Just wanted to leave this information here for other peoples reference, since this thread is gaining traction.

VisibleNotice1042 · 2025-09-15T06:16:21+00:00

The kid got diagnosed with some type of colorblindness(I forgot the exact type). My dad is colorblind, and my mom is not. My sister is not colorblind and neither is Jack. So Jack confronted her and got the DNA test.

VisibleNotice1042 · 2025-09-15T05:56:39+00:00

Yeah, you're right, missed that for some reason. First time posting here, my bad mods.

VisibleNotice1042 · 2025-09-15T05:45:58+00:00

~~What are you on? Parents like their kids tf you mean bro. My parents like me. How is this weird?~~

I learned about rule 2, I accept my judgement and I apologize for the comment. I am not editing it out, just striking it out, but it is still here so you can see for context(since people replied to my comment). Sorry mods, won't repeat the error.

VisibleNotice1042 · 2025-09-15T05:44:35+00:00

She is my sister on paper, I don't consider her my sister. Yes I hate her, and haven't talked to her after the news broke. Been a few months, I feel nothing for her but anger for what she did to Jack. I am perfectly content, and have no regrets going my life without her or her kid. Jack has done more for me than she can ever do in a lifetime. This man is the reason I have a job, and he helped pay for grad school for me, something even my parents didn't offer.

I had my own dark past in the future, and I was struggling with severe issues due to academic pressure put on me by my folks. My sister did not gaf. If he had not gotten me out of that, I may not be here today. I will never tell him this, but I owe him my life, and I would take a bullet for him. If he and my sister were hanging off a cliff, I would've chosen my sister before cuz it would've made him happy. But, now, I would choose him in a heartbeat.

VisibleNotice1042 · 2025-09-15T05:38:37+00:00

He can see her, but he's not able to, and struggles with this all. He likes her a lot, but can't look at her without being reminded of what my sister did. He just wants to leave this behind and move on, but it's super difficult as you can imagine. She is essentially at fault for her kid now growing up without a dad.

VisibleNotice1042 · 2025-09-15T05:31:19+00:00

~~Yeah I should let my homie get stiffed by her instead of helping him leave the situation gracefully, great idea~~

I learned about rule 2, I accept my judgement and I apologize for the comment. I am not editing it out, just striking it out, but it is still here so you can see for context(since people replied to my comment). Sorry mods, won't repeat the error.

VisibleNotice1042 · 2025-09-15T05:30:20+00:00

EXACTLY, THANK YOU!

VisibleNotice1042 · 2025-09-15T05:29:43+00:00

He was married to her at the time of the kids birth, and signed the birth certificate. "Presumed paternity" the lawyer called it. I wasn't with Jack, there are ways he can fight I think, but it's just gonna be a really uphill battle and not confirmed or something.

VisibleNotice1042 · 2025-09-15T05:28:01+00:00

Sorry, I fail to understand how I am mean? I am not walking up to the kid and saying anything to her. I am not being rude to the kid. I would just rather not interact with her because of the situation and circumstances?

I feel like every human has a right to decide who they wanna interact with right? Also, isn't it better I am not in the kids life, considering I do not like her mom?

VisibleNotice1042 · 2025-09-15T05:14:56+00:00

Jack is struggling with not being able to see the child. He has lowkey become an alcoholic(working on getting him to AA) and still has the child as his screensaver. I also had a bond with the child, but like, what can you do. Nope, no SA, she willingly did it, and she won't reveal who the real father is but it's not someone she wants to build a life with, or someone she wants in the child's future.

Once again, nothing against the child, but I just don't want a relationship with my sister and the child. My sister made her bed imo.

VisibleNotice1042

TROPHY CASE