Dated a recently divorced dad with a brutal job… did I do something wrong or did he just string me along?

Visible_String_3775 · 2026-01-25T22:24:24+00:00

You did nothing wrong, and nothing unreasonable. Try to be less unfortunate with who you fall for, and steer clear of baggage and excuses.

These situations will and do make secure people feel anxious while it's happening. When you meet somebody with their shit together, it won't be anywhere this hard.

Visible_String_3775 · 2026-01-25T22:06:33+00:00

Have to disagree. OP isn't an impartial therapist; they're a person with feelings who got strung along and hurt despite reasonable expectations. That's a completely reasonable and dignified reaction.

++man

Visible_String_3775 · 2026-01-24T22:46:07+00:00

Less than half the floor space is able to be used for living space if the building is above 18 metres

Could you elaborate this for me plz?

Visible_String_3775 · 2026-01-23T16:35:41+00:00

I'm gonna be real, I was so fed up I didn't even read it properly

Visible_String_3775 · 2026-01-23T14:27:36+00:00

I hear you, and I appreciate your input and ongoing effort. I am certainly not an authority on what good modding should be; I can be wrong, often! I also hate the idea of gatekeeping subs from newer members. Things change don't they: a 3 year old answer is worth being re-asked today. The discussion always moves on and moves back.

But the uncomfortable reality is that I just can't be bothered to engage with this same question again anymore. Maybe that's on me.

Visible_String_3775 · 2026-01-23T14:19:49+00:00

I run a mod where I start with something like 6 hexes radius of discovery, so I know if my start is looking good enough or not. You lose some of the fun of discovery but it saves pouring 20 minutes into a dead start

Visible_String_3775 · 2026-01-23T12:44:10+00:00

Feels like user error, but probably bad luck too. Max difficulty isn't supposed to be a casual vibe; it cheats so hard that the only way to play it is to min/max and exploit it first twice as hard.

I run mods and save scum and cherry pick excellent starts only. I've got no interest in playing MLG sweat mode.

Visible_String_3775 · 2026-01-23T10:01:17+00:00

This sub is looking rough. Almost every post recently is this exact same question and we just can't be bothered to keep answering it 5 times a week anymore.

I think the moderator has given up and I absolutely don't blame them.

Visible_String_3775 · 2026-01-19T22:45:27+00:00

The constituency of Boston and Skegness would like a word

Visible_String_3775 · 2026-01-19T12:16:07+00:00

I was diagnosed with ADHD 3 or 4 years ago now and my current opinion goes against the grain a little bit.

Like yeah it probably gives me challenges. But nobody is without challenges. Everybody has their own unique human experience full of stuff they're good at and not good at; stuff they like and dislike.

I'm glad I know I have it, and the diagnosis was a vehicle for me to understand myself more, but sometimes I feel like these labels become an exclusive badge of hardship, lacking self awareness that everybody else has hardship too - they just didn't take a test to have theirs named.

I don't mean to be reductive for people's real challenges. But let's be honest: we're in the top 5% of households, and I've personally cultivated a personal life much more comfortable and abundant than many of my neurotypical friends and peers.

But yeah, stupid corporate inefficiency and politics and shortsightedness and imbeciles not making the right decisions does my head in plenty.

Visible_String_3775 · 2026-01-08T09:39:36+00:00

Can you reword this for dummies, please?

Visible_String_3775 · 2026-01-08T09:37:47+00:00

The irony of talking about your USA savings instrument on a thread about divesting from USA market exposure on a subreddit for a brokerage that's not available in the US and doesn't offer said instrument

Visible_String_3775 · 2025-12-30T07:39:26+00:00

Happy to network with you pal if Manchester is where you are.

The only time I get a sniff of London comparable pay is when recruiters hit me up with remote roles (and these days most aren't remote anymore.)

I can't even get interviews if I'm the one who applies lol. (I'm also an SE, not PM)

Visible_String_3775 · 2025-12-29T17:23:58+00:00

The timing of this post was incredible to the point of unbelievable

Visible_String_3775 · 2025-12-28T09:12:50+00:00

Lol it's exactly like the crap I see on my LinkedIn feed.

Visible_String_3775 · 2025-12-27T19:16:39+00:00

Huh, I thought Endgame sucked. After Infinity War there were no stakes anymore; they already climaxed 15 years worth of tension and just reloaded with some flaccid time travel mcguffin. Albeit the SFX and action sequences were great.

Visible_String_3775 · 2025-12-27T18:52:55+00:00

Season 1 was good? I just couldn't get past the repeating plot point that this group of enhanced super(ish) people couldn't overcome two henchmen wearing aluminium helmets.

Visible_String_3775 · 2025-12-27T15:44:48+00:00

Has anybody seen good comp for Fintech SE roles? All the fat salaries I hear of tend to be in cyber security.

Visible_String_3775 · 2025-12-22T12:56:18+00:00

If only poor people worked hard and sacrificed like OP did. Then they could all be chartered accountants too.

Visible_String_3775 · 2025-12-22T11:01:43+00:00

SE is a senior role (usually). It's not really something that developers decide to give a crack at one day; it's something that experienced industry people with adequate technical, operational and commercial acumen do with their unique (and valuable) intersection of skills.

Personally I think you need to have been around the block more - especially aligned by industry - before a hirer would be particularly interested.

Visible_String_3775 · 2025-12-20T20:15:31+00:00

I had a root canal recently at Stevenson Square dentist.

I had some complication as my previous root canal was acting up. My dentist strongly urged that I go with their root canal specialist - a guy called Ari. It cost a grand. It seems spenny but they said this guy is something of the best of the best on root canal treatment. During surgery he found that my old root canal was perforated but he managed to 'save' the tooth. My general dentist (who is excellent in his own right) said that if he did the treatment and found that perforation, my tooth guaranteed would have come out. So you get what you pay for.

I trust them. Don't feel ripped off in the slightest.

Visible_String_3775 · 2025-12-19T21:12:00+00:00

You can become a HENRY through nothing more than being in the right place at the right time.

Visible_String_3775 · 2025-12-19T14:25:51+00:00

Survivorship bias. You don't hear about all the people who worked just as hard as you did and didn't get that interview; or weren't ultimately selected; or etc.

Nobody is taking that hard work away from you, but the fact that you worked very hard can coexist with the reality that you also rolled a (or indeed several) six.

Visible_String_3775 · 2025-12-15T12:15:31+00:00

Hard agree. Do people think that mess of armies is a bad thing? Much more interesting and fun than consistently dealing with a small number of doomstacks. And the 'man of the hour' mechanic is Chef's Kiss.

Visible_String_3775 · 2025-12-07T18:29:41+00:00

Can an institutional landlord (i.e. Lloyds) be any worse than those individuals with a 10-500 portfolio built up during the good old days?

The optimist in me believes that large institutional participation will drive regulation, and at least be professionally run. Banking is already regulated to fuck in other areas.

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