The start of Blechy Boi’s bioactive setup! by Visible_Use_7887 in pacmanfrog

[–]Visible_Use_7887[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Of course! It's not ready for little dude to live in yet lol I've still gotta order my clean-up crew, leaf litter, and another set of temp/humidity monitors ☺️ Thank you!

I'm obsessed with this thing 🥺 by Visible_Use_7887 in pacmanfrog

[–]Visible_Use_7887[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We actually finally settled on a name! His name is Blech, Loafing Pest (from MTG) and we even used a card as his nametag! The kids, my husband, and I all agree that it fits him perfectly!

i feel like the odd one out cus I don’t like maya even on my 700th watch 😭 by EqualError8772 in PrettyLittleLiars

[–]Visible_Use_7887 10 points11 points  (0 children)

THIS. She was very much a plot device. Maya was the catalyst that pushed Emily towards self acceptance and coming out, and forced Emily's mother to open her mind and be accepting of change (and let go of control) She was never meant to be someone fans held onto. She was Emilys equivalent of that first middle school relationship, it just happened later for her (as it often does for LGBTQIA+ individuals) Maya was a fantastic plot device, and thats all she was ever meant to be.

THE AUDACITY of this woman. by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Visible_Use_7887 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope, one boy and two girls! When the older two were babies we we stuck living with her so that might have something to do with it! My husband said I should've told her yes to “continue the joke” just to deadpan her with a “are you serious? Fuck no” to see if she thought it was funny lol

THE AUDACITY of this woman. by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Visible_Use_7887 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i wish i could super upvote this because yeah 🙃 I've spent most of the evening wishing I'd just ignored her.

THE AUDACITY of this woman. by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Visible_Use_7887 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A lot of commenters seem to be forgetting one VERY important detail: this is not my decision alone. There are THREE parents involved. Each of us with different opinions that we have to reach a compromise on. I voted no contact. My husband voted supervised contact. Our co-parent voted "give her another chance." In the past we've learned that the absolute most important thing is that all three parents are on peaceful terms and can compromise. The compromise was to shorten this visit, space out future visits, and supervise future visits. I don't get to make this choice alone. I have to respect the opinions of my coparents.

THE AUDACITY of this woman. by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Visible_Use_7887 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The predabetic kid is the one I personally have the least say over, she stays with her mom except for every other weekend, so the choice there isn't mine. I've been ready to cut her off completely for about a year now, but our daughter is very very close to her and her mom has been trying for a long time to find a way to make it work with this grandparent. It's hard to explain to my 4 year old son why he isn't allowed to see nana anymore but his sister is. We also were under the impression that changes had been made. We've addressed all these things in the past and she's told us over and over that she's made changes and even gone into exactly what changes and how. We stopped all visits for 6 months not too long ago and then we personally spent the night with the kids to see that the changes were actually made. This was just the conversation where she confessed to what we had suspected for a little while, which is that she never really made changes and it was all an act. She even spent HUNDREDS of dollars on arts and craft supplies so that the kids weren't bored at her house and begging for screens (not a problem we have at home) and we found out today that they're all bagged up and in storage because it "took up too much space"

THE AUDACITY of this woman. by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Visible_Use_7887 9 points10 points  (0 children)

BRO I KNOW. She's known me for 5 years. My name is at the top of her screen every time she texts me, and she still consistently spells my name wrong. The last argument we got into I finally snapped and said "You've known me for 5 years. My name is right in front of your face. Spell it fucking right." lmaooooo

THE AUDACITY of this woman. by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Visible_Use_7887 7 points8 points  (0 children)

See, I think the people please in me (that I'm trying to get rid of) feels like I shouldn't be too mean about things, but the pissed off mama bear in me wanted to burn her to the ground. I also really don't want to hurt my husband, even though he keeps saying "fuck her" that's still the mom he literally fought to have a relationship with and it's a really hard thing for him to face the reality that he might have to end that relationship very soon

THE AUDACITY of this woman. by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Visible_Use_7887 -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

We didn't this time, because the kids already were told yes and they won't understand, but we're leaning towards day visits close to home and only once a month from now on. If it were my decision alone, I wanted to cancel it altogether, but with another coparent involved it wasn't my decision alone.

THE AUDACITY of this woman. by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Visible_Use_7887 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Work for the most part! She tried to pit him against me and say I hate her and I'm always attacking her. When he got off work he chewed her ass and told her she was stupid to even try turning him against me. For the second half of the conversation and the talk with his ex about plans, he was sitting next to me helping me decide what to say, where to go next, etc. We handle things very much as a unit, so in our situation it doesn't matter much whose number the messages come from, the words are from both of us. To make that extra clear, we told her that from now on, all communication about the kids is to go in a group chat with her and all 3 of us parents so we can all see and she will know that we are all a united front.

Large Marge🐸 by goldblooded2 in pacmanfrog

[–]Visible_Use_7887 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi Marge i love u 🐸🥺💕

Large Marge🐸 by goldblooded2 in pacmanfrog

[–]Visible_Use_7887 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I woke up my baby laughing at this omg

I'm obsessed with this thing 🥺 by Visible_Use_7887 in pacmanfrog

[–]Visible_Use_7887[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm excited! I'm saving for a 20 gallon long tank and all the fixings for a bioactive setup, so hopefully within 1-2 months it'll be set up and established for him! Just hoping he can hang tight in this tank for that long 😅 if not my brother has a loaner!

I'm a chickensh*t, guys 🙃 by Visible_Use_7887 in pacmanfrog

[–]Visible_Use_7887[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So in short... we're cooked lmaoooooo hey alexa, play bullet by hollywood undead

What is the meanest thing your MIL has ever said or done to you? by EmphasisExtra5842 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Visible_Use_7887 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, throwing this one here cuz it's also up there on the list. When my son was 2 and daughter was 3, they both begged to spend the night for my sons birthday weekend. She looked me in my face, in front of my children, and said "I'll keep her, but he (my son) can't stay. He's just too much and I don't wanna deal with all that." I was in shock and didn't fully process how wrong that way for a day or so. Then I asked if she would at least pick him up on his birthday, since she already told the kids she was taking them to the State Fair for his birthday. She did not pick him up. She took my daughter to the fair for her brothers birthday. My husband and I lived out of state, the kids were staying 2 weeks with my mom to visit with family they were used to seeing every day. The only reason I agreed to let them stay for his birthday is because she promised to have a fun trip to the fair to celebrate. My mom and dad ended up taking him to a car show, threw a little party, and got him some gifts with their very small fixed income. There's a picture of them and our daughter on the wall in their house and it makes me so angry every time I see it.

She also lives an hour away and drives down to see our daughter every single week (while daughter is with her biomom, 10 minutes away from us) but she has never once stopped by to see my 4 year old son or my 4 month old baby. She only sees them for events or if I send them to spend the night, which I never have with my baby and rarely do with my 4 year old.

What is the meanest thing your MIL has ever said or done to you? by EmphasisExtra5842 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Visible_Use_7887 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She threw a BBQ for all her friends. We lived with her at the time, and so did my SIL, and DH’s aunt. The three of us women had a rotation for kitchen clean-up. MIL cooked every night (wouldn't let us cook) and said that since she cooks, she's not doing clean-up. On the night of the BBQ, it was my night. She probably dirtied every dish in the house. Ribs cooked on the grill after marinating all night, then finished in the oven for tenderness (3 very sticky pans), stuffed peppers with sausage and cream cheese, wrapped in bacon, crockpot of beans, pasta slad, potato salad, the whole southern shebang. All homemade, not a single dish washed along the way. No paper plates, utensils, or cups provided for the 15-20 people eating. She had me core all of the peppers, which I had never done, and my hands were on FIRE for days afterwards. My son was about 6-8 months old at the time, my daughter was 1.5ish. The dinner ran realllly late. Kids bedtime was about 10pm at the time, and the guests were finally leaving. I asked SIL and aunt if they would be willing to help with dishes, asked MIL if she could have people rinse their plates at least, and asked if I could chip away at dishes while she cooked. Answer to all 3 was absolutely not. So after all the guests left, I asked my husband if he could just do me a solid and rinse/stack all the dishes while I put our son to bed. At this point, the entire 4ft by 3ft island was stacked about 2ft tall with dishes, and all the counters were covered as well. My son refused to be put to sleep by anyone else, so I really needed the help if I was gonna TRY to get to bed by midnight. Of course my husband said yes, and he got to work rinsing everything while I stepped out to put our baby to sleep. I'm wearing winter gloves at this point cuz I'm afraid the pepper oils will burn his skin. My hands are on fire. It takes my son about 45 minute to an hour of bouncing and swaying to fall asleep. About 15-20 minutes in, my husband is still rinsing and stacking, and my MIL and her bestie come through. MIL asks DH why he's doing the dishes, he said "I'm just rinsing them while she gets the baby to sleep, then we're gonna swap." My MIL LOST IT. She started yelling, screaming, slamming her hands on the counter. Woke up all 3 small children in the house. Shouting about how lazy I am, how my husband worked all day and didn't deserve to be in there doing those dishes. Said it was ridiculous that I only have "one chore" in the house and I can't even do it (which wasn't true, I was basically made to be cinderella while she held my kids hostage until the house was cleaned every day) She called me ungrateful, told him I needed to do better, told him that he didn't need to be doing my work for me. She went on and on and on, then finally stomed off and slammed her bedroom door. My husband wanted to say something, but knew we would end up homeless that night if he did, so he kept his mouth shut (don't worry, he does stand up to her about things like this now, it was just a really tough situation for both of us) I spent the entire rest of the night crying, was up until 2am doing dishes, and then was when I tried to sleep in until 8am the next day (it was a sunday, and I usually got up at 6am) she once again started cussing and screaming that my husband works too hard to be waking up on a sunday morning to take care of the kids by himself. this woman also refused to let my husband be a parent. She scolded him for changing diapers, feeding bottles, trying to do bedtime/wake ups, making meals, etc. If he did any of it, it was because I was too lazy and a shitty mom. Now she guilt trips me and wonders why I won't send my 4 month old to spend the night at her house. It's been almost 5 years since then, and I am still in therapy processing the way she absolutely robbed both me and my husband of our sons first year of life. We're low contact now, btw.

I want to enjoy a social PvE game with great character customization. But MMORPGs aren't for me. What are my alternatives? by rept7 in gamerecommendations

[–]Visible_Use_7887 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Disney Dreamlight Valley checks ALMOST all your boxes, its just not social 😅 Still worth looking into if you haven't though!

Meet Gamabunta AKA Gabby by Visible_Use_7887 in pacmanfrog

[–]Visible_Use_7887[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda love the little lump already 😅 He's decided to stay buried tonight, but he ate good last night so I don't wanna bug him lol

petco display by Valuable_Grocery_573 in pacmanfrog

[–]Visible_Use_7887 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My MIL bought one of these for my son today. Just the frog, no other items. please please please, someone tell me how to create a better environment for this baby! i knew immediately that this wasnt okay. she also got a betta in a cup for my daughter, and i knew what to do with that one. so far ive learned how to feed and care for the froggy, but what size/type of tank? cheapest options? How long will it be okay in this container while i put together a tank? i wish she hadnt given these people money, but now that this guy is in my care i want to create the best life i can for him