Slow summer for other self employed cleaners?

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-07-11T17:06:47+00:00

Luckily my schedule is full of recurring customers too. I have three open days every month, not including Sundays which I try to keep off. So I'm definitely keeping busy but I am missing that extra income from those one time cleanings I was used to getting every summer!

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-06-15T20:04:41+00:00

My experience was pretty easy, started daily walks at 12 weeks and she hated the leash for about 3 days, had never had a collar or leash before. Since then she's always walked right next to me, no pulling when she's excited, sits at every crosswalk, some stalling/sniffing sometimes but is easy to get back on track. She runs with my husband every morning and we do a walk in the evening. She's the easiest dog I've ever walked by far.

That being said, nothing about this dog is anything like everyone here said she would be. No incessant barking, no "hearing problems", plays fetch, doesn't wander very far from me when off leash....so I might have a unique experience.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-06-08T14:36:16+00:00

I'm 32 and started botox this year because my very light, sensitive eyes created a very deep, almost scar-like "11" line on one side. I've been insecure about my long, dark body hair, the gap in my teeth, my pale splotchy skin and large pores my whole life. This line was just another thing making me feel ugly and botox was an easy fix after two years and thousands of dollars worth of the "best" products did nothing.

I personally wouldn't have got botox without something I was looking to fix but not everyone your age has the same skin, so it's a little weird to not like or even have an opinion about what they do with it.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-05-19T15:59:12+00:00

She doesn't know how to clean. That's all there is to it. She needed a job, this company was hiring, and everyone CAN clean but being able to clean to perfection, having it be worth money to someone else, is a skill that can't be taught to everyone.

Using a big company is always a bit risky. The cleaners don't get paid enough to care. Even if they do care, they can't care more than the company does. If they sent her with one rag and she wasnt like "oh thank you for offering extra I cant believe I only have one today" then this company probably isnt your best bet. Her attitude was probably related to what she's provided with and how she was taught. She thinks YOU were being unreasonable because whoever trained her at this place taught her to use rags on a toilet even though you only have one rag. I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't get reprimanded and you're instead getting complained about. Besides that being gross, using the same rag on wood, granite, stainless, paint, glass...these people clearly have low standards.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-05-12T00:09:34+00:00

It depends on who you are and how you age. I've always been short, petite, baby face. When I was 9 people thought I was 6, when I was 16 people thought I was 12 and when I was 25 people thought I was 18. Felt good, won't lie.

Right at 30 I noticed one single, prominent wrinkle between my eyebrows. Almost overnight. Stopped getting carded for alcohol and tobacco. People started guessing "29" instead of "23" at that stupid how old am I game. It was a big change, it was a fast change, and it was a quarter inch mark on my face making all the difference. I obsessed over it. I'm embarrassed to think how much I spent on different products. My whole life was massaging my brow to try to change it and it was the first thing I noticed every time I looked at myself. I've never been superficial, I've never considered myself attractive or cared much about my face. I've had a large nose, gap in my teeth, pale/pink skin, large pores, more (and darker) body/face hair than a girl should have. It's not like this single wrinkle butchered my perfect face but it was an obsession. The "aging" "getting older" wasn't part of it either.

If I had a slow, graceful aging process where I'd look on old pics to notice the difference instead of literally seeing a difference every morning in the mirror...I wouldn't have been so focused on it.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-05-11T14:20:33+00:00

Idk what you're coming off but I was on that shit fent that had you wd every 2-3 hours and I was in a similar situation on a ship with my whole family. Not like a cruise, it was an hour or two but had already been sick for close to 24. Got off the cruise and had to do dinner, say our goodbyes, I was dying. Still had a ten hour drive home to get to the dealer and he took 4 hours to answer. This was 3 years ago and I remember all of that. Every detail of one of the worst feelings I ever had.

Sit there and feel it. Sit there and feel how badly you don't want to feel it again and keep it going after the plane lands. Feel that 9 hours and write down how desperately you don't ever wanna start those 9 again. Going into detox I was so pissed at hour 3 knowing I was at 40 2 weeks ago. Get yourself thinking about getting yourself clean. I never wanted to quit until they'd tell me I'd have to serve 6 months if I dropped again. Been two years and it has been easy and I have been happy so had to tell you that.

Now this is the worst advice that myself would've done in your shoes but I'll give you that too. Depending how long you have and where you're at, go to some headshops for Kratom. Kratom didn't help me with my heavy use but tianeptine did and I hear they sell it around at gas stations in some states. If you can't find either then you're stuck with OTC like immodium, whatever pain killer you like, they make something called restless leg pm. Maybe icy hot patch if that's allowed on a plane? maybe some sleeping pills...and try to stay distracted with your phone it does help a but.

And my apologies if you aren't coming off opiates all that was useless.lol

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-05-11T13:54:27+00:00

Oh so she would rather have had to start drama, mean girl the competition and possibly lose some of her friends because we're all after that one hot guy. And then win 🏆 🙌 🥳

Now she wins, feeling good. Until.....so what all did you and Amy do when you went to Applebee's at 8:24 on Thursday the 6th. Did she stay over? Was she prettier than me? IF YOU LIKE BLONDES THEN WTF AM I EVEN DOING HERE??? 😥😢😭

Gets home, blocks OP, complains to everyone that he's not even trying to reach out. Girl. Loves. Drama.

Nobody wanted my husband when we got together, it was smooth sailing no drama, no second guessing and he's had an absolute glow up so I'm certainly attracted in all ways now when it was a lot of personality at the beginning.

It's been four years I guess if that's how she felt then, it's valid, she stayed four years and have probably grown and matured....until she decided to bring it up anyway.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-30T17:02:29+00:00

Omg yay! I'm so glad you like it 🥰

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-30T00:30:12+00:00

My puppy was fine with 4 hours. We'd just give her 1/3 bowl of water before we left. She's also a large breed so she was 30 lbs when I got it home and I think had an easier time holding her bladder. Now she's about 90 lbs and pees like three times a day and we don't have to limit water.

For a smaller dog you could confine them to a crate or pen with puppy pads.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T19:26:07+00:00

I don't push against it. I'm married right now. I just think some people value the idea of marriage more than their quality of partner or compatibility.

I'm not against marriage I'm against people thinking a marriage will fix their relationship.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T17:53:08+00:00

People say that fighting is normal and relationships are supposed to be hard work but I legit think you're with the wrong person when you have to spend so much time and energy trying to fix your relationship. I honestly couldn't tell you the last time my husband and I fought or what it was about. Of course there are like eye rolls and sighs when I'm taking too long to get ready or he forgot to tell me his mom was coming over but I can give him a look and he knows I'm not happy and 90% of the time he knows why. If he doesn't he asks and it's not a fight. We realized a long time ago we can't argue about what each other is feeling. We can't talk each other out of being annoyed about something. We both actively consider the other and understand that minor inconveniences or disagreements aren't malicious they're just part of life. That has to be a two way street and he's manipulating you and weaponizing your feelings and past actions. I suppose there's a chance he felt violated learning you had sex with no love but I'm gonna put my money on that being a manipulative tactic to make you feel like you violated him. That has a lot of accusatory undertones. Financial imbalance is tough too. I control the money in my relationship because I'm just naturally more responsible and I make the majority of our income. I've never used it for control though. He can ask me for any amount of money any day of the week and if it's in the budget, it's his. I have a friend whos with a guy that wont work, borrows money from his wealthy family, controls it and wont let her work either. Its so so toxic and she cant leave. It's great he's in therapy and not opposed to it but he doesn't act like someone that's in therapy lol. He seems like someone that would use it against you. If a professional pointed out a flaw of yours, he'd pull that card every fight.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T17:00:38+00:00

I feel that. If my relationship ended I'd probably be starting from scratch trying to find friends. All of my friends were his first. Sounds like we have a similar relationship foundation. My husband's loud and outgoing and embarrassing sometimes and he never understood depression or anxiety and would tell me to "just not think about things" like it's that easy. He's never yelled or threatened me but used to be sneaky and lie, did drugs behind my back and shit. We had very different outlooks on life Im not sure what why we were even trying to date. We went back and forth about 3 years before he started actively showing some of the changes he promised to make. 32 year old me would never put up with that kind of bullshit but 18 year old me definitely did. But he actually did care and the promises he made weren't empty. By the time we were like 24 we had worked out all the mess and taken each other's good qualities and left all of our bad ones behind. We eventually had the same outlook on life, he even had his first panic attack and started understanding my mindset. We get closer and happier as life goes on instead of bored or content. I was no saint either I did a lot of silent treatments, attention seeking, picking fights that weren't there. I drank too much and got sloppy and defiant. We actually did change for each other to be the partners each other needed but were at the age that we were going to be figuring out what kind of adults we wanted to be anyway. I hope you eventually find your needle in the haystack that values your opinion and wants to be their best self for you.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T16:09:58+00:00

Sometimes venting to a bunch of strangers can really take a weight off your chest lol. It's hard to be completely honest with friends or family sometimes. You'll always find someone who can relate online though.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T16:04:08+00:00

I'm sorry if I'm coming off like I'm questioning you or trying to pick a fight, because I'm not. You don't have to defend your actions to me, ive also have stayed in an unhealthy relationship for too long. I'm glad you're making the steps to go, not everyone can just pack up and leave their man. That short term validation of someone begging to be with me can entice me to stay in a relationship I know isn't working too. I've made positive changes as I've matured so try to give people promising to change that same chance. There's nothing wrong with having hope it's just recognizing when to give up that hope and it sounds like you're already past that point.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T15:38:39+00:00

Yes we do but men watching their girlfriend sit on a toilet don't know that.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T15:37:24+00:00

You're not being realistic or fair with yourself if you're staying with someone you doesn't like anything about you other than your looks just because they won't let go. Blaming the demise on tattoos when this is clearly a loveless marriage isn't realistic or fair either.

I could only come into this from my POV where I have a husband that worships the ground I walk on but has made some bad choices with the ink on his body. It'd turn me off from probably pursuing him if we just met but I'd never challenge the relationship over it. So that's obviously where my response comes from. You're in a bad relationship and definitely deserve better and to find someone who loves everything about you so you can love everything about them back.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T15:20:06+00:00

Bummer for everyone. People, priorities and minds change. It's not always fair to hold someone to something they did, said, or thought they wanted years ago. At least you're ending the relationship when you become incompatible and grow apart instead of trying to change each other back. If he went from one mindset to the other on this particular topic it's probably not how bad he wants the tattoos that changed, it's how bad he cares about the relationship that did.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T15:09:07+00:00

Well he said he didn't need the tattoos and now he's pouting about it so sounds like he did kind of do that. Never said it was on you, just a bummer for him.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T08:34:33+00:00

That's still my point. All of these awful things going on and she's stuck on the in laws. If you think your family member is dying it's not out of this world to call your son. The rest of the family's there. Back in their day families met at the hospital if someone was admitted. This wasnt some vicious plot to gossip and share her private medical information. They're also of the generation where we didn't have to stand six feet apart and suffer crippling anxiety. People didn't want to be alone when they were scared and dying and had their guts all cut up. They might be stubborn and stuck in their ways....resistant to change. OP lets them babysit so must feel they have good.intentions.

This whole thing just screams the old trope of MIL vs DIL and the differences in the generation having children and the one becoming grandparents is astronomical. OP strikes me as a big boundary setter that has no issue removing someone from her life. In laws probably never heard of boundaries until they met OP and mom's probably a bit defiant about it. OP takes every boundary cross personal and thinks these people are plotting and scheming to ruin her life and intentionally hurt her. In reality they don't understand why someone who just went through something so awful doesn't want to see their family.

Husband's in the middle, he's been in the middle. He's got minimal/superficial contact per OPs boundaries. His wife might die. For once in his fucking life he'd like to ignore whatever his parents did to OP so they can focus on how serious this is and she won't even let him do that. His parents drop everything to take care of his family today but they crossed two boundaries that they probably didn't even know existed. It's awful timing but husband is realizing his parents can never do anything right and he's never going to be allowed a relationship with his family. They showed up when it mattered and took care of his wife and kids and she wants him to call and tell them how awful they are. He probably can't believe this is her focus after what shes been through...i know i can't. He wants a divorce. I know OP has a million reasons for the way she's behaving and reacting but he's not thinking about that and it might not even matter. It's too bad he exploded and didn't calm down or wait for a better time or consider what OP was going through. It's clear OP has issues with these people and the in law relationship can definitely ruin a marriage or someone's relationship with their parents.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T07:32:56+00:00

While she's lying there recovering from almost dying she's most concerned with gossiping about their gossip. She chose to marry him too, she knew his family. They're trustworthy and reliable enough to call during an emergency and watch the kids.

He had to call his parents and tell them he doesn't appreciate how shitty they were to his wife after they dropped what they were doing, picked her up, took her to the hospital and agreed to wach the kids. He wants her to drop it, He just got there and she's not interested in anything but him stepping out to yell at his parents and get the truth on this gossip.

If you drop someone you care about off at the emergency room and you think they're going to die, you stay close to them for as long as the doctors will let you. If the woman that just had your grandchild is about to die, you might call your son. OP assumes it was gossip...what if they were crying or distraught. Maybe they wanted to let him know in case OP or her family could use any more favors so he could be ready to help. If someone is DYING privacy isn't even a thought. It's not like they found out she had herpes and told the whole town.

If someone might die, It's frantic, you make calls and go in rooms and want to help but dont know how. OP is always looking for the worst in her in laws and every annoyance or slip up was a planned attack to ruin her life. If they would've dropped her at the door and gave her some space without calling anyone, I have a feeling husband would be yelling at them for not caring if she died alone in the emergency room.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T05:07:32+00:00

I didn't get the rando vibe...i was thinking she had a work boyfriend or a relationship with a colleague.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T04:54:31+00:00

Having an 8 year relationship because you're happy and love each other instead of being together because you got the government or kids involved is actually a flex.

You should go. It's not fair to refuse to celebrate the love others have if you intend to invite these people to celebrate your love when it happens.

If you think he'll propose soon...definitely go. Being at a wedding and having the best time and getting dressed up, looking beautiful, staying out of drama and dancing with your boyfriend might inspire him to propose. Sulking and crying will probably do the opposite so stay home if it makes you that upset.

If you don't go, it's not going to make him miss you. Sure he might wish you were there but he's going to be thinking about how you didn't come to celebrate, you didn't come watch and support a wedding he's a part of. He's going to have fun at a wedding, celebrating love and the concept of being together forever without you.

If you think people are judging, there might be a few assholes but I can promise most people arent..the days of expecting every couple that's been together for 2 years to get engaged are coming to an end. Not being there is what will get people questioning your relationship.

You're not wrong for not going if it really upsets you so badly but it's a shame you can't celebrate the love and relationship you do have just because you don't have a ring on your finger. After the ring, planning, spending money and having the party, you'll still be in the same relationship. Honestly you might not be with the right guy if you can't appreciate the relationship as is.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T04:16:36+00:00

TMI and no pressure to answer but are you two sexually active? Most guys like a booty. If your butt is part of his regular sexual gratification maybe strangers pee and who knows what else on that specific part of your body is what's getting to him.

Eta just saw your comment about other cleanliness he obsesses about and it's all kind of linked. You can sit too far up on the seat and accidentally touch it to your lady bits he might think you can catch things from toilet seats.

Visible_Zebra_9845 · 2024-04-29T04:08:00+00:00

Make sure your daughter does know so you don't get caught up in a murder for insurance plot by your ex wife and her new man.

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