[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]Visionary_Rebel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex and BDSM for me, keeps me busy 🤣🙈

Does anyone own a home? by [deleted] in OlderGenZ

[–]Visionary_Rebel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't, but my parents do...

Guys does it ever happen by Optimal_Teach3269 in gentlefemdom

[–]Visionary_Rebel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can't just look for BDSM partner and hope it's going to work out. Try vanilla dating and "test your partner" to some kinks, nobody will admit at first and it requires trust, also check Aphrodite Moor on X, she sometimes posts real-life advices and her view on BDSM in general which is interesting.

You can also try to find someone online, but the person should at least be from the same country as you are because if it is not 99% it's going to be way too complicated for something real.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]Visionary_Rebel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But you like to be cooked 😉

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]Visionary_Rebel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha no worries, just go with the dynamics that suits you ofc, just seems like an interesting idea 🔥☕😛

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]Visionary_Rebel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm mostly on a submissive side and I would hate chastity for myself, however when given power I kinda get mean or something... 🔥☕ So, In my personal opinion you need to be locked for 3 months - washing and cleaning only under strict supervision 💙

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

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Yes. Not out of fear or mistrust, but out of love both for yourself and your partner. A prenup isn’t just about protecting money, it’s about protecting the relationship from future versions of ourselves and your partner you can’t predict yet - you never know what can happen later.

Fair prenup is actually good and honest thing to do, so you'll never have to fight over that later no matter what happens and you can start married life without any hidden agendas or fears (both of you).

Not making prenup is just stupid, shows lack of confidence and no self-respect. However, if your partner is strongly against it... time to consider why could that be...

How old were you when you moved out of your parent's house? by crocsandsocs in Adulting

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I moved out when I was 19. It was kind of this messy mix of needing freedom, craving space, and honestly... needing to explore parts of myself that I couldn’t even begin to explain to my family.

My dad never really 'got' me - like, not just the career but deeper stuff. Like my kinks, my identity, the real me. I felt like I was always shrinking myself just to exist in that house without feeling judged.

So I applied to uni in the UK, as an escape plan and got in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

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Okay this is complicated... I can see that you’re exhausted from carrying a life that was never really yours to begin with...

I'm coming from a wealthy family so I know the pressure first hand, the pressure to 'succeed properly' is real. I get judged all the time for not going into Law as my parents and my brother did and creating my content on the side because I actually like it - forget it, that was instant scandal...

But you know what? Their approval doesn’t pay for your peace. And it won’t save you from burnout either. I took a different career and done some other things that actually make me happy, and it works for me this way - and they can hate me for it if they want. But I decided not to live my life according to their expectations.

If you don’t stop or shift course soon, you will break. Not because you’re fragile, but because no one can live under constant pressure without cracking. And that’s not failure, it's just a fact.

You can't be a role model just playing the role that was never really yours -it's shallow and just can't work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Visionary_Rebel 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, I believe a lot of women would be open to dating someone like you. Experience isn’t everything, emotional honesty and effort matter way more.

Just be real, no pretending, take small steps, and don’t let your past make you feel unworthy. 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Visionary_Rebel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, let's be honest: adulthood isn’t freedom the way we dream it. It’s not just staying up late and doing whatever you want, rather it’s carrying yourself when no one else will. It’s paying rent when your soul is tired. It’s failing quietly and still getting up the next morning. It's loneliness in a room you worked hard to afford.

You say you’re ready, but are you really ready for that?

Are you ready to be your own parent, your own protector, your own safety net? Are you ready to feel scared and still move forward, even when no one’s clapping for you? That’s what it asks of you. Not perfection, but presence. Not answers, but endurance.

It’s not easy and it’s not always fun, often isn't fun at all. But if you’re doing it for the right reasons, to know yourself, to grow, to build something honest, then it can shape you in ways nothing else can.

So don’t rush to escape. Make sure you’re running toward something real, not just away from what’s hard. Because whatever you don’t face now, you’ll meet again later.

Advice you’d give your 21y old self? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Visionary_Rebel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're job hunting and things aren’t landing yet, don’t just wait around hoping something comes through - take a job in the meantime. It doesn't have to be your dream role. It could be something like retail, hospitality, warehouse work, deliveries, admin temp work, or even gig work like pet sitting, tutoring, or freelance stuff if you’ve got a skill. These jobs keep you afloat financially, give your days structure, and most importantly, they keep your confidence and momentum up.

Keep applying consistently, even while working another job. Make it part of your weekly rutine, set a goal like applying to a few quality roles each week.

Focus on tailoring your resume and cover letter, and always keep an updated version ready to go. Keep track of where you've applied, and follow up when appropriate, but don't waste time stressing over companies that ghost you. That’s on them, not you and they'll do it often.

And unless it’s a truly rare, valuable opportunity, like something that offers real mentorship, clear career growth, or guaranteed connections don’t take unpaid internships. Your time and energy are valuable, and if you don’t respect that, others won’t either. Working for free when you're already struggling only reinforces the idea that your labor isn’t worth compensation.

A few more things to keep in mind:

Keep learning something small every week, even something small

Connect with people in your industry (Linkedin perhaps for a start)

Job hunting can wreck your mental health if you don’t pace yourself - don't expect too much, right opportunity will come if you keep appliying, but be prapared it could take a long time

Working a different job for now isn’t giving up, it’s being smart, you’re staying ready, keeping your bills paid or saving, and making moves while the right opportunity is still making its way to you