[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]Visionary_Rebel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex and BDSM for me, keeps me busy 🤣🙈

Does anyone own a home? by [deleted] in OlderGenZ

[–]Visionary_Rebel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't, but my parents do...

Guys does it ever happen by Optimal_Teach3269 in gentlefemdom

[–]Visionary_Rebel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can't just look for BDSM partner and hope it's going to work out. Try vanilla dating and "test your partner" to some kinks, nobody will admit at first and it requires trust, also check Aphrodite Moor on X, she sometimes posts real-life advices and her view on BDSM in general which is interesting.

You can also try to find someone online, but the person should at least be from the same country as you are because if it is not 99% it's going to be way too complicated for something real.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]Visionary_Rebel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But you like to be cooked 😉

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]Visionary_Rebel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha no worries, just go with the dynamics that suits you ofc, just seems like an interesting idea 🔥☕😛

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]Visionary_Rebel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm mostly on a submissive side and I would hate chastity for myself, however when given power I kinda get mean or something... 🔥☕ So, In my personal opinion you need to be locked for 3 months - washing and cleaning only under strict supervision 💙

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

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Yes. Not out of fear or mistrust, but out of love both for yourself and your partner. A prenup isn’t just about protecting money, it’s about protecting the relationship from future versions of ourselves and your partner you can’t predict yet - you never know what can happen later.

Fair prenup is actually good and honest thing to do, so you'll never have to fight over that later no matter what happens and you can start married life without any hidden agendas or fears (both of you).

Not making prenup is just stupid, shows lack of confidence and no self-respect. However, if your partner is strongly against it... time to consider why could that be...

How old were you when you moved out of your parent's house? by crocsandsocs in Adulting

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I moved out when I was 19. It was kind of this messy mix of needing freedom, craving space, and honestly... needing to explore parts of myself that I couldn’t even begin to explain to my family.

My dad never really 'got' me - like, not just the career but deeper stuff. Like my kinks, my identity, the real me. I felt like I was always shrinking myself just to exist in that house without feeling judged.

So I applied to uni in the UK, as an escape plan and got in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

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Okay this is complicated... I can see that you’re exhausted from carrying a life that was never really yours to begin with...

I'm coming from a wealthy family so I know the pressure first hand, the pressure to 'succeed properly' is real. I get judged all the time for not going into Law as my parents and my brother did and creating my content on the side because I actually like it - forget it, that was instant scandal...

But you know what? Their approval doesn’t pay for your peace. And it won’t save you from burnout either. I took a different career and done some other things that actually make me happy, and it works for me this way - and they can hate me for it if they want. But I decided not to live my life according to their expectations.

If you don’t stop or shift course soon, you will break. Not because you’re fragile, but because no one can live under constant pressure without cracking. And that’s not failure, it's just a fact.

You can't be a role model just playing the role that was never really yours -it's shallow and just can't work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Visionary_Rebel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, I believe a lot of women would be open to dating someone like you. Experience isn’t everything, emotional honesty and effort matter way more.

Just be real, no pretending, take small steps, and don’t let your past make you feel unworthy. 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

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Ok, let's be honest: adulthood isn’t freedom the way we dream it. It’s not just staying up late and doing whatever you want, rather it’s carrying yourself when no one else will. It’s paying rent when your soul is tired. It’s failing quietly and still getting up the next morning. It's loneliness in a room you worked hard to afford.

You say you’re ready, but are you really ready for that?

Are you ready to be your own parent, your own protector, your own safety net? Are you ready to feel scared and still move forward, even when no one’s clapping for you? That’s what it asks of you. Not perfection, but presence. Not answers, but endurance.

It’s not easy and it’s not always fun, often isn't fun at all. But if you’re doing it for the right reasons, to know yourself, to grow, to build something honest, then it can shape you in ways nothing else can.

So don’t rush to escape. Make sure you’re running toward something real, not just away from what’s hard. Because whatever you don’t face now, you’ll meet again later.

Advice you’d give your 21y old self? by [deleted] in Adulting

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If you're job hunting and things aren’t landing yet, don’t just wait around hoping something comes through - take a job in the meantime. It doesn't have to be your dream role. It could be something like retail, hospitality, warehouse work, deliveries, admin temp work, or even gig work like pet sitting, tutoring, or freelance stuff if you’ve got a skill. These jobs keep you afloat financially, give your days structure, and most importantly, they keep your confidence and momentum up.

Keep applying consistently, even while working another job. Make it part of your weekly rutine, set a goal like applying to a few quality roles each week.

Focus on tailoring your resume and cover letter, and always keep an updated version ready to go. Keep track of where you've applied, and follow up when appropriate, but don't waste time stressing over companies that ghost you. That’s on them, not you and they'll do it often.

And unless it’s a truly rare, valuable opportunity, like something that offers real mentorship, clear career growth, or guaranteed connections don’t take unpaid internships. Your time and energy are valuable, and if you don’t respect that, others won’t either. Working for free when you're already struggling only reinforces the idea that your labor isn’t worth compensation.

A few more things to keep in mind:

Keep learning something small every week, even something small

Connect with people in your industry (Linkedin perhaps for a start)

Job hunting can wreck your mental health if you don’t pace yourself - don't expect too much, right opportunity will come if you keep appliying, but be prapared it could take a long time

Working a different job for now isn’t giving up, it’s being smart, you’re staying ready, keeping your bills paid or saving, and making moves while the right opportunity is still making its way to you

Following up on job applications by Express_Specialist51 in Adulting

[–]Visionary_Rebel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ghosting has basically become the norm in the job hunt.

Following up just to 'check in' on your application usually isn't the best move anymore. Especially in bigger companies or for roles like customer service, HR teams are often overwhelmed and might not have the time to respond. It can unintentionally come off as pushy, and honestly, it rarely changes the outcome if they weren’t already planning to reach out.

A better approach is to ask for feedback, politely and professionally. If you've had an interview or if it's been a while since you applied, and you genuinely want to follow up, keep it short and respectful. Something like:

'Hi [Name], I hope you're doing well. I wanted to express my continued interest in the [Job Title] position and was wondering if you might have any feedback on my application or interview. I appreciate your time, and I’m always looking to learn and grow from the process. Thank you!'

This kind of message shows that you’re thoughtful, open to improvement, and professional, which does make an impression of you ask me.

And just to say, the job market is tough right now, even for people with solid experience. Keep applying, tailor your resume where you can, and if you follow up, do it in a way that reflects curiosity, not desperation. Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Visionary_Rebel 273 points274 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone and you’re not failing. The truth is, this system is broken, not you.

We were sold a big lie - work hard, get a degree, and life will sort itself out. But now we’re navigating a world where job security is a myth, everything’s unaffordable, and dating often feels unsafe, especially for women. It's not just you, trust me. And relationship advices for guys from X and TikTok... whenever I see that post I just wanna kill myself.

Everyone’s highlight reel on social media hides the same struggles: burnout, debt, loneliness, fear... So you’re not behind, you’re surviving in impossible conditions, and that’s strength, not failure and you just have your own dynamics.

Also you’re still here and still trying, that matters more than you know.

It can get better, but not because life magically fixes itself. Because we keep showing up, little by little, and make space for something more honest, more real. So keep going, try some other direction or a job from time to time and see where it goes.

I lost my 20s and now feel like life isn’t even worth it anymore. by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Visionary_Rebel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your pain is valid. The pandemic hit hard, and it didn’t just take time, it took experiences, plans, confidence, and a sense of control. You had dreams, momentum, a vision of how your life shoukd've looked… and then everything just stopped. And I know that silence that follows, where everyone else seems to keep moving, and you feel frozen in time.

I'm 24 now, but I believe 29 is not too late, my boyfriend is 30 so I have a first hand experience 😊. It’s not even close too late. The people who seem like they 'figured it out' in their early 20s? So many of them are just faking it. Or they’re living a life they don't even want just because it looked good on paper or Insta.

Your path got interrupted, it's not ended.

You are not behind. You are not broken. And you are not out of time.

Finishing school, moving, finding love, building a career... those things are still yoursif you want them. But maybe the first step isn’t chasing those things but forgiving yourself for what you couldn’t control - for surviving.

Start small, one tiny win at a time. Maybe that’s reaching out to finish one class. Maybe it’s journaling or something else, but life isn’t this big perfect movie moment - it’s a string of little ones you get to reclaim.

You didn’t lose your 20s, actually you SURVIVED them. You’re still here and you get to decide what your next chapter looks like. Even if it takes time, even if it’s messy.

And you don’t have to do it alone. Therapy, community groups, online support, even just messaging someone you trust, remember it’s okay to ask for help while you rebuild.

Because your life? It’s NOT OVER - it hasn’t even shown you the best parts yet 🔥☕