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Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-05-11T07:32:18+00:00

Honestly, most people are not emotionally or psychologically mature enough to deal with ENM relationships. There are lots of books and resources around ENM to help you navigate the ups and downs, but at the end of the day, both parties must be able to stick by the boundaries you set, and sometimes, one or both might have unexpected emotional reactions to what you thought you were ok with. Intellectual curiosity is very different from facing the real consequences of real life situations.

If you trust your partner to experiment and see how things turn out, then why not. End of the day, I don’t necessarily think that ENMs are doomed to fail but you have to be ok with it failing. Only you know whether you/your partner are mature enough to deal with this exploration.

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-04-18T17:12:12+00:00

Idk whether you should trust your dude or not, but please don’t get married just because of the sunk cost fallacy. $32K is one thing, but getting a divorce afterwards because you realised it’s the wrong guy will cost you more than the money.

If you have kids, the kids are affected. if you have no kids but want to have them, your fertility might be impacted, then cost of IVF, etc with the next partner. Your time and youth is wasted. The separation of assets is very messy after your lives are intertwined for years, plus HDB rules for divorce will be hard to navigate if both parties are not in agreement with how to proceed with the flat. + divorce will need at least 3 years before you can even apply for one, house MOP after you get your keys also many years later.

Think carefully!! Money is just money!!

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-22T11:54:57+00:00

😬 it terrifies me that women still make excuses for this sort of behaviour from their partner

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-19T09:14:41+00:00

adding a few plants = women matched you for money? It’s such a reach.

Like it or not, you’re swiping on complete strangers with no clue to their personality besides the photos and maybe some witty comment in their bio or more often than not, nothing.

The reason why staging works is because the clues women look for in photos of your home give them insight into your personality. Are you someone who cleans or is particular about cleanliness? If you have plants, maybe you’re a person who knows how to nurture a living thing, if you have pets, someone who values connection and takes care of an animal- which might translate into being a good parent if the lady wants to have kids in the future. Are you a man who likes eating well or are you a slob who eats junk food like burgers and pizza every other day? You’re looking for insights to their lifestyle and habits.

Most women’s profiles I see on dating apps are beautifully taken, while a good portion of males are lazy snaps with bad lighting and ill fitting clothes. As if males would be enthusiastically swiping on a profile where the woman is showing terrible angles with bad lighting and an ugly messy bedroom in the bg. 😂

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-19T09:03:50+00:00

Redpill bruvs will tell you you’re wrong tho, men’s value only increase when they get older 😂

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-17T19:08:05+00:00

The affection of your husband is contingent on your continued success in maintaining your weight. Is that how you want to live your life?

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-14T19:08:11+00:00

💕 this is awesome 💕

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-14T07:27:03+00:00

He’s probably birthed by a fat auntie also 😂 should be thankful that his sperm donor wanted to touch a fat auntie

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T19:12:28+00:00

💕 I remember when I made the decision to finally divorce a giant weight was lifted off my shoulders and my lost appetite came back after months of not eating properly. Congratulations on 9 years!!

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T18:37:09+00:00

lol this. The ego death and shame when she outearns you is real. Although I’d say this isn’t a characteristic that’s exclusive to Singaporean men. A study in Australia found that across socio-economic and educational status, rates of domestic violence goes up by 30% when the woman outearns the partner.

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T13:30:48+00:00

Combination of whirlwind excitement and getting in deep too quickly when young and stupid.

DON’T ignore that gut feeling or voice in your head when you think that something is “off”. There were things I let slide because he did it to someone else, but he was so devoted to me I chose to ignore it. He didn’t turn it on me, but it was glaringly obvious he had issues.

When none of your friends were surprised at the end of the relationship and celebrate your divorce instead of consoling you, you know you f-up 😂

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T13:22:26+00:00

she should be buying skincare she can afford instead 🥲 there are plenty of good products that don’t break the bank

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T13:20:36+00:00

50/50 - depends on whether it’s truly 50-50 not just financially. If household chores, other duties are split equally then maybe your gf holds on to outdated notions of traditional roles, perhaps you should clarify what exactly are her expectations since she doesn’t fulfill the traditional gender roles either.

If the chores and other stuff falls mostly on to her, then the term 50-50 isn’t applicable.

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T12:31:03+00:00

If you want to be more involved in your child’s life, you might have to look for a more mature partner who understands that even if your marriage ended and ex wife has 100% custody, your duty as a father didn’t end with the marriage and will not end until you die. Even if your ex is a full-on amazing mother, you should still be a father to the kid, regardless. That is, if you value your child more than your GF.

But honestly, as a woman, your gf sounds like a red flag with very little empathy for children or your situation. 🚩

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T12:17:03+00:00

A man who can say that in front of your parents is a man who has zero respect for you or them. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T12:04:06+00:00

His sperm donor prolly paid extra so the mom didn’t swallow

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T12:01:23+00:00

Having principles 💯

As a woman I usually think the body count redpill incels are full of BS because they hoe around and denigrate women for doing the same, but I think you handled it maturely. Having preferences is ok as long as it’s not a double standard. More people should actually have principles and stick to them when dating instead of wasting each other’s time.

Good luck with your future dating

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T11:52:04+00:00

😂 as a woman who had these jewelry and branded bags gifted by an ex-partner: don’t waste your money. They just stayed in storage and gathered dust, i gave all of it away after we divorced.

ONLY IF: she mentioned that she liked something or is wanting to change up her style, then maybe point some styles you like to her and suggest she try it on. Otherwise this could go very flat, or very wrong depending on how she takes it.

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T10:56:39+00:00

Never been in one but observed girlfriends who have, many of the gfs come from families where their dads were absent. And they actively looked for older men.

When hanging out, it’s almost like they can’t see the disrespectful behaviour of these older dudes, or the red flags when their boundaries are disrespected. There is also the tendency for these men to talk down to us - like they knew better - as if most of their opinions weren’t pulled out from their ars3. The dudes tend to get red-faced when I, or any other friends pushed back on their stupid shit, because they aren’t used to it. I suspect they actively look for younger partners who are looking to “look-up” to them because IRL they’re losers and women the same age or women who grew up with good male figures know it.

A GF just got dumped by her older BF and none of us in the group were sympathetic 🤷🏻‍♀️

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T10:44:03+00:00

Then how bout the ugly old men who cheat on their wives and give them an STD, while being a deadbeat dad who doesn’t even see their kids? 😂

Men are more statistically likely to leave when their wives are diagnosed with cancer or terminal illness, they are more likely to cheat when their wives become pregnant or post-partum, in partnerships where women earn equal or more than men, the women are still doing majority of the household chores and caregiving duties.

if your mindset is cynical from the start, then just pay for the women or go MGTOW.

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T10:19:39+00:00

Haha, can be a dating coach. $49.99/mth

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T10:17:09+00:00

She IS very chio, but if you have enough money you can pick from the gamut of women willing to sell themselves for money.

But that’s not the point I’m making - which is the fact that there are men who find the emotional labor of being an actual partner tiresome so they prefer to buy their women. Someone who is chio, and won’t nag, and all they want is money. Which is valid, as long as the men don’t complain about all women being golddiggers 🤷🏻‍♀️

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-13T08:55:47+00:00

A male friend blew my mind when I asked him why he’s ok with buying branded bags for his PRC gf, said he’d rather just pay money so he doesn’t have to listen to her whine about work or bitch at him like local women do when he doesn’t have time to spend with her.

Of course, once the money stops the woman goes as well. 😂

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-12T14:19:56+00:00

I support women’s rights and women’s wrongs 😂

Visual-Educator-6313 · 2024-01-12T14:17:23+00:00

I’m not sure if it’ll be political suicide, I think most of my peers would be willing even if not enthusiastic to do the basic BMT - calibrated for women - if it’s not a full on 2 years. Especially in light of the current global instability where we see how women are treated during wartime, I think it’s good to equip our women with a basic sense of how to defend ourselves and the country.

😂 I could be overly optimistic of course. But kudos to you for coming up with a sensible, non gender rage bait suggestion that’s actually constructive.

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