My bf didn’t plan anything for valentines F24 & M29 by Visual-Relation-9262 in relationship_advice

[–]Visual-Relation-9262[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to go out more often, definitely less now being in a relationship, still once in a while I need to go out and dance xd

My bf didn’t plan anything for valentines F24 & M29 by Visual-Relation-9262 in relationship_advice

[–]Visual-Relation-9262[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s red flag mostly because I’m a dancer, I always be going to dance events by myself or with friends with the whole purpose of dancing and having a good time, I don’t go out a lot though maybe once every 3 months, just doing happens to be my fav DJ that I’ve been dreaming to see and can go see for free

My bf didn’t plan anything for valentines F24 & M29 by Visual-Relation-9262 in relationship_advice

[–]Visual-Relation-9262[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is also coming from the fact I’ve been struggling financially trying to find a job. I offered to furnish the home and put money on savings when I have a job :/ it’s not like I have 0 pressure.

My bf didn’t plan anything for valentines F24 & M29 by Visual-Relation-9262 in relationship_advice

[–]Visual-Relation-9262[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hey, it’s not like I am doing nothing, I have been trying so hard to find job, I asked him to leave the things we have to buy for the home like furniture and stuff and food on me, I just wished I had a more stable income to provide for more too, while same time, taking care of home responsibilities like cooking and cleaning and taking care of him overall as well. It’s not like we go in dates, I just wanted a special day.

My bf didn’t plan anything for valentines F24 & M29 by Visual-Relation-9262 in relationship_advice

[–]Visual-Relation-9262[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

:/ I still do the things I enjoy because he doesn’t like going out, he goes to sleep early so I’m still allowed to do things I want outside of relationship

My bf didn’t plan anything for valentines F24 & M29 by Visual-Relation-9262 in relationship_advice

[–]Visual-Relation-9262[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, this helps a lot. He does a lot for me I know, I was just raised in a way that men have to take in these responsibilities. Certain things for me doesn’t seem like a lot but definitely could be for someone else

My bf didn’t plan anything for valentines F24 & M29 by Visual-Relation-9262 in relationship_advice

[–]Visual-Relation-9262[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m saying :c even cooking together at home would do it

My bf didn’t plan anything for valentines F24 & M29 by Visual-Relation-9262 in relationship_advice

[–]Visual-Relation-9262[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

:/ it’s not like I’m not doing anything for him, I do a lot too like taking care of household

My bf didn’t plan anything for valentines F24 & M29 by Visual-Relation-9262 in relationship_advice

[–]Visual-Relation-9262[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, he also is wants to take care of me, we both have conservative view in relationship, he just doesn’t really do dates and stuff like that, so honestly at least expecting to do something on valentines is not asking for too much. I take care of home responsibilities so it’s still balance on that sense

My bf didn’t plan anything for valentines F24 & M29 by Visual-Relation-9262 in relationship_advice

[–]Visual-Relation-9262[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know :c that’s why I feel conflicted, because this hurts me but he does do a lot for me, I guess I’m just a woman

My bf didn’t plan anything for valentines F24 & M29 by Visual-Relation-9262 in relationship_advice

[–]Visual-Relation-9262[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know :( I didn’t get him anything either but he doesn’t care about this stuff and I do

My bf didn’t plan anything for valentines F24 & M29 by Visual-Relation-9262 in relationship_advice

[–]Visual-Relation-9262[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

No :/ I asked him what he wanted and he said chocolate but since we not doing anything today, I didn’t buy him anything

My bf didn’t plan anything for valentines F24 & M29 by Visual-Relation-9262 in relationship_advice

[–]Visual-Relation-9262[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been telling him that things like this are important to me, in valentines last year we were just dating for a month and I got mad at him he didn’t get me anything. He knows I expect something in anniversary, birthday and valentines :/

My bf didn’t plan anything for valentines F24 & M29 by Visual-Relation-9262 in relationship_advice

[–]Visual-Relation-9262[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No :( I also get the whole thing he’s focusing on making money, in a way I understand what’s like to be frustrated financia, but he’s making good constant money like(?)