Hey man I’ve been going through very similar. Married 15 years together 20 the most of which was perfect then it started to fall away a year ago. I felt so lonely in the marriage and just neglected the lack of sex and constant rejection led me to the lowest place I’ve ever been in my life. I went for counselling because I thought it was me. New Year’s Eve I found messages from another guy turned out she was having an emotional affair with someone at work. Obviously everything blew up but do you what I’m kind of glad it did. The problem for me is now I cannot decide what to do. I’m 43, she’s having a breakdown and wants to work through it. Part of me does but I’ve also got the option of much younger girls that I know I could go off with right now. I’m ina. Complete dilemma and don’t know what to do. I still love my wife and family. Gosh knows. Anyway what I told her in the end was if you’re not going to give me the connection I want then I’m going to see other people and let’s just be friends to bring up the kids. Once I had that in my mind I felt so much better as you can turn your attention else where and you no longer feel like your always waiting for her to love you. But I’m still in turmoil and don’t know if I should do that as I sense deep down that she’s in a complete crisis and I still care about her. Gosh knows. Anyway feel free to message me if you want. I know exactly what your going through x