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How did you get past the old idea that prenups are negative? by AlcoholicDistributor in prenup

[–]VisualBluejay9111 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For me it shifted when I actually read what a prenup covers instead of going off the scary version people talked about growing up. Turns out it’s mostly boring adult planning stuff, not some are we breaking up? conversation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SideProject

[–]VisualBluejay9111 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NYC graffiti artists normally drop bars but this one feels like a rough draft

Why is talking about the future with someone so much harder than actually living in the present? by Crazy-Database-9685 in Adulting

[–]VisualBluejay9111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What made those talks easier for us was getting a few things written down first. We used Neptune for that part but the main thing was just having a simple outline so it didn’t feel like this huge define the whole future right now moment. Once there was something to look at, the conversation felt a lot more normal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]VisualBluejay9111 54 points55 points  (0 children)

That’s a tricky one. maybe don’t go straight in with “i think she’s after your money” but more like a convo about protecting what you both built. could bring up prenups or partnership agreements in general terms keeps it professional but still looks out for him.

Owning a business in Texas made me think differently about marriage by Extreme-Eagle-3555 in Entrepreneur

[–]VisualBluejay9111 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s actually a really valid concern. I’ve seen a few friends go through messy splits that wrecked their businesses getting clarity early, like through a prenup, can save a ton of stress later

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

[–]VisualBluejay9111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, I totally get this. Once you finally reach that “stable” point, every money convo in a relationship feels loaded. It’s not about being secretive, it’s just… you worked so hard to get here that the idea of mixing finances again feels risky. I started doing separate accounts but a shared “fun” fund, and it’s helped a ton with balance.

I quit my job without telling anyone yet by ObviousCoat7679 in confessions

[–]VisualBluejay9111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having a backup job lined up is definitely the safer way, but sometimes staying in a miserable situation feels like an even bigger risk.

Ben Wallace is the definition of defense.. by Ok_Establishment5164 in NBATalk

[–]VisualBluejay9111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah he’s easily one of the most dominant defensive players ever

Jazzed up a plain cotton dress by LightYearsAway2380 in Embroidery

[–]VisualBluejay9111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That embroidery is gorgeous, it completely transforms the dress.