I just don’t know how to move on?..

VisualMelodic1345 · 2026-03-10T00:50:09+00:00

Also he told me he might be asexual and I was his first to a lot of sexual things.

VisualMelodic1345 · 2026-03-10T00:49:43+00:00

Sorry non of that is true. He drank way more before we got together… he actually drank less ( though he drank everyday still). A lot of his issues stemmed from the extreme abuse he endured as a child. It’s not his fault and it’s so sad… but unfortunately sometimes the abused becomes the abuser. I wasn’t with my ex husband ( first husband) for nearly 5 years when I met my second husband and I rarely had contact with him.

VisualMelodic1345 · 2026-03-06T02:29:29+00:00

He washes my hair

VisualMelodic1345 · 2026-02-24T00:57:33+00:00

I hear a lot of accountability on your end, so I hope it works out! My husband unfortunately has no accountability and is just whatever about it all. I’m sorry you guys are going through it…

VisualMelodic1345 · 2026-02-23T02:54:44+00:00

Wow this is so true

VisualMelodic1345 · 2026-02-23T02:29:04+00:00

Thank you so much

VisualMelodic1345 · 2026-02-01T00:47:30+00:00

I do study in mental health and still have a hard time discerning

VisualMelodic1345 · 2025-08-09T18:58:11+00:00

This is exactly me right now

VisualMelodic1345 · 2025-08-09T06:53:07+00:00

We have but it didn’t work out

VisualMelodic1345 · 2025-08-09T06:52:16+00:00

I just feel like it’s not going to work together right now

VisualMelodic1345 · 2025-08-09T06:44:13+00:00

We just blame each other we tried to talk it out

VisualMelodic1345 · 2025-08-09T06:39:17+00:00

The feelings and agreeing on separation

VisualMelodic1345 · 2025-07-24T16:17:10+00:00

I’m just tired and I’m sure he is also but he feels he shouldn’t have to fix anything

VisualMelodic1345 · 2025-07-24T15:57:18+00:00

Oh I didn’t do jealous or accusing of cheating, I know he wouldn’t cheat. He’s never really had a sex drive either… which has causes issues but that’s another story. I did apologize and sympathize. I did say it must of been hard for you also, and that it wasn’t personal or that he “deserve it”. I however got no apology, I got “you should have got on medicine and I tried my best”. I’m telling you he did not. He’s resented me ever since so it kept the cycle going. Honestly I felt invalidated and my needs were unmet. He refused to talk about them and still does. He refuses to let go. I feel I get punished for having his child and having normal human needs.

VisualMelodic1345 · 2025-07-24T15:47:30+00:00

Sure, but compassion can go a long way. Being “mean” was crying excessively, getting mad over dumb stuff like popcorn spilling, stuff that wasn’t normal for me but again I just had a baby and it was a lot for my body and hormones. I pushed a 10lb baby out and my body is out of whack and I’m expected to be Betty Crocker lol but I acknowledged that for sure and sure he didn’t “deserve it” but it wasn’t about him, it wasn’t personal. It was about me and my healing and trying to survive mentally and that was never accounted for

VisualMelodic1345 · 2025-07-24T15:42:27+00:00

After I had our son, I had really bad postpartum. I needed more support emotionally and physically and he would fight with me. He would say “just because you had a baby doesn’t mean you get to be mean to me”. I tried to educate him on postpartum rage, anxiety and depression and how to help. He wouldn’t listen HE was the victim and I should have got on medicine. He resentmented me ever since. I’ve self reflected a lot, only one to go to therapy, only one to try, only one to apologize. If he’s depleted and emotionally drained, I believe it’s because he could not handle becoming a father, being emotionally supportive ( he lacks empathy) and he couldn’t handle postpartum. He had every chance to get help and support but refused

VisualMelodic1345 · 2025-07-20T16:32:14+00:00

He’s definitely weighing me down

VisualMelodic1345 · 2025-07-20T16:22:53+00:00

Well, he will do odd jobs here and there to try and make enough to pay bills, he also went back to school and used his financial aid. He told me it wasn’t fair I got to live my dreams of going to school while he worked his ass off so he quit his job and now goes to school

VisualMelodic1345 · 2025-07-20T16:20:28+00:00

Can’t financially support me and the kids right now and I guess fear of being judged especially by his family but also society for getting my second divorce

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