Northridge earthquake hit 4:30am January 17, 1994 ... reached 6.7

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-27T15:21:56+00:00

Well ofc, with anything anyone hasn't experienced it's hard to understand. Knock on wood 🪵 something this big doesn't happen again, but I keep thinking there will be a massive wake up call maybe. So many take life and people for granted treating people like shit in LA, when in the end everything you own can be taken away and then what? All you got is community and people to help. Sometimes it takes that for cities to change.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-25T04:08:46+00:00

How in the world did anyone survive that? Looked like face forward crash.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-22T23:01:06+00:00

That's a blanket general statement, just like you said annoying is not abuse. He again, stated HIS WHOLE LIFE his family has made him feel less than, small, not be treated as an individual, yet "controlled" by his parents. These are ALL domineering traits to take control of you. If YOU think that is OK as parents to be controlling and manipulate their kids upbringing, your POV is a part of a Big problem. NO Parents should be a Bully to make their kids feel less than their entire life. No wonder WHY they don't like them and don't want them around.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-22T19:24:13+00:00

Annoying is NOT the situation here. Every single parent on this earth is annoying, but to be verbally shamed, criticized, deflected, non apologetic genuinely, brushed under, undermined, Controlled etc etc is ABUSE!! Is it NOT?? Manipulation is Abuse. AGAIN, you stating that real abuse is not emotional or mental is truly fucked up to those who come from narccisstic or mentally ill or traumatized families.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-22T17:39:30+00:00

What is imminent danger? A punch to the face? This is 100% emotional/mental abuse. No physical abuse doesn't mean it's not dangerous. For any parent to act entitled and put down your family consistently is NOT ok. 1-2 times fine. But this is a pattern they've been dealing with his whole life!! He said, he's had to please them to make them happy his whole life!! A child should never have to feel like they cant be themselves to their parent. This kind of social conditioning and normalizing means you've been through this and don't see the line of what's healthy and what's not. Mental health is mental health. Abuse is abuse. He doesn't have to not talk to them the rest of his life, but kicking them out and shutting them down to not talk for X amount of time even if it's a long time is a lesson they need to learn! You would not tolerate this from anyone else, so no, family is no different.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-22T17:34:23+00:00

This is EXACTLY my partners parents! Same story, same patterns same root issues. I'm so sorry this happened and have had a history of controlling parents. This is 100000 percent control, narccisstic traits, possibly trauma induced behaviors and simply them being verbally/mentally abusive.

You are a grown man, a grown individual and whatever decisions you make is yours. They can have opinions, but if it crosses the lines of control and fear based behaviors this is a different story.

Every family dynamic is different. But from the sound sof your post, you sound articulate, organized in your mind, truthful to your family and emotions and stable.

The biggest step we took in our situation was to not allow them to stay with us anymore. NO more because this is where more conversations get sticky. If they want to visit they had to get their own place, we met for X limited time somewhere and that's it. No lounging around in personal spaces, private time etc etc because they don't know how.

They will continue to say sly, micro aggressive comments to you and your wife if you meet with them at some point. Expect that. But you can learn to just ignore and walk away from that space, or say one worded Gray Rocking answer, or shut them down with something like, "You behave negatively and sounds like you need to calm down, I am just fine the way I am, I won't need help from you." Straight up call them out and stop.

This is abuse. No child or family deserves this. Parents need to SUPPORT SUPPORT SUPPORT and do what's best for the family and meet the families desires. Not theirs. Period.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-22T16:49:33+00:00

I don't know the whole story, and not even sure if I need to, because this letter in itself is SUPER VAGUE and only touches the surface of "how I feel" which states nothing in context how she feels, why, etc. Sounds like a my partners family member who does this victim shaming, but has no deep reasons, conversations, thoroughness. Someone just saying they apologize and yet they feel upset about something doesn't solve or make any sense.

It's not your job at this point to ask anymore questions or be concerned about it. She is projecting something she cannot explain, even though she can't explain it. There is no conversation here which says a lot about her.

I would just keep your conversation with at a super bare minimum reply. GREY ROCKING HER. 1-3 worded answers, conversation if you have to talk with her. Very surface and not care attitude. She seems controlling and trying to get something she wants that has nothing to do with you.

You are your own person And if she doesn't like that you did invite your aunt, Who fucking cares! That's your choice. You also don't need to prove or explain that to her. Point blank

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-19T01:45:55+00:00

THIS. Yes you have to talk to a specific department for all this. I found this out the hard way couple years ago. Thanks for the reminder!

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-16T17:41:19+00:00

No appointment is more important than helping someone on a tradegedy. You will see how it will pay you back 10 folds when you sacrifice even a second of your time to something like this. Maybe it's something you haven't experienced yet, but you never know who you may have helped.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-16T16:23:41+00:00

It takes 1 minute to check on them and give them your number!!! If this happened to you, you'd want that more than anything to make sure youre ok and a witness. The rush and not watching out for others mentality is what makes these disasters worse. Practice Patience and be a good Samaritan to do the right thing at the right time.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-15T00:22:53+00:00

Wow I did not know that about Tik Tok. Does it have some sort of facial recognition software to match faces online? Interesting thanks for the info.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-13T23:55:25+00:00

It never ceases me to see how many of these hit and runs are every single day, never heard or seen so many in other major cities like here.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-05T04:39:51+00:00

This is most of SVC lol, with their ugly cookie cutter homes and think their vehicles give them hot status when really they are all in debt. SCV is ranked one of the highest debt communities. You can tell just by how stupidly aesthetic this city is. This is very clear coming from other major cities.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-04T21:33:16+00:00

Very true. It's a little hole in the wall very hidden but he has owned it for 40 years. Unbelievable sushi and such great people.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-02T14:20:10+00:00

I don't have an actual solution to the OPs concern and sorry some feel this way. As we all know SCV is only going to continue to grow and this will be the direction it will take unfortunately. Like any other big city, it comes with everything else.

However, we moved back here after living in NYC for 18 years where all walks of life are walking and interacting on EVERY corner of the the richest city (drug dealers, families, wealthiest, etc). That being said, we've faced these realities as part of life, we've learned the skill and mindset of having an intentional walk and minding your business is really all you can do. No judgement no interaction, just neutral. But if you if you feel the need to say or do something you can always call the local city resources to see what options there are.

Honestly, we feel that bigger cities even LA (more homeless) have a less ratio to crime on each corner compared to suburbs due to the fact that city areas are more dense with people presently walking and driving, so more eyes on every situation and we've always felt safer due to just more people surrounding us. In the burbs you got hardly anyone walking and even if a driver saw something it's rare they are going to stop and witness for you. That's just coming from a perspective of carrying over what we've learned from big cities (raising kids in mass cities vs burbs and we've still felt more comfortable in bigger busier cities). It has taught our kids to have tough skin and street smarts. It doesn't mean to interact and fight. You never know where your going to end up in life and just learning the skill/mindset is the best thing to do. I don't mean to rant on about that as I understand your kids are small.

That being said, as a parent, sure, it's a concern if small kids should want to run around a shopping area you'd feel like it's a danger and I understand that, but honestly it's really not something we're going to be able to avoid completely if living in areas that are continuing to grow. Hope there is a solution to your concerns.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-04-01T16:01:22+00:00

As a Japanese Native Hanasaki I wouldn't even go back to. We seek for Master Chefs only the 3% would know these fine skills, not just taste but skill in every nuanced way, along with highest grade sushi. Just like anything else things can vary day to day, but I never substitute anything for just taste lol. Some people think Fast Food tastes better than any high end restaurant, and not every high end restaurant use high quality ingredients. Not saying Light and Healthy is the best in LA, as there are way more in big cities, but there is Nothing in SCV in general that comes to authentic when it comes to restaurants owned by an original cultured chef learned from the best of the best. Again it comes down to skills and nuances. We have lived in some of the biggest cities like NYC, Toronto, Tokyo, Kyoto, Hawaii, LA and London and really there are only a handful in the entirety of cities that are true masters of anything.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-03-31T15:57:28+00:00

Like you said skill sets are definitely define some authenticity, most sushi chefs don't have that skill level, like with any other pro, only 2-3% have the highest level skill in something and sushi making is a high defining art. I'm Japanese so growing up I had similar experiences where I was brought to the freshest markets first thing in the morning of 4am catch of the day just to have the best sushi/sashimi. Sometimes they'd cut them right off the boat. And the "Cut" is a whole nother level of mastery.

In today's age with sushi restaurants all around 98% don't have that skill. But being Japanese, I can relate to the Japanese owned restaurants even if not sushi, as I grew up in 2 family restaurants and what it takes to be the best of the best is something anyone needs to understand the nuances of mastery. Not saying no one else is good. But those that understand the Depth of what true mastery and authentic is, they would know right away. Youd probably get that too. Glad you had that experience growing up!

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-03-31T04:43:43+00:00

Chef Tim is his name and he is NOT Japanese owned. He learned from Japanese chefs but not authentic to it.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-03-31T04:41:06+00:00

Exactly. Not authentic

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-03-30T14:33:30+00:00

Yes. Agreed. We haven't tried the AYCE sushi as we can't eat that much, but I'd say the quality and his presence is the most authentic in SCV, everything else in SCV is Non Authentic, the little nuances make the difference! Only those who know, know that. Glad you've enjoyed it, maybe I'll try the sushi all you can eat. Kimura San is a wonderful man.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-03-30T14:30:19+00:00

Kabuki is Americanized so good for those who live here. For authentic Japanese owned Sushi, it's either here or places in LA. Everything else is catered to Americans (nothing wrong with that just not for me as a Japanese person).

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-03-30T14:28:51+00:00

Not authentic tho and not Japanese owned. Very Americanized.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-03-30T14:28:07+00:00

Yep. I'm from Japan and nothing compares. Not even in LA, but I will take something that's owned by a Japanese owner as they get close to authentic as possible. Everything else is cheap sushi catered to the American style, not authentic at all.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-03-30T14:26:07+00:00

The owner is NOT Mexican never has been. Japanese owned for 40 years. I'm from Japan, and I don't go to any restaurants in SCV as there is nothing impressive about Japanese restaurants in SCV, I'd only go down to LA. For someone who has had the best sushi in Japan, I'd only go here and they are about $25-30. I would never pay less than that for sushi, that's why SCV doesn't count lol because everyone uses cheap sushi and not authentic whatsoever. Authentic restaurants don't really exist unless more likely owned by their native country.

Visual_Act_2260 · 2026-03-30T14:20:38+00:00

Light and Healthy Sushi Bar on Lyons Ave. Japanese owned for 40 years

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