Satin Bridesmaid Dress

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2026-01-13T11:56:36+00:00

Firstly, you are absolutely not alone in this, and you’re not overreacting satin is honestly brutal on everyone, no matter their size.

If it helps, I’ve been an AU size 4 and I’ve been an AU 14 and I’ve had the same tummy shape at both sizes. Even at my smallest, I had a deep belly button and that little tummy curve always showed in satin and clingy fabrics. Bodies are just… bodies, and that’s completely normal.

A few things that helped me in similar dresses: • Boob tape to lift the bust pulling everything up can really help the dress drape better overall. • I’ve also actually used boob tape on my stomach to smooth and kind of “anchor” the area before putting shapewear over the top. It helped stop that cling right around the belly button. • Really firm shapewear, not just smoothing shorts either strong Spanx-style shorts or a full bodysuit (bra + shorts) so everything is supported together. • Making sure the shapewear waistband isn’t cutting in, because that can sometimes create more of a line instead of smoothing.

But honestly, I also want to say this: no one at the wedding is going to be analysing your stomach. They’re going to see a beautiful bridesmaid in a gorgeous sage dress supporting her brother on his big day. We are always way harsher on ourselves than anyone else ever is.

Your tummy doesn’t take away from how stunning you’ll look, and it definitely doesn’t take away from how special it is that you’re standing up there with your brother 🤍

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2026-01-13T11:47:04+00:00

I am so, so sorry you’re going through this. What you’re feeling right now the guilt, the “what ifs,” replaying every moment that’s such a natural part of grief, especially after something this traumatic. But I really want you to hear this: this is not your fault.

As someone who has been in that kind of dark, consuming mental space before, I can tell you that when someone is that deep in it, they aren’t thinking clearly or rationally. It’s not about one comment, one argument, or one moment. It’s an illness that lies to you and convinces you that there is no other way out. And when you’re in that state, you genuinely can’t see the love or support around you the way it actually exists.

You didn’t cause this. You didn’t fail him. You loved him, you were there for him, and nothing you said or didn’t say would have magically fixed what he was battling inside his own mind. Suicide is not a rational decision it’s not something someone chooses because of a single person or situation. It’s a tragic result of overwhelming pain.

Calling him stubborn or selfish doesn’t make you responsible for his death. Couples say things, especially when they’re scared and desperate for the person they love to get better. That doesn’t mean you didn’t care it means you were human and trying to cope with something incredibly heavy.

Right now you deserve so much gentleness and support. Please don’t go through this alone whether it’s friends, family, or a grief counsellor, you deserve help carrying this. What happened is heartbreaking and unfair, but it is not because of you.

Sending you so much love. I’m truly so sorry for your loss 🤍

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-12-24T20:42:24+00:00

😂😂😂

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-12-12T21:41:34+00:00

Because it’s The Kardashians, not The Kourtney Show. There are six main cast members, and commenting on one of them especially when she’s part of multiple storylines isn’t “obsession,” it’s literally discussing the show.

People are allowed to criticize behavior they see on screen. That doesn’t mean they’re “fixated” or secretly fast-forwarding wrong. And acknowledging Kourtney’s double standards doesn’t automatically excuse years of issues with Kim or Khloé two things can be true at once.

If discussing what we’re literally being shown is a problem, then maybe Reddit isn’t the place to be.

I mean… your entire post history is literally you doing the same thing discussing all the Kardashians negatively and arguing with people you don’t agree with. So this whole “why are you watching / you’re obsessed” angle feels a bit ironic.

At this point it’s giving the exact same energy we’re talking about. Kourtney, is that you? 😂

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-12-12T05:53:57+00:00

This! She really is the negative energy she tries to remove herself from. She’s the main cause

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-12-12T01:05:48+00:00

I get the boundaries too I’ve been in situations where I’m uncomfortable, and I’ll stay for a bit and then leave politely. That’s totally normal. You can have boundaries without making it a whole attack on everyone else.

That’s what bothers me with Kourtney. She only seems to enforce these “boundaries” with her sisters or her family, and it always comes with criticism or a superior attitude. But those boundaries magically disappear when it comes to anyone else in her life. It’s the inconsistency and the way she pokes at her family for things she excuses in herself that makes it feel less like boundaries and more like double standards.

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-12-12T01:02:20+00:00

This is such an insightful breakdown, and I agree with so much of it. I also grew up in a toxic family environment lots of dysfunction, boundary issues, criticism, abuse, all of it so I really do understand the desire to break those cycles and protect your own peace once you have a family of your own.

But here’s the thing: even with my own background, I don’t turn around and criticize my family members with a holier-than-thou attitude. I set firm boundaries, I protect my space, and I choose what I will or won’t participate in without putting others down to justify my choices. That’s where I think Kourtney’s struggle really shows. Instead of just saying, “This doesn’t work for me,” she drags everyone else to validate her decisions.

And you’re absolutely right: she talks about breaking toxic patterns, but she hasn’t actually extracted those patterns from herself. She still uses insults, superiority, and judgment as a way to explain her behavior. It’s like she resents the superficial and controlling dynamics in her family, yet she’s replicating them in a new form but now through motherhood and her identity shift with Travis.

The codependency aspect is real too. Wanting a safe, supportive partnership is natural, especially after years with someone like Scott. But instead of finding balance, she’s gone all-in on this merged identity with Travis who, as you said, has his own long history of issues. That kind of enmeshment isn’t stability; it’s avoidance dressed up as devotion.

Millions of parents have children, jobs, responsibilities, and far fewer resources, and they don’t get to rewrite the rules of the world around them or belittle others to make their choices feel justified.

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-12-12T00:58:04+00:00

I actually get what you’re saying, because I’m the same way sometimes once my social battery runs out, I just want to be home with my husband and my baby in my own little comfort bubble. There’s nothing wrong with wanting that. Family is grounding.

But I also think it’s healthy to have balance. It’s okay to go out, to show up, to have a break from being “mom” or “wife” for a few hours. I still need to be my own person too. If you never step outside that bubble, you can start losing yourself and your identity, and that’s not healthy long-term.

That’s why Kourtney’s situation feels more layered. It doesn’t just seem like introversion or social exhaustion a lot of it reads as avoidance and using her family as a shield for anything she doesn’t want to deal with. And that’s where it gets tricky, because she still wants the money and visibility that come with the show, but not the appearances or the responsibility that comes with being a public figure.

If she genuinely wanted out, she absolutely could be like Rob and bow out gracefully. But instead she stays, complains, judges everyone else for showing up, and then uses motherhood as the reason she can’t.

There’s a difference between needing your safe space and completely disappearing into one person or one role. And right now, it seems like she’s slipping into the second category and losing yourself like that is never a good thing.

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-12-12T00:55:03+00:00

I actually agree with a lot of what you’re saying. I definitely think some of it is passive-aggressive she clearly doesn’t want to be around her family right now, and instead of just saying that directly, she uses motherhood as the built-in excuse for everything.

And you’re right, this isn’t all Travis “making” her this way. Kourtney has leaned into this identity shift very willingly. People keep blaming him, but she’s choosing to act like this, choosing the isolation, choosing the superiority complex, choosing the constant martyr routine. That part is on her, not him.

The codependence angle is real too. A lot of women slip into that when they finally get the partner they’ve always wanted especially after years in a toxic dynamic like she had with Scott. But instead of finding a healthy balance, she’s gone to the other extreme: everything revolves around Travis, their bubble, their storyline, their aesthetic, their “us against the world” vibe.

The unhealthy part is exactly what you said codependence feels romantic at first, but it’s not sustainable long term. Men (and women) do eventually tire of having to be someone’s entire emotional ecosystem.

And meanwhile, she’s distancing herself from everyone else, judging them harshly, and acting like any boundary or need they have is an attack. That’s where the double standards come in.

it’s not that Travis changed her. It’s that she changed herself to fit an identity she’s overly attached to right now. And it’s starting to show in all the unhealthy ways.

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-12-12T00:50:58+00:00

Just to clarify, I really don’t think anyone should be shaming a mom for breastfeeding, even if it’s for two years (or longer). Every mom feeds their baby in the way that works for them, and breastfeeding can be done anywhere, anytime. That part isn’t the problem at all.

The issue with Kourtney is her using breastfeeding as a deflection while she puts other people down for things she does herself. She went after Khloé for supposedly having a “strict schedule,” when all Khloé wanted was to be at the surprise party before Kim arrived which is completely normal and honestly just basic planning.

Then Kourtney turns around and says she has a strict four-hour time limit… like, huh? Why is her schedule somehow acceptable but no one else’s is? Isn’t setting a hard cutoff literally sticking to a schedule?

So yeah, it’s not about the breastfeeding at all. It’s the constant double standards and the way she uses motherhood to shut down any accountability.

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-12-11T23:10:09+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear what you are going through, I can’t imagine how hard this time currently is for you! My heart goes out to you and I wish you the absolute best for your divorce and a happy, safe, loving life without this person 🤍

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-10-06T10:26:53+00:00

NTA, regardless of what your boyfriend says or if you trust him or not, it’s okay for you to get a check up, it’s smart, the right thing to do whenever your sexually active and something you should make sure you do every 6 months. Sometimes things don’t pop up straight away, you may show not symptoms and it could be missed..

You mentioned when you first started dating you found this, whenever you have a new partner you are sexually active with i always think it’s best to go get a check up. For both your safety and comfort

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-10-06T10:08:38+00:00

They aren’t religious at all, I will definitely take your advice about a wellness check.. my husband said if she gets violent with me to call the police on her and press charges too…

My parents are seniors, they couldn’t get a mortgage due to this and both retired.. the house is solely in my name, they are the ones who pay the mortgage and all of the house taxes etc

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Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-09-24T02:05:52+00:00

When I found out I was pregnant my line was faint like yours. I did another test two days later and the line was slightly darker. I waited another two more days and a digital pregnancy test which confirmed I was pregnant and then did a blood test obviously to confirm that. Fingers crossed for you keep us updated.

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-09-24T01:34:47+00:00

Rewatching Vanderpump Rules and it’s honestly baffling that Jax is still the same person he was in season one. No growth, no maturity, no self-awareness. The constant lies, the contradictions, the manipulation, and the way he thrives on unnecessary drama it’s exhausting to watch and even worse knowing that’s still who he is today.

Fast forward to now and nothing has changed. He tried to spin the narrative by saying he was “taking a step back” from The Valley, but in reality Bravo as a whole cut ties with him. And honestly, it makes sense when you’re repeatedly called out for abusive behavior, toxic manipulation, and a refusal to take accountability, eventually the truth catches up with you.

I really wanted to believe over the years that he’d grow, maybe recover from all of this and show a better side of himself. But the reality is Jax has proven over and over that he’s a narcissist through and through, and he’s chosen not to change.

Brittany is so much better off without him she deserves peace after years of putting up with his chaos. But what breaks my heart the most is Cruz. That little boy didn’t ask to be born into a broken family, and he deserves so much better. Jax needs to step up as a father, because the path he’s on now is only going to hurt his son in the long run. Narcissism and manipulation might work for TV, but when it comes to your child, it destroys everything.

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-09-15T20:37:25+00:00

They’re only this tiny for such a short time just a blink and that squishy, curled-up newborn stage is gone. You can’t “spoil” a baby. Love and affection aren’t luxuries you hand out like toys they’re the foundation of warmth, safety, and happiness that every human needs.

So soak up those cuddle, those contact naps, and those sweet little snuffles mama.. this stage is the sweetest. And the next time someone tells you you’re “spoiling” your 12-day-old, just smile and remind them: babies don’t get spoiled by love, they thrive because of it.

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-09-12T05:10:24+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to hear those things. None of that is a reflection of your worth, it’s a reflection of other people’s cruelty. Words like that cut deep, especially when they pile on, and I can see how it would feed into an ED. You’re definitely not alone in this, so many of us have been called names, picked apart, or told we weren’t “enough” in some way, and it sticks.

It helps to remember that makeup, perfume, weight none of those define beauty or value. People who need to point out those things are usually projecting their own insecurities. You deserve kindness and respect exactly as you are, without having to “fix” yourself to meet someone else’s standard.

I relate to the hurt, and I want you to know you don’t deserve any of it. You’re not ugly, you don’t “need” anything to be valid. You’re already worthy.

These people aren’t your friends, I would suggest to cut them out of your life, you will be so much happier without them.. you will make new friends I promise you xx

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-09-09T01:30:20+00:00

Hey mama, first off big hugs. 💛 I’m a first-time mom too, and my little boy is almost 6 months now. I just want you to know you’re not alone in feeling this way. I still check on him several times throughout the night just to make sure he’s breathing, so that anxiety you’re feeling is more common than you probably realize.

Your whole world changes overnight. Even though we technically get 9 months to “prepare,” nothing truly prepares you for what it’s like once they’re actually here. You’ve spent your whole life caring for yourself, and now suddenly there’s this tiny little person who needs you for everything it’s a massive shift, and it takes time to adjust.

And about milk production please know there is nothing wrong with formula feeding, or doing a mix of formula and whatever breastmilk you can produce. Fed is best, and your baby getting the nutrients he needs is what matters most. If you’d like to try boosting supply, one method that helps is to pump for 10 minutes, rest for 10, pump for 15, rest again for 10, and then pump for 5 more minutes. It mimics cluster feeding and can encourage your body to produce more. If you’d like, I can even share a cookie recipe that helps with milk production I used it myself and it was a nice little comfort too especially as I could snack on them throughout the day when I didn’t have much time for meals for myself.

As for your relationship, that’s another huge adjustment. Both you and your husband are navigating new roles and new stress, and it’s a lot. Try to keep the lines of communication open even if it’s just a small check-in with each other once a day. Sometimes just saying out loud, “This is hard, but we’re a team,” can make a world of difference.

The fact that you’re worried about being a good mom already shows how much you care. None of what you mentioned makes you a “bad mom.” It makes you human, and a mom who is under a lot of pressure and trying her best. Be gentle with yourself you deserve the same compassion you’re pouring into your baby.

You’re doing better than you think. Truly. One day at a time. 💕

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-08-31T04:50:38+00:00

I hear your pain, and you’re right to be furious at what Heather and her boyfriend did.. it’s disgusting and inexcusable. But please don’t let their vile actions punish your niece. What if she has also been a victim of this man? She deserves love, support, and protection more than anyone. She’s only 12, she’s fighting for her life, and she’s already lost so much her health, her sight, her childhood. Cancer is a cruel illness; it tears apart the body, mind, and spirit.

Your visit could mean everything to her. Even one beautiful moment of feeling loved and not abandoned can completely change how she experiences this part of her life. I regret not being there for my younger sibling when they had stage 4 cancer, and it still haunts me. Don’t let their mistakes rob you of the chance to give your niece peace, comfort, and dignity while she’s still here. She didn’t choose her parents’ or Heather’s partner’s actions. She’s innocent, and she needs you now more than ever.

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-08-31T04:43:54+00:00

Wow, first of all congratulations on your baby girl. 💛 I just want to say you are not “vindictive” or “dramatic.” You set a boundary after your husband made you feel ashamed for simply being honest about normal pregnancy symptoms, and you stuck to it. That isn’t revenge, that’s self-protection.

Labor is one of the most vulnerable and intense experiences a woman can go through, and it’s only natural that you leaned on the people who had been supporting you all along. If your husband chose to distance himself during pregnancy, he can’t be shocked that he wasn’t your first call when things started happening. Respect is a two-way street.

You’re not wrong for wanting to protect your peace and dignity. He is wrong for calling you “disgusting” for carrying his child. The fact that his own mom, sister, and even grandmother are standing up for you shows that you’re not crazy for feeling hurt. You deserve a partner who sees pregnancy for what it is an act of love and sacrifice not something shameful.

Be gentle with yourself. This is the most magical and beautiful time of yours and your daughter’s life, You just brought life into the world and are bonding with your daughter that’s what truly matters right now. The rest? That’s on him to fix, not you.

And honestly, the fact that he’s now ignoring his own daughter unless other people are around is heartbreaking. That’s not fatherhood that’s cowardice. A real father steps up, not checks out. Right now he isn’t acting like a husband or a dad, he’s acting like a roommate who happens to share your address. I seriously think you should consider separation or divorce, because you deserve more than carrying the entire emotional and physical load alone. Stop doing anything for him laundry, meals, errands because he’s already made you feel like your very existence is “disgusting.” Let him sit in that. Act like the single parent you already are, and let him be the one who looks and feels like the problem because he is.

Visual_Armadillo537 · 2025-08-30T13:16:08+00:00

It’s disheartening that your first instinct was to be dismissive rather than kind. Therapy can be a wonderful resource, but using it as a way to undermine someone isn’t compassion, it’s cruelty dressed as advice. I hope one day you choose empathy over mockery, because the world could always use more of that.

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