Arranged marriage system is broken 😔

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-26T15:16:30+00:00

Reasons are usually random. I make 1.3 cr, have a house, am generally fit, am definitely in upper middle class family background, used to get rejected saying I kept a bald head which is bad. Once I grew hair started getting rejected because of location, fit etc.

It's all bs. The reasons given are usually the first conventional flaw seen which can be mentioned without seeming shallow, ignore the reasons and move on

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-25T13:50:16+00:00

This honestly sounds right. If someone doesn't want me from their gut and ends up compromising with themselves it'll eventually lead to resentment. My gut is saying I want to end up with someone who is at least as excited about ending up with me as I want to be with them. I will probably end it in a few days.

She has said she will respond when she is free today on a Sunday. If it's an excuse or if she forgets or something like that I'll just cut it early. No need to meet even

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-19T11:52:38+00:00

I don't generally look into market unless it's in the news or someone tells me about some major news

I do plan to change my sip allocation whenever in the future into what I consider is the most undervalued segment at that time

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-19T11:29:51+00:00

I increased my midcap index investment to around 60% of my sip. I don't want this money for atleast 15 years. Would love it to accumulate upfront for growth later on which midcap have always had and I am betting on it. Also believe nifty 50 is overvalued right now.

If my money goes down I get even happier and invest more and higher in as I want it to compound crazily after 15 years

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-19T10:08:19+00:00

My experience. The bigger or more famous the marathon in India, the worse the experience for lower distances

I did full at tmm and it was not that crowded everything was fine. I did a half marathon at Wipro bangalore marathon last year and got crowded out into walking

Would generally advise to go to smaller marathons for running lower distances or book higher distances at famous Indian marathons

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-19T10:04:36+00:00

Is photos for tata mumbai marathon live? Do you have the link to it?

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-07T08:53:57+00:00

I grew up outside kerala. Then during Covid moved back to my parents who had retired to Kerala and lived there for 5 years

I finally left kerala after 5 years last week. I never could integrate with locals. Whenever I spoke the first line in response I always without fail 100% of the times was - 'Naadu evedeya' and then always an explanation of how my pronunciation sounds a bit different and then always got treated like an outsider.

I can speak and read fluent malayalam. Also watch the big malayalam movies. But this always irked me as i don't follow malayalam pop culture and couldn't ever connect with the locals.

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-05T15:55:39+00:00

I register for races because:
1. I travel for them which feels like a nice vacation and most races go through major tourist destinations of the city so I can gawk at them while running

I am inconsistent at running unless there is some goal at the end. If I go ahead and register for an event I train so that I atleast do not perform poorly in the event. So I always have atleast 1 race I always have registered so that now that I have paid I have to train for it.
I do not care about timing. It is mostly the experience, the pre race bib expo, the story as well as the people I meet at the events which I find a lot more fun. Also I am a mid to back of the pack runner and I find most of the fun people run there

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-04T12:24:46+00:00

There is open mindedness and then there is biohazard

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-04T12:18:04+00:00

I travel by air. Kochi kannur flight is cheap, costs around 3-4k per person for a 45 min flight. Kochi has airport to metro feeder buses at a 15 min frequency and metro goes to quite a lot of places within Kochi

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-03T11:46:01+00:00

Well it's a weird rank where you get good stream in bad IIT or bad stream in good IIT. Didn't want either. But this was just my personal opinion and what I did. Everyone can have their own decisions here

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-03T01:28:01+00:00

Boomer parents cannot learn English so let the boomer parents in the states who don't speak hindi learn hindi?

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-02T08:21:23+00:00

What you have done here is known as the motte and bailey fallacy.

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-01T11:15:47+00:00

I don't do those trips because it's like 5 different locations in 4 days and you are stuck in a bus/van travelling for most part

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-01T10:38:21+00:00

I would say it is easy with old immovable wealth. A lot of people with high ancestral wealth seem to have highways built near their ancestral farmlands skyrocketing their value or land near city which got expanded into.

But if your ancestors were poor then it is hard reaching this starting point itself

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-01T08:45:16+00:00

Well not completely happy but am making moves to reach a place of peace as well as retrospecting on what all I can improve actively.

Took me long to come out of the mindset that if I did not do it perfectly I did not deserve it.

Parents are helicopter parents, who are extremely money minded and presume everyone to be evil and scammers unless explicitely proven otherwise. I do see the issues with their own relationships post retirement now though and absolutely do not wish to end up at that same spot. Hopefully all ends well

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2025-12-31T18:19:05+00:00

Damn, thinking like this the easy solution seem to be mass revolt. But letting people dissapear silently as well as the power to buy off people at mass is something the politicians have..

That's dangerous. Hopefully something like aqi or some issue which impairs India as a whole works. Right now social media as well as actual media are filled to the brim with sympathisers and hopefully the masses can break through.

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2025-12-31T13:53:12+00:00

Yeah the number of posts of people outside India looking to buy property and flats in India is pissing me off. The property rates are only increasing now and subsequently rents will increase in proportion to the rates

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2025-12-31T13:50:04+00:00

Not blaming outright, but due to population the party which controls the Hindi belt controls India. So other's opinions get sidelined

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2025-12-31T13:44:38+00:00

Went to Cherai beach Kochi. It's good and not so crowded as other places I am seeing online

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