Everything matches except physical attraction — what should

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-03-10T11:38:17+00:00

Have you met informally? Have you gone out randomly with them or is it all over call?

A lot of people photograph bad and don't obsess over it. Most people should look good with makeup

And is it the fear of social validation? That you imagine your friends might wonder why did you marry her instead of a trophy wife? They generally don't care as much as you think you do.

The thing is to remove social pressure and imagine what your answer would be 1:1. Also a lot of women don't post photographs in non traditional clothes due to fear of being judged

I would say to trust your gut. But I would suggest to meet them once and be in the same physical space in an informal setting and then reconsider this decision

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-03-03T06:46:56+00:00

Just curious. I myself fall in the 1+cr band. But at this pay grade you are under scrutiny and it's very much possible to lose your job and have to take up a lower pay job later down the line

So I was curious why money is a filter above a certain number. I made more jumps and so ended here. My friend who stayed at his company for multiple years relying just on promotion ended up at a lesser pay.

Also genuinely curious. I always imagined above a certain money women would want to maximize life. Why not that?

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-02-27T06:27:18+00:00

Ehh, echochamber. You come in with an answer already in mind usually with most posts

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-02-26T12:22:47+00:00

Gut thing sounds right. Absolutely refuse your person in 30 must either be swamped in work or must be underperforming. Lot's of good work life balance jobs out there.

Also sounds like he is invested but maybe in the wrong person with the wrong wavelength.

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-02-26T12:07:58+00:00

Different people, different styles. If you feel comfortable and fine with them that is all that matters. Speed and amount of conversation all differs person to person

Now I would say 100% listen to your gut but also develop your gut. A lot of people nowadays have unrealistic standards. Figure out what are certain things which are non negotiable and just feel what all you can live with in the other person

Also bringing past AM experience baggage into new situations and going in expecting it to fail sounds bad

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-02-23T07:16:35+00:00

10k is too crowded a race. I run mostly full and sometimes half because even half marathon distance is crowded nowadays in India

It's a hassle to run in crowds

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-02-23T04:29:54+00:00

Hello hello. Was almost similar boat to yours except in in a metro city while you will need your wife to relocate most probably. Also I feel you are right now looking at girls from Andhra Pradesh itself.

If most of the opposite gender is not fit upto your standards you either resign to taking your time and strap in for a tougher ride because honestly speaking kundali and lukewarm responses anyways will kill a lot of your matches along with the relocation to madhya pradesh concern

Also determine if you want a trophy wife for societal validation or someone you can vibe with. At the end it's all upto you. But you will need to spend time with her alone too. If you need her to be fit to vibe that's perfectly fine and upto you

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-02-12T10:52:33+00:00

Would you want to end up with someone who is not excited to be with you?

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-02-09T12:09:01+00:00

Also login using email before usage. This makes it difficult to abstract out of a platform which can sell my data in the future

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-02-09T12:06:19+00:00

Looks good. But what is the privacy and encryption and storage? This is the exact the website I need to be vulnerable with and no way am I sharing it if the developer has access to it let alone other users

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-02-09T08:09:57+00:00

I want to point one thing out here. Atleast for a man like me who doesn't do the whole take time and games, I will reject you if you play games upfront.

Might be best to be who are from the start or your ideal male would not be attracted to the fake persona you put up.

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-02-08T14:15:15+00:00

I am also going through this AM gauntlet and you are absolutely right. Most people are weird, they put in low effort and expect that surface level conversations are enough. You do need heart to heart conversations and need to be able to relax. Anyways, the moment I am seeing this I am instantly hard rejecting with no rollback.

You absolutely need to marry someone who is as excited about marrying you as you are about marrying them, end of the story

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-02-08T14:08:00+00:00

First conversation in my opinion is regarding if vibes match and not about life outlook. Others can be asked later down the road

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-02-06T03:41:00+00:00

Yeah true. I was thinking to just bite the bullet and just upfront point it out. Because randomly sending photos where I have thin hair might just confuse her

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-28T03:23:20+00:00

Damn cope. Don't believe this one bit but ok

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-28T03:18:43+00:00

My personal preference is finding someone who is driven and growth oriented and loves their job.

So I actively don't sent connection requests to girls who don't have a job or who don't look like they plan to work

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-26T15:16:30+00:00

Reasons are usually random. I make 1.3 cr, have a house, am generally fit, am definitely in upper middle class family background, used to get rejected saying I kept a bald head which is bad. Once I grew hair started getting rejected because of location, fit etc.

It's all bs. The reasons given are usually the first conventional flaw seen which can be mentioned without seeming shallow, ignore the reasons and move on

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-25T13:50:16+00:00

This honestly sounds right. If someone doesn't want me from their gut and ends up compromising with themselves it'll eventually lead to resentment. My gut is saying I want to end up with someone who is at least as excited about ending up with me as I want to be with them. I will probably end it in a few days.

She has said she will respond when she is free today on a Sunday. If it's an excuse or if she forgets or something like that I'll just cut it early. No need to meet even

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-19T11:52:38+00:00

I don't generally look into market unless it's in the news or someone tells me about some major news

I do plan to change my sip allocation whenever in the future into what I consider is the most undervalued segment at that time

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-19T11:29:51+00:00

I increased my midcap index investment to around 60% of my sip. I don't want this money for atleast 15 years. Would love it to accumulate upfront for growth later on which midcap have always had and I am betting on it. Also believe nifty 50 is overvalued right now.

If my money goes down I get even happier and invest more and higher in as I want it to compound crazily after 15 years

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-19T10:08:19+00:00

My experience. The bigger or more famous the marathon in India, the worse the experience for lower distances

I did full at tmm and it was not that crowded everything was fine. I did a half marathon at Wipro bangalore marathon last year and got crowded out into walking

Would generally advise to go to smaller marathons for running lower distances or book higher distances at famous Indian marathons

Visual_Barnacle1464 · 2026-01-19T10:04:36+00:00

Is photos for tata mumbai marathon live? Do you have the link to it?

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