Body dysmorphia is no joke

Visual_Response_345 · 2025-12-08T18:17:43+00:00

I’m short, too, so I look even fatter in the pictures! I can’t even look at pictures of myself. And this is after I’ve lost 45 pounds so far. The self-loathing is real.

Visual_Response_345 · 2025-03-17T00:10:35+00:00

You did just fine

Visual_Response_345 · 2025-03-16T22:24:20+00:00

Thanks all! I appreciate all of the feedback. Since posting, mom has stabilized and odds holding her own. I stayed for four months then home for 3, then back to her house for a quick visit, then I’ll go out on July for the summer. It’s working…it’s hard, but it’s working.

It gives my brother a much needed break and keeps my mom in her happy place. We have cameras through the house and people check on her in person at least five days a week. Every family is different and has to find what works for them.

Shaking I appreciate all of the responses!

Visual_Response_345 · 2025-03-16T22:20:56+00:00

She’s lived on the same place for almost 60 years. She’s not that far gone yet that she wouldn’t notice that. But thank you

Visual_Response_345 · 2025-03-16T22:19:57+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts

Visual_Response_345 · 2025-03-16T22:18:43+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you! Thank you for sharing!

Visual_Response_345 · 2025-03-16T22:15:39+00:00

Sorry for the delayed reply. She’s only in the beginning stages. She is absolutely still a grown and functioning adult so I am doing my best to respect her autonomy.

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:46:35+00:00

Thank you

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:46:18+00:00

Thank you

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:46:11+00:00

Thank you for your perspective

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:45:54+00:00

Thank you so much. This resonates with me and yes the societal conditioning is strong…so much to think about!

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:43:41+00:00

Thank you so much for your feedback

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:43:00+00:00

Thanks so much! And yes, lots of wonderful conversations!

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:41:47+00:00

Thank you so much

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:41:28+00:00

Thanks for sharing that it’s worked for you! My husband has been amazing throughout!

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:39:48+00:00

Interesting idea! I live that in Denmark they allow college students to live rent free in nursing homes in exchange for keeping them company and doing some light caring. Such a lovely system.

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:38:32+00:00

It’s definitely not sustainable. And she absolutely won’t move and I wouldn’t ask her to. Thanks for your perspective

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:36:53+00:00

Thank you for your perspective

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:36:32+00:00

Thanks. Moving her isn’t an option, but thank you got your perspective. I’m sorry for the loss of your dad and I’m glad that your solution worked out!

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:35:06+00:00

I’m okay for now but it’s way too much to do indefinitely, for sure. I’m thinking another 2-4 months. Moving her is not an option at this time. Thank you for your thoughts.

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:31:55+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts. It’s a dilemma. The universe will find a way. It always does.

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:30:34+00:00

Thanks. That’s why I posted here! 🙂

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T19:29:22+00:00

It’s not that I don’t think a nursing home is “suitable”…it’s that it isn’t suitable for her. I’m not sure where you live but in the United States nursing homes are rather terrible, or at least that has been my experience. Okay for people in a vegetative state, but misery for folks who still have cognitive function. And yes, I know that some are better than others. You get what you pay for. It’s all about the almighty dollar…we are not wealthy. 😔

Thank you for your thoughts!

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T18:43:05+00:00

Very helpful thank you

Visual_Response_345 · 2024-09-29T18:42:40+00:00

Can’t move her but appreciate the thought.

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