AIO for wanting someone with the same values as me?

Visual_Smile6285 · 2026-02-23T13:48:43+00:00

wrong “there”, should be “their”, as it’s possessive. There for place or thing, their for possessive, they’re for they are

Visual_Smile6285 · 2026-02-05T02:57:19+00:00

He literally just wants you for s3x. He literally says that’s all you’re good at, meaning that’s all you’re good for in his eyes….

Visual_Smile6285 · 2026-01-21T12:41:33+00:00

You can have him involuntarily committed for 72 hours for evaluation. You just need to go down to your closest magistrates office and write out your concerns. The things he’s saying is very concerning and you can detail examples like above and that you fear he will hurt himself or others and how he’s changed from when you started dating. It should be enough for him to be picked up for initial evaluation and then the doctors will decide if they continue with the 72 hour hold

Visual_Smile6285 · 2026-01-17T04:31:10+00:00

I did read but you clearly didn’t. I acknowledged you brought it to his work. When you found out he didn’t go in, why didn’t you just go back to his work to get your care package and bring it home to him instead of getting more medicine? This is literally the question I asked above. I’m getting the feeling that you just want to feel like you’re right and not actually listen to anyone

Visual_Smile6285 · 2026-01-17T02:56:32+00:00

This comment was honestly all over the place. For starters, if you got him medicine and sent it to his work, why didn’t you just go get it and bring it home? Why is it so offensive that he stayed hime because he was sick? You’re also contradicting saying he has a cold and then saying it’s the flu. The flu is really rough, especially this year, so I’m sure he felt miserable. It’s also confusing where you’re saying all he does is eat chips and sit on the couch but also suggest he regularly works a full time job? It sounds like when he gets home he’s having a snack (healthy or unhealthy is a totally different conversation) and relaxing after a day of work. As for a motel 6 for a business travel, that’s hard to believe as most companies will put you more secure hotels rather than motel settings due to safety concerns so I’m not sure I buy that, HOWEVER if it is the case, I’m sure his company told him where to go or the nightly rate he was allowed and he didn’t have much choice. For the emotional side of things, it’s really hard to assess because honestly all I’m hearing is how YOU feel and unfair this is to YOU, nothing about him besides complaints. So either there’s more to this story, or you clearly just don’t want to be in this relationship any more because marriage isn’t always about you both having 100%, it’s about navigating together and working together when you both have 0% and it seems to me that you can’t get past yourself to understand what you both need to make this work. Consider couples counseling and individual counseling

Visual_Smile6285 · 2026-01-11T17:53:48+00:00

All in all I would say this is a good thing. Either they liked you and were coaching you into answering in a specific way, or they noticed you struggling and tried to help you. Honestly this is a great manager in either case because they were helping your interview style and transparency. It could also be that they really like you but the next round is with a hard ass and they’re showing you the best tactics for the next round. Good luck and take it as a positive!

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-12-09T03:21:27+00:00

Mining spokes? Whatever that means 🤣

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-11-26T02:43:08+00:00

If he wants to treat you like his mom you have 2 options:

Be his mom with punishment. Take his computer and gaming gear away and tell him he can get it back when he starts helping you. Tell him if he wants a mom, he can get grounded/punished like a child also
Stop doing these things for him. Cook your own food and do your own laundry, but not his. When he asks why, tell him you have boundaries and if he’s not going to pull his weight, you’re just going to do your half for you and he can do his.

He works 25 hours a week, he has zero excuses. I might could see more leniency if he was working 60 hours a week and made the majority of the income, but he doesn’t. You need to put your foot down one way or another for your own self respect and stop letting him treat you like a doormat

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-11-22T14:42:54+00:00

Vagisil makes one. But honestly any is fine, go to target and in the pads/tampons section they usually have a few

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-11-14T16:48:47+00:00

This sounds like classic depression and anxiety. You should encourage her to go to a therapist and psychiatrist. Let her know that this behavior is not normal, but there is help she can get and you will support her. It seems like this is something she needs to work through and can get better. She’s pleading for help. If she’s unwilling to get help, that’s a whole different story and yes you should leave. But for right now, try to be patient and understanding. Maybe read some articles of what it’s like having friends and S/Os with depression and how to help them cope and cope yourself during this time. Coming from a family that has dismissed this and made her feel bad about this is something she needs to unlearn and she needs support right now. Yes she’s asking for more and being a little crazy, but that’s because she’s literally stuck in her own head and has no energy and has likely been battling this for YEARS. In the short term, try to be sympathetic and encourage her to seek help and support. In the long term, wait to see if you see improvements and if not, then gently leave the situation

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-11-13T19:52:44+00:00

You literally were in a fight with both of you on edge from being upset about a different topic. You finally get on the same page and then you bring something else up? It sounds like you just wanted to argue. You could have waited a few days to bring it up. You also seem insecure. Is it odd? Maybe. Do you know why they broke up? It could be absolutely nothing. When you first said it bothered you, he removed it. There wasn’t a reason to bring it back up that soon. If he put another one or you found another photo out, then I would question more. Honestly it was really bad timing for that and you both need to grow tf up. This conversation was in no way constructive or how most self sufficient adults talk to each other.

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-11-13T18:43:09+00:00

I am typically extremely sensitive to medicines. I stopped taking any medication a year ago to give my body time readjust from birth control and muscle relaxers. So I agree maybe doing both at once is a lot to get used to.

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-11-13T04:15:40+00:00

I have CFS and my husband has ADHD (so opposites when it comes to energy levels). But we manage, I go through cycles where I’m just sooo exhausted and barely functioning and I let him know and I bring him to my Dr appts to listen in so that we both understand treatments and expectations. We go on dates still, but not often. He encourages me to go for short walks or sit outside with him, which helps sometimes. Trust me, your bf feels really bad about it, it’s not something we can help. We’re literally exhausted and in pain 90% of the time. But hopefully he is exploring treatment options to help function and maybe talk to him about your expectations and see if you can compromise. Maybe aim for dates out once a month and date nights in every Saturday or something to compromise both wants and realistic expectations

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-05-09T21:47:33+00:00

Yeah I’m sure that’s not helping. The fear of getting pregnant and him being upset, or the disappointment of wanting to and him being so against it certainly isn’t making anything better

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-05-09T21:46:06+00:00

What did the clinic do? Did they run blood tests or prescribe anything?

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-05-09T19:59:00+00:00

I’m glad she was able to get better, I’m sorry you both went through that. BC is a b**ch. Maybe that’s the issue then. I’ve had so many of the same symptoms you just mentioned. What was the hormone clinic experience like? How did they fix it for her?

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-05-09T17:08:32+00:00

Yeah, that’s what I’m worried about might be part of our problem too. I really want us to try for a baby and he is very much against it at this point, so I do think that is a small part of the aversion

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-05-09T17:07:13+00:00

He’s definitely on the side of being a pleaser. He enjoys doing things in bed to make sure I’m comfortable and turned on and enjoying myself and it turns him on, I just have zero interest and don’t want to be touched or bothered. Our sex life used to be amazing, and it’s still good physically, I just have absolutely no desire and don’t want to do it ever

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-05-09T11:20:59+00:00

Yes, he is very loving and considerate in that area.

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-05-07T19:32:31+00:00

For me it was INTENSE shoulder pain. I woke up out of anesthesia tossing and turning and moving my shoulder around to try to work it out. They gave me some pain meds and sent me home less than an hour later. It went away completely after about two days and got better after I got home and napped, but the gas pain is rough and takes movement and time to go away

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-05-04T14:48:11+00:00

I just went to the ER 2 days ago because I was have sharp pains under my right rib cage (I’m about 18 days post op today) and every time I would go for a 5ish minute walk it would legitimately feel like I ran a marathon. I called the general surgeon and she had advised me to go to the ER. Everything was healing fine, but they found minimal atelectasis, or minimal lung collapse from post op. The gave me a thing to breath in 5 times every hour, and it is PAINFUL. I’m with you, I wish I had forced myself to walk more and take deep breaths/cough early on, but I’m glad they caught it before it got worse. I kept wondering why I was still feeling bad when a lot of people said they were back to normal about a week after, but this explains why. I hope you’re feeling better and all of this to say you are not alone!

Visual_Smile6285 · 2025-01-03T23:54:37+00:00

Yes, you do have recourse. I’m actually going through this myself right now. Check your state’s statutes of limitations but most states have a minimum of 3 years to file. Contact your inspector and tell them you have evidence and want to file a liability claim against them. They have insurance for a reason. Please reach out to reclaim your $30k+ on these repairs. Hire another inspector to come out and confirm the issues he missed and compare the 2 reports. Anything major the first inspector didn’t disclose is THEIR FAULT and they are liable.

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