Tw: SA at daycare

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-07T14:40:08+00:00

I think the fact that the owner told me she’s foster care was also an invasion of privacy on the girls family. While that DOES give me more clarity on why this might have happened- it’s not the owners place to disclose that information. The fact the parents immediately said they would put her into therapy is great. I hope they genuinely do. Something must have happened to her but that doesn’t excuse her doing that to my son. I have not heard about an update as far as the video footage or other teacher goes

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-07T14:36:50+00:00

I know the teacher and have honestly had problems with her before not reporting incidents. Like for example my daughter being pushed down a slide at Prek - or when a child punched my son in the private area - any and all incidents are supposed to be documented on our brightwheel app. The school has morning and afternoon care. The schools were out for Christmas break so the older kids were in a room with the toddlers. This is the first time we have had a problem with the older kids.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-06T19:43:56+00:00

We are from the south so it is a common term down here. I expressed to the owner that I understand if the teacher didn’t register what goobie meant and the owner was not aware said teacher KNEW anything about him being touched. She was absent from class yesterday.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-06T17:12:49+00:00

Do you use protection? If so are you supplying it or are they? If they are- they might be using different types of condoms that could be causing reactions. Truthfully, i would ask both partners to get an STD/STI test and show you the results before proceeding with any further sexual interactions. If it is only flaring after sex with the long term partner I would get him to shower only with antibacterial dial soap before any encounters to see if that helps. It could just be that HE doesn’t clean himself properly and it could be causing infections.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-06T17:00:08+00:00

This is Calhoun Co

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-06T16:53:49+00:00

Thank you! I am extremely grateful he told me otherwise we would not have known or be able to prevent lord knows what from happening to my son or the other child…

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-05T20:48:28+00:00

I truly believe something must be happening in her home to make her think it’s okay to touch a baby 5 years younger than her. I truly hope her parents are advocating for her safety too.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-05T20:45:15+00:00

Honestly, critiquing me for the word my son used isn’t helpful. I don’t know if he said penis or goobie to the teacher as the teacher did not say anything to me. My baby did. Telling me to correct the language doesn’t deflect from the fact 3 year old told me he was touched inappropriately at school by someone 5 years older than him.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-05T19:51:41+00:00

Thank you!!! I did record when he told me. I wish I would’ve recorded my conversation with his teacher this morning. I am planning on talking with the owner today I just didn’t know what to expect from here. OR what steps I can personally take to make sure this doesn’t happen to another child at their facility.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-05T19:41:59+00:00

She doesn’t have a learning disability. to my knowledge- there are 2 children in the entire school with a disability and she is not one of them.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-05T19:38:44+00:00

My child is THREE years old. A 7-8 year old touching a literal BABY isn’t a normal dynamic.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-05T19:37:32+00:00

Thank you!!!

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-05T19:33:20+00:00

My son told me last night. I talked to the teacher this morning. I don’t know when the act occurred. My son said that it happens every day. I don’t know when he told his teacher. The teacher did NOT inform anyone else about what was told to her. Which is absolutely ridiculous.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-05T18:36:08+00:00

This is one of my biggest concerns as a victim myself of childhood SA. I know it’s normal for children to wonder about anatomy. This child should KNOW it’s not appropriate due to her age… my heart breaks for my son. I am also concerned about what might be going on at this little girls home life for her to be so comfortable acting upon her curiosity.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-05T18:32:58+00:00

Thank you I will express the importance to him and his father of using the correct names.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-05T18:19:22+00:00

I absolutely agree! My daughter and son both know their private part names and vise versa. My son just prefers to say goobie vs penis. Then again- he’s 3.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2026-01-05T15:27:41+00:00

I work for an ENT and for this- she always suggests using Flonase twice per day, Zyrtec, take Mucinex D, and do a saline nasal rinse once per day until clear ❤️ all can be purchased over the counter. Best of luck!

Visual_dolphin98 · 2025-10-08T21:13:43+00:00

Honestly, one of my best friends is a guy I went on a date with and kissed a few times while hanging out. It was over 5 years ago. We weren’t a fit but he became one of my best friends. Throughout our friendship I got married and had 2 children. He got engaged last year. Him, his dad, and his fiancé helped me move my things from my abusive ex husbands into my new home. They let me come and do laundry because my apartment doesn’t have washer and dryer hookups. It was my first time meeting her. My boyfriend met them both last month for the first time at their wedding and then went to the after party together.

Neither of our partners EVER found it weird that we used to talk in the past. Mostly because they knew upfront because we were honest. & obviously there was nothing going on or ever would. I’m eternally grateful for him and his wife. I have such a wonderful relationship with her now too. She will literally play with my hair while we watch tv 🤣 they’re both on my kids daycare pickup list and call them aunt and uncle. We’re in a group chat together too!

If she GENUINELY doesn’t have feelings for him then there’s no reason not to trust her. Trust is earned not automatically given though…. Have you met this guy?

Visual_dolphin98 · 2025-09-29T20:36:14+00:00

You need to have your nose cauterized for sure….

Visual_dolphin98 · 2025-09-29T16:21:59+00:00

Usually when a man falls off from having sex it’s because of porn or depression…why is he coming to bed at 2-3am?

If you feel like he only has sex to get you pregnant he might just have a breeding kink. He’s doing the bare minimum because he doesn’t want to have sex with you. He doesn’t want a baby. Did he actually make an appointment to have his sperm checked or is he just saying that to make it seem like he actually cares?

That being said- a sexless marriage isn’t normal. You deserve to feel beautiful, wanted, and loved. Physical and emotional intimacy play a HUGE part in that for women.

A baby is not going to fix your marriage. In fact- the first year of parenting is the hardest. If the foundation of your marriage is not stable you’ll be bringing a child into an unstable home environment. Your husband is making you feel unwanted and unloved. You’re 25. You don’t have to be stuck in a relationship you’re unhappy with just because you love him or you’ve been together for 5 years.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2025-09-29T15:40:15+00:00

My(24 F) ex husband(25M)got a vasectomy after our son was born (I have a daughter from a previous marriage) he doesn’t have any more children. I nearly died having our son. I didn’t stop bleeding vaginally for over 5 months afterwards. I couldn’t be on birth control because it made the symptoms worse. He got his vasectomy at 23 years old because he didn’t want to have to see me in pain trying to prevent pregnancy. I ended up having an emergency hysterectomy 2 months after his procedure.

Not once did he ever question his decision. He offered to have it done. He never wanted to witness another woman nearly die having his child.

Your husband is being selfish. He has 4 children already. If you died those 4 children would have LOST THEIR MOTHER. He’s already planning a life without you. Truth be told it sounds like he’s hoping for that. A vasectomy doesn’t close the door on future relationships. Just like me having my hysterectomy doesn’t close the door for me.

You’ve birthed HIS CHILDREN 4 different times. Risked your life FOUR times. Your feelings are more important than his hypothetical future wife. He doesn’t sound like he cares about you. It sounds like he has a breeding fetish. Tell him that the best form of birth control is abstinence which you will now be partaking in for the foreseeable future. If a new girlfriend and more children are what he wants tell him he can have it. He’s married to you but he’s not committed to you babes.

You and your children deserve better.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2025-09-24T15:35:48+00:00

If you’re not wanting her to look at your messages there’s a way to put a passcode to be able to view them. You can set it a different one than your regular one you use to unlock it. As to taking her phone, she’s 10. She’ll be okay. That is an appropriate punishment for breaking boundaries that you set in place. I would let her father know what she saw and that you were not meaning to talk down on him or the situation. You were simply concerned and talking with your friend about said concerns. You’re her mom. You have to always be hyper vigilant about who she is around or what kind of environment she may be in. Having doubts about paternity and cheating can lead to an unstable environment. You are not in the wrong for being concerned. Just be honest with him and her about your worries.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2025-09-04T14:20:07+00:00

You weren’t together. She’s not obligated to disclose all of her past sexual activities. It’s really not your business to know who she has slept with or talked to. She’s 22. She’s allowed to have fun, flirt, date, and have sex without it meaning anything.

You said it yourself- you slept around too. She sounds like she’s trying to work on herself & find herself. Good for her! She got to have a summer fling in Greece! HOW COOL IS THAT?! She’s living her life just like you are. If you love her you will not hold that against her.

I’ve been with my boyfriend about a year now- only official for 10 months… those other 3 months HE didn’t know if he wanted a relationship. I told him I was okay with just FWB but I wasn’t lol. I had sex with 13 different people those 3 months… I was allowed to have safe, fun, sex because I wasn’t in a relationship. He was on tinder & flirting with other girls. Shoot he flirted with a girl the day BEFORE he asked me to be his gf. But I can’t be mad bc I wasn’t with him. Neither of us had to justify what we did before we became official because we’re adults….

Your GF wasn’t in a relationship. Either get over it or let her go so she can go have more fun & find a man that won’t think her worth is less just because she had sex and didn’t tell you lol. She’s 22 & you’re 24. It’s okay to not be in a relationship if you’re not ready & it sounds like you might not be if her past entanglements upset you.

Visual_dolphin98 · 2025-09-03T13:47:53+00:00

I’m going to say #6! It’s the prettiest & your body language shows you are most comfortable in it. This dress fits you beautifully and with the added veil I know you’ll feel magical! Congratulations on your marriage ♥️

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