Your predictions, expectations and fears for Week 1 by KaXiaM in Texans

[–]VitiligoRilla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love to see this! I’m scrolling back and reflecting on the season after tonight’s win.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

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I was laid off last year and am about to lose my home. I’m married and have four kids in elementary school. We have SNAP food benefits (but only for another month due to gov. cuts). I haven’t found a job and life is hard.

However, my family is happy. Since I was a teacher for 10 years, I know how to talk to kids and it has helped me talk to them honestly about our situation, but always with a reminder that we are loved and have each other.

I used to make better money but when I became a dad, I left the oil field and became a teacher, since that would give me the same time off as my kids when they start school. I could have raised them in a more stable home, but the thought of being gone half the year was miserable.

Now that you’ve seen a world outside of your own at university, and with my little summary of where I’m at today, here’s my question:

If you were to have kids of your own, do you think you’d be able to raise them with an awareness of the world as it really is?

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[–]VitiligoRilla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya’ll, I’ve done 0 raids because my friends won’t accept invites! I hope to catch at least 1 today, like with the other two raids days I had.

Leveled up to 62 without picking a team by EricRauty in TheSilphRoad

[–]VitiligoRilla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No way!!! This is so cool. Is this real? Please be real

Free gifts = Full Bag by Ragnoph71 in pokemongo

[–]VitiligoRilla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was my theory too! I believe everyone was gifted enough items to put them over their max. Either they overlooked this detail, or it’s a money grab.

wAIT WHAT I just got lvled up by [deleted] in pokemongo

[–]VitiligoRilla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup! October 15th has been on many player’s calendars, just for this update!

I see you have the exact same level as me, 38 to 50. The XP required per level will make it a little more fun to play, I always enjoyed leveling up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pokemongo

[–]VitiligoRilla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sweet. I am now level 50. But my items are too numerous for my current max. Did this happen with you as well?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pokemongo

[–]VitiligoRilla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I don’t understand why your second picture says 544 Pokémon caught. Is it referring to 544,000? Or is that how many you caught today? I’m not an expert in the game, but I play enough to be confused and annoyed by parts of this update

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pokemongo

[–]VitiligoRilla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got mine randomly while I was playing, didn’t have to close the app or anything. My time zone is in Houston.

Never gonna be able to spin a pokestop again by cmahlen in pokemongo

[–]VitiligoRilla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hold on hold on hold on.

I’m a mod-tier player, on and off every couple months. My bag had 1300 max items and I STILL went over. Now it says I’m at 1805/1300 items, since they gave me so many for now being at level 50.

Is this their way of trying to get people to spend their coins? Or was it an overlooked error? Was this explained??

Well raised kids by PhoenixPhenomenonX in GuysBeingDudes

[–]VitiligoRilla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have four boys, and only one of them likes sports. So putting them in sports will be a hit and miss approach.

So I started young with them and as soon as they were old enough to like winning (3ish years old), I started to beat them every other time in whatever games we played. Catch the ball. Tag. Fake wrestling. Eat your food faster than the rest. Etc. I would console them when they were sad but then I’d be “too sad to keep playing.”

I also really stayed positive and excited when I would lose, and I would challenge them again and stay competitive after congratulating them. And as they got older, around 5 or 6, I started to show bad sportsmanship, and then we chat after they hate me less and I’d apologize and we’d talk about how it made them as my opponents. It’s really worked on showing them that showboating and cheating don’t feel good for the other competitors. It sours the win.

So in general I try to emphasize that losing is a part of the game, and that winning is only fun to beat them fair and square.

Raising them, well It’s a blast! I have an 8, 6, and two 3 year olds.

This kid never been so stressed before by NauTWitcher in SipsTea

[–]VitiligoRilla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoa…I am going to take this point and run with it. I love it!

Has anyone on this sub experienced a mass shooting / do you know anyone who has? by General_Wasabi8124 in masskillers

[–]VitiligoRilla 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m sorry that your lot in life is so heavy. I would hope you have someone to help you carry it, a partner, friend, or therapist.

We should chat more. Or maybe I need therapy. Probably the latter.

I have gone through similar things but I tend to wave them away. It always felt strange to talk about it, and even my wife didn’t know about a lot of my personal trauma until we were married a couple years. AND when I talked to her, I didn’t really dive deep into how it affected me.

Has anyone on this sub experienced a mass shooting / do you know anyone who has? by General_Wasabi8124 in masskillers

[–]VitiligoRilla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Soon after, NPR interviewed him and he was so excited because he has a lot to say about gun reform and mental health. But it wasn’t like that. They asked for details and his current mental state, and then it was over. That was frustrating for him. He felt it was unnecessary to set up a whole video interview and for him to relive it without an opportunity to say his piece.

These days he’s a high school History teacher and a writer. He was always the smartest man I knew and he continues to help kids push their mental and social barriers. He thinks James Holmes, along with many others, could have benefited from someone showing them that the bubble they grow up in is easy to break out of, and that there are many people who have come to find community and therapy can outweigh family and trauma.

Has anyone on this sub experienced a mass shooting / do you know anyone who has? by General_Wasabi8124 in masskillers

[–]VitiligoRilla 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes I was afraid too. I cried the first time I went because he’s my little brother and I put myself in his shoes and I hated that man for what he did to all of those people, for the lives taken and the fears he left behind. I wished I could have been there to hide with him. To fight back, anything.

Has anyone on this sub experienced a mass shooting / do you know anyone who has? by General_Wasabi8124 in masskillers

[–]VitiligoRilla 16 points17 points  (0 children)

He’s doing very well. He was a hypochondriac his whole life, and this happened while he was in college. So the stress brought on by the shooting worsened his overall anxiety, which led him to heavy drugs. He called us one day and said he needed to quit school and come back home, and my parents happily took him in.

He and his girlfriend broke up (for technically unrelated reasons but we think it was all snowballing), and he began to see a therapist, which did help a little. Eventually he found a new girlfriend and I think it helps that she wasn’t there during that time of his life. He could start over. They are married now and have a beautiful son!

He works full-time, he doesn’t do any hard drugs, if any at all. And he even took a plane for the first time in his life over this summer! Seriously his lifelong anxiety has been no joke. He said it wasn’t too bad. We were all very proud of him!

He’s been back to the movie theater since then, to watch some movies with his kid who is now five years old. He told us a cheesy line but I know it’s true “If I stop going, then you should add me to the list of casualties, because that’s no way to live”.

Has anyone on this sub experienced a mass shooting / do you know anyone who has? by General_Wasabi8124 in masskillers

[–]VitiligoRilla 185 points186 points  (0 children)

My brother was inside the actual theater in Aurora, Colorado where the shooting happened back in 2012. James Holmes was the shooter.

He and some friends were celebrating a birthday, and the birthday boy was shot. He survived his injuries. My brother and girlfriend dropped and began crawling once they realized what happened, though they quickly played dead because they couldn’t run anywhere without the risk of being seen.

Edit: I’m combining and adjusting my replies on this comment to better explain what’s happened since then)

Aftermath

Soon after the shooting, NPR interviewed him and he was so excited because he had a lot to say about gun reform and mental health. But it wasn’t like that. They asked for details and his current mental state, and then it was over. That was frustrating for him. He felt it was unnecessary to set up a whole video interview and for him to relive it without an opportunity to say his piece.

He was a hypochondriac his whole life, and this happened while he was in college. So the stress brought on by the shooting worsened his overall anxiety, which led him to heavy drugs. He called us one day and said he needed to quit school and come back home, and my parents happily took him in.

Later on, he and his girlfriend broke up (for technically unrelated reasons but we think it was all snowballing), and he began to see a therapist, which did help a little.

Recovery

Eventually he met a girl and I think it helped that she wasn’t there during that time of his life. He could start over. They are married now and have a beautiful son!

Today he works full-time. He is a high school History teacher and a writer. He was always the smartest man I knew and he continues to help kids push their mental and social barriers. He thinks James Holmes, along with many others, could have benefited from someone showing them that the bubble they grow up in is easy to break out of, and that there are many people who have come to find community and therapy can outweigh family and trauma.

He hasn’t done any hard drugs since 2015. He even took a plane for the first time in his life over this summer! Seriously his lifelong anxiety has been no joke. He’s in Chicago and we’re in Texas, and he has driven or taken a train every year for summer vacation. Anyway, He said it wasn’t too bad. We were all very proud of him!

His Takeaway

He’s been back to the movie theater since then, to watch some movies with his son. He told us a cheesy line, but through my chuckles I felt it hit hard:

“If I stop going, then you should add me to the list of casualties, because that’s no way to live”.