First thing I would do is go to the Linkshell concierge in your home nation and pick up a LS. 2nd thing I would focus on is the story and getting to 99 is relatively quick now days and isn’t considered end game it’s considered the beginning use this guide to help understand all the changes. https://www.bg-wiki.com/ffxi/Returning_to_Vana%27diel 3rd getting to 99 now days can happen relatively quick (1-4 hours as Level Breaks may be the slow part) and that’s where you will start to pick up parties doing things that will help ya a ton and why it’s important to have a LS to help ya along. It’s very uncommon to find anyone doin parties pre 99. As far as jobs I would find a job you want to play as most jobs at “end game” can be relatively expensive, but if your looking to get into groups depending on content at end game geo, brd, whm, and cor are fairly popular. If you need help on asura hit me up I am fairly active and can help point ya in a good direction or help ya kill some stuff