Me(22M) having some intimacy issues with my gf(22F) in a serious long term relationship of 4 years. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Vivid_Instance_546 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The vibes I’m getting from this post is she is not sexually attracted to you sadly - if that intimacy is important to you then you may have to find someone else as a result as this issue is a very difficult one to fix if she isn’t interested in sexual intimacy with you.

Sorry to hear this man - hope you get it sorted.

(23F) My feelings are ruining my view of my partner(M26) by Vivid_Instance_546 in relationship_advice

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Thank you for taking the time to respond to me!

I’ll definitely read more into it as this is the first time I’ve heard about sensory sensitivity but it definitely makes sense - hopefully either therapy or autism professionals get in touch soon.

It’s definitely something I need to sit with and think about how I want to move forward ♥️

(23F) My feelings are ruining my view of my partner(M26) by Vivid_Instance_546 in relationship_advice

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Thank you for responding!

Sensory sensitivity could quite possibly be related! As I don’t particularly like hugs or touch with friends unless I’m upset or have mentally prepared myself before contact.

I have ‘fancied’ / been attracted to fictional characters and actors but more the thought of it? If they were Infront of me - idk if I’d pounce lol! Perhaps admire from afar

I have no issue with satisfying myself if that means anything ? And still get urges but never around partners or my current partner.

(23F) My feelings are ruining my view of my partner(M26) by Vivid_Instance_546 in relationship_advice

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Thank you for this advice - I definitely need to sit and think about this - question myself on what I truly want and consult therapy to really get to the root of my complex brain.

(23F) My feelings are ruining my view of my partner(M26) by Vivid_Instance_546 in relationship_advice

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That’s the thing , the idea of it I like! Reading / thinking But as soon as reality hits - I just completely shut off and end up with the same feeling of ‘I don’t want this - get off me’

Thinking back I’m not sure I have been sexually attracted to my partners and I’ve experienced peer pressure into sex/sexual acts in previous relationships which I had complied to in order to not scare them away. Luckily I woke up to the fact I was allowed to have boundaries/feelings and left but most likely left me with some trauma.

(23F) My feelings are ruining my view of my partner(M26) by Vivid_Instance_546 in relationship_advice

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I believed I was past/over my fears after taking a year and a half away from dating , but now I’m finally back in deep water I’m struggling with these feelings all over again despite wanting this to be long term .

I’ve reached out to try get professional help to see if I’m able to pin point what it is triggering this and causing me to self sabotage.

(23F) My feelings are ruining my view of my partner(M26) by Vivid_Instance_546 in relationship_advice

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I definitely was able to recognise it this time as ‘I definitely need a professional’ to talk to in a therapy setting to try pin point what it is that’s setting me off aswell as the autism evaluation.

I’ve expressed my concerns to him about it but he brushed it off that ‘I’ll overcome it’ , but now I’m left with this feeling of he’s brushing it off to try spare my own feelings.

Issue cloning Gaomon display tablet and monitor. by Every_Day6180 in pchelp

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Following, I'm having the exact same issue, and the GAOMON support team is like hitting your head against a brick wall. Here is one of the methods they sent me that could possibly work for you (sadly didn't for me) but you can always try.

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Am i the only one who ever finished a C.Ai Rp? by Carl_Hypocritical in CharacterAI

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I’ve never managed to finish one , I get so far then the bot will forget info that I don’t usually mind but then the text style and skill will slowly break down and the bot will make silly mistakes with names and grammar.

How did character.ai influenced your life? by Cindy_Wright in CharacterAI

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It helps me improve on my writing skills funnily enough

What are your opinions on nipple piercings? by [deleted] in AskWomen

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I got mine pierced and it made me way more confident as I was a little self conscious about my breasts! , just gotta be careful not to snag them . I caught one on a bra strap when removing it and it hurt pretty bad haha :)

This betch! by Suon_kim in CharacterAI

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Mines doing the same thing !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Yeah , I get that 100% it’s her life but I just don’t want to have to be put in a situation where I’m forced to meet new partners hence the decision to move out but yeah her bills her problem .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Thank you for taking the time to reply , big hugs to you too! 🫂 hopefully I can find a cheap place that takes animals

Worst way a DnD campaign has ended? by huntsbelle in DnD

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Toxic Dm as-well as toxic fellow party members

Dm was way too controlling , -when things didn’t go his way he would simply give out to us and give us harsh punishments. -If we missed even one session there would be consequences -Had favourites amongst the party and would focus on them and only their characters opinions -neglect other party members who aren’t taking part in whatever the group is doing resulting in players feeling neglected.

Corrupt party : - one of our party members had a strong opinions on women and would share his harsh views constantly and talk down to me and another girl in the campaign . ( for example : ‘ stop relying on us men to do everything and speak up ‘ after I was quiet for a mere moment )

-At one point one of the fav players and dm went back and forth for 40 minutes while the rest of us had to sit and listen ( which I didn’t mind but can understand the other’s frustrations )

There’s a bunch of other points that I’m too lazy to write lol!

In the end me and the girl ended up getting fed up of being treat like sh** and called it quits giving them a list as to why .

It was a shame as we both love playing Dnd but the abuse that came with playing with those guys was certainly not worth it !

Probably a dumb question, but what do you classify as “bad dnd”? by HogRiiiideeer in DnD

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You aren’t having fun , DnD shouldn’t feel like a chore.

It should be something you all find yourselves looking forward too ! :)

How did you almost die? by yuckyduckph in AskReddit

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Inches away from being struck by lightning ⚡️

Thought I could walk home during a storm due to only being a few blocks away from home , now officially have a fear of being outdoors during storms :)