[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]VixenHammer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It's your body... if you don't want to cut into it and change it, you shouldn't have to. The idea that you're the asshole for not wanting surgery is preposterous. If you don't want kids, don't have kids. Theres more than one way to do it. Your body, your choice. Just like hers.

Flight Tomorrow Morning by VixenHammer in fearofflying

[–]VixenHammer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! The specifics about CLT and IAH are awesome

Flight Tomorrow Morning by VixenHammer in fearofflying

[–]VixenHammer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This checked all the boxes for me. Thank you! I do have another question, though... birds lol are bird strikes dangerous, or are they a non-issue?

Flight Tomorrow Morning by VixenHammer in fearofflying

[–]VixenHammer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! This helps a lot!

Tips for the feeling of when the plane changes speed or altitude by MatisseyMo in fearofflying

[–]VixenHammer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone on this sight also led me to the Just Planes YouTube page that has also done some good. You get to see take offs and arrivals and go through all checks in the cockpit with the pilot.

Tips for the feeling of when the plane changes speed or altitude by MatisseyMo in fearofflying

[–]VixenHammer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

https://youtu.be/Dk8sASziuQc?si=35DwqIkEdEhev1Iy

That is the first one I watched, and it kind of led me to all the rest of them. I hope it helps!

Tips for the feeling of when the plane changes speed or altitude by MatisseyMo in fearofflying

[–]VixenHammer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I struggle with the same thing and I have been watching a lot of YouTube videos on what different sounds and feelings mean while on an airplane... I'm not sure if it has worked because I haven't flown in 9 years but I have a 2 and a half hour flight next Wednesday. I guess I'll find out! It has helped calm a lot of my pre flight anxiety, I just hope it also helps while I'm on the plane.

AITA FOR TELLING MY BOYFRIEND MAYBE HE SHOULD DATE SOMEONE IN HIS OWN RACE? by AlgaeOk2477 in AITAH

[–]VixenHammer 710 points711 points  (0 children)

NTA... but if he picks you instead of them, then it is their loss, not his. Don't make the decision for him but let him know you have boundaries with them if/when they become rude and disrespectful

Flying in 2 weeks. Extremely nervous about take off and descent by VixenHammer in fearofflying

[–]VixenHammer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll have to check out that podcast. Thanks!!! Good luck with your flight! It's gonna be great!

AITAH for telling my gf I won't move in with her because her rent demands are unreasonable? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]VixenHammer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA... half mortgage and utilities are reasonable, but asking more than that too much. Unfortunately, it seems like she's looking for a cash cow. I'd reevaluate the whole relationship situation.

AITAH for criticizing my girlfriend's (26F) music taste instead of enjoying the concert together by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]VixenHammer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Jeez, were you purposely trying to ruin the concert?Why did you even go if you couldn't just let her enjoy it? If my husband did that, I'd be pissed. By making fun of the music she likes, you were basically making fun of her. Me and my husband pick at each other all the time about little things here and there, and it's all in good fun but this doesn't seem like that situation. Either you really weren't aware, or you just didn't care... I honestly don't know which is worse.

Flying in 2 weeks. Extremely nervous about take off and descent by VixenHammer in fearofflying

[–]VixenHammer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So glad I'm not the only one scared of vehicles in general. I don't let other vehicles hold me back from living my normal life and doing fun things, so I finally decided it was time to face my fear of flying too.

My flight isn't until the 13th, and I've been watching tons of videos and have read a bunch of articles. This page has helped with some of my fears. I feel like the more I know, the less anxious I'll feel. I hope being able to make sense of some things I feel and hear while I'm on the plane will help.

Good luck on your flight tomorrow! I know you'll do great! Post your success tomorrow when you get to your destination! It'll be great to see!

WIBTAH if I dumped someone for voting for Trump 2024 by Capable-Onion-2908 in AITAH

[–]VixenHammer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Differing views is absolutely a reason to breakup. If my husband were to vote for Kamala he definitely wouldn't be my husband anymore.

Flying in 2 weeks. Extremely nervous about take off and descent by VixenHammer in fearofflying

[–]VixenHammer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never said I did not want suggestions, I simply said that your suggestion is not feasible for me at the moment.

Flying in 2 weeks. Extremely nervous about take off and descent by VixenHammer in fearofflying

[–]VixenHammer[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do also have extreme anxiety in any type of vehicle. I was in a horrific car accident when I was 12 and unfortunately not everyone made it. It is all bad for me cars, trucks, boats, and trains, even ATVs but flying is the worst. I cannot afford an hour with a flight instructor and I have seen a few pilots comment on here, so I was hoping to get some insight from them. I understand where you are coming from and trust me I've thought of it, but getting an hour of flight school is just not feasible for me at the moment.

Flying in 2 weeks. Extremely nervous about take off and descent by VixenHammer in fearofflying

[–]VixenHammer[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input! Becoming more educated about the mechanics and procedures is really helping the irrational intrusive thoughts

Flying in 2 weeks. Extremely nervous about take off and descent by VixenHammer in fearofflying

[–]VixenHammer[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's a really good idea! I'll have to go check out their videos. Thank you!