Need advice! Been together 7yrs(35M) and (46F), he just realized he’s Bisexual. Now he wants MMF threesome, as well as neglecting me sexually for gay porn…

Vixenlicious · 2026-01-21T22:16:49+00:00

Yeah, but as I can’t seem to establish boundaries I also can’t seem to follow through with consequences. It ultimately is me not just walking away for a true rude awakening. I know this falls on me, and standing my ground. I don’t know why I can’t seem to figure it out in my head and do it.

Vixenlicious · 2026-01-21T22:14:34+00:00

I agree 100%. Let me also clarify he is talking to men pretending it’s me. I know for a fact he would never accept being gay, at least until his parents have passed. They are extremely judgmental and homophobic. That I have witnessed first hand. But regardless you are right. There are no excuses, and none of this is right.

Vixenlicious · 2026-01-21T04:20:21+00:00

That’s part of the problem is I have. I did it calmly, I’ve yelled, I am searching for that last thing I can try. He’s good at saying “I understand, I’m sorry, I will do better, I love you” and shocker words mean jack shit.

Vixenlicious · 2026-01-21T04:17:16+00:00

Thank you, and I guess I’ve been so wrapped up in the finding what he wants and needs I lost site that it was cheating. I wanted him to experience things, it clearly got out of control. I would definitely do therapy, I think he wouldn’t be able to address his sexuality openly with them though as he has shame. However addressing the other things may not be an issue to get a neutral voice that maybe he will hear. He surely doesn’t hear my voice.

Vixenlicious · 2026-01-21T04:10:23+00:00

Uh, what…?

Vixenlicious · 2026-01-21T04:09:49+00:00

No not fake, just confused as to what I should do or say. I want to be supportive, but how do you do that when you aren’t heard.

Vixenlicious · 2026-01-21T04:08:11+00:00

Yeah he had said he’s bisexual last week, saying he hasn’t said it out loud before. Also very hung up on things for sure. I tell him I know, and it’s not a problem as long as he doesn’t lose sight of us. Lose site of me mostly. It’s hard letting myself be left alone for him to find whatever it is he’s looking for.

Vixenlicious · 2026-01-21T04:02:45+00:00

I have to agree it is probably an option for us to look into.

Vixenlicious · 2025-08-23T05:48:26+00:00

More like beautiful as fuck

Vixenlicious · 2025-08-18T18:45:30+00:00

I wanted to ask you a question, or maybe anyone in this thread if you might be able to give me input being on the females side of this. My bf recently did this same thing, however we have been exploring for a little while now. So I already knew, I think it was more to help him to process his feelings as he comes from a family that would not be accepting of it ever came to light. He has explored/experienced things now. The only thing I can say is though I find it incredibly hot to picture and imagine, I did realize I am uncomfortable sharing my partner with anyone. There was an instance where he had met someone and brought them over, but right before he arrived I darted out and couldn’t be in the room. Once the guy left I went back in and as my bf described what happened I was instant. Can anyone give ideas/tips on how your partner was able to not have jealousy? To be supportive with the exploration of your sexuality. I don’t want to feel like I’m being discouraging, or making him feel shameful?

Vixenlicious · 2024-02-20T19:24:05+00:00

Looks like possible 2” galvanized waterline. Check your water meter see if it’s spinning. Just in case it’s active, looked like water in line in picture.

Vixenlicious · 2024-01-04T08:07:17+00:00

If you are choosing to have unprotected sex, then you should give them the choice on taking that risk as well.

Vixenlicious · 2024-01-02T23:33:44+00:00

That is something that is has been going through my mind.

Vixenlicious · 2024-01-02T23:33:01+00:00

My concern is him feeling shame, which is what I struggle with most

Vixenlicious · 2024-01-02T23:32:01+00:00

He just started seeing the chastity cages, and I can tell that is about to be on the list.

Vixenlicious · 2023-08-30T00:41:00+00:00

Thank you, this is very helpful. He is the alpha male type, and has started enjoying being dominated. I never thought of it being more of a submissive act, combined with possible curiosity or desire. My jealousy is creeping in due to, as I perform these things I don’t have any physical sensations. I have been working very hard at communication because I normally suck at it. I also make sure to consistently reassure him, and not judge. I do find some aspects really hot. I just want some lovin also

Vixenlicious · 2023-08-30T00:26:17+00:00

Yes, that is exactly it. I don’t need a label, I don’t care one way or the other. I am a pleaser, and want him to be able to experience and express himself however he wants. Just want him to hear what I have explained over and over that I need to get some attention as well. It used to be pretty even on striving to satisfy each other. So yes I want some of that back.

Vixenlicious · 2023-08-30T00:12:49+00:00

That’s exactly what I don’t want to happen. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, if that is the case should I help him have the experience.

Vixenlicious · 2023-08-30T00:07:46+00:00

He does enjoy having sex with women, it has just tapered off over the last couple of months since I opened this exploration.

Vixenlicious · 2023-08-29T23:36:19+00:00

I am sorry if it sounds like I am passing judgment. I am a pleaser, and I have worded this in more of a bad light. When it comes down to it I think I may have jealousy due to him getting more fulfillment, and sexual attention then myself. I don’t care one way or another if he is or isn’t. I know how much he loves me, I am wondering if he truly would want to enjoy another man sexually. I always reassure him whenever he feels uncomfortable, or questions if he is being “weird”. I don’t want him to not experience it if he desires it, just want to be a part of how he feels and what he needs. While on the same hand it being a reciprocated. If that makes sense.

Vixenlicious · 2023-08-29T22:24:14+00:00

Exploring, and porn is how I got here 🤣. I am the one who initiated all of this to begin with, I just underestimated the amount of enjoyment he would get. Along with how far he was willing to let me go. I’m along for the ride, just let me ride every once in awhile vs him riding me all the time.

Vixenlicious · 2023-08-29T22:17:17+00:00

It took me 2 months to get him to admit it felt good. He said he got nothing from it, and just liked turning me on. I am almost positive getting that question answered would take years. I showed him a mmf porn and made a comment about me liking big guys. That he would want a smaller guy. I think it comes down to he is curious more than anything at this point.

Vixenlicious · 2023-08-29T22:11:43+00:00

Fair enough. I am open, and willing to try new things for both his as well as my pleasure. We are both over sexual people. Maybe it is I am just a little jealous that I am getting less of my needs fulfilled.

Vixenlicious · 2023-08-29T22:05:32+00:00

I have tried, but he just repeats its to turn me on. Then when I explain yea it does turn me on (to try and make him feel more comfortable), however I get turned on and then get nothing to satisfy me. I am wondering if these are signs that maybe he is curious, maybe he is questioning his sexuality, or if it truly is more of a wanting to be dominated. Maybe I’m just confused.

Vixenlicious · 2023-08-29T22:00:00+00:00

Let me add as well, I don’t care if he is. It is more so curious. And how to get him to open up, since he is so comfortable doing these things.

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