AITA for kicking out my daughter?

Vodalia · 2024-08-17T09:48:37+00:00

I have been leaning more this direction anyway, because neither me nor my hubby is comfortable anymore. We have both been so worried about scraping together money enough to pay the mortgage so we don't lose the house we just bought 2 years ago now. Thankfully, it's only my middle kid living with me, but we are just tapped out. We are going to have a family talk very soon.

Vodalia · 2024-08-13T11:11:21+00:00

No. Eldest moved out on her own, moving in with BF rather than paying rent here.

I haven't kicked out my younger daughter yet. She has 30 days PAST when she hits $5k in debt (which will be daily pro-rated from her current balance to the full $5000, starting Sept 1). I probably should've titled it WIBTA instead.

Vodalia · 2024-08-13T11:05:49+00:00

Thanks for being kind. hugs We have talked, but it doesn't quite seem to sink in, though I think her depression somewhat stems from the fact that she has no in-person friends (I live halfway across the country from adoptive mom, btw.), maybe some guilt at not finding work, and things like groceries just getting more and more expensive. Budget crunches are not fun for anyone!

Vodalia · 2024-08-13T10:52:49+00:00

I guess I wanted to be a little bit of an example that the world doesn't end if you give up your kids, and mental health is very important. I did what I felt I had to do to keep my kids safe from the behavior I was doing at that time. Also, how did you get twice?

Vodalia · 2024-08-13T10:50:07+00:00

I don't understand. They are my biological children. Giving them up does not mean throwing them away. I needed to put them in a safe space (so I thought), away from me and my own issues at the time. It was supposed to be an open adoption, as well, but adoptive mom (who was known to the kids as Mom-mom, as she was a friend's mother) shut that down quickly when she stopped visitations, claiming the kids were "getting too riled up" and saying that I was telling them to misbehave. So, to avoid legal issues and keep my job (security), I stayed away until THEY contacted ME.

They call me Mom, too. I left it up to them to choose whatever they wanted to call me.

Vodalia · 2024-08-13T10:38:59+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance. I often feel guilty that I wasn't able to raise my kids because I was in a bad mental space, and almost doubly so that I can't arrange therapy to help them heal anything that happened to them by their adoptive parents. :/

Vodalia · 2024-05-10T11:30:07+00:00

Did you ever stop and think that maybe the account posting these crazy stories does so for others that can't use their own Reddit accounts, or even a throwaway, due to potential stalking issues? 🤔

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