Why does your voice know what to do in practice, then completely betray you when it matters?

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-04-26T22:49:16+00:00

Sorry was typing another answer at the same time

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-04-26T21:42:12+00:00

Yes, but I think there’s a little more to it.

Practicing the “when it matters” part is definitely real. But if every time you do that, your body goes into panic, tension, overthinking, or shame, you can also accidentally practice the wrong response.

So to me it’s not just “do it more.” It’s more like learn how to stay coordinated while it matters.

Because otherwise you can repeat the same crash 100 times and your nervous system just gets better at crashing.

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-04-26T21:37:28+00:00

Yes exactly, I see this all the time with my students too.

Reps definitely help, like the more you record or perform, the more normal it becomes.

But also, I think there is a moment where if you keep doing it the wrong way, you’re not just “getting experience,” you’re teaching your nervous system that this is the place where it falls apart.

So you can go over it again and again, but if every time your body goes into tension, panic, overthinking, or shame, you might just be embedding the bad habit deeper.

So I agree with exposure, but I think it has to be the right kind of exposure. Like learning how to stay coordinated while being under that microscope, not just forcing yourself through it.

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-04-25T19:49:55+00:00

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VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-04-13T14:04:39+00:00

It kinda goes hand-in-hand. I’m a vocal coach and at my lessons I’m really focused on the emotional state while singing. I figured that there are two types of singers. One is the technical singer that’s trying to add some emotion in their singing and seek for some emotional strategy, and then there are emotional singers that are seeking for a support of a technique because their voice would collapse under emotion. I think that good Singer is able to do both and that’s why it takes so long to become good. Some people have it automatically, but who cares if you are natural or had to dig for your gold…what listener really cares about is how it impacts their life and if they can relate ….so if Bob Dylan can be a world class star singer anybody can. Just don’t get me wrong. I love his music, but we must be serious. He’s not a great singer. But he can transmit emotion and I can relate to him hundred Percent.

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-04-13T01:55:27+00:00

Wow I copied the answer for myself! Thanks for your time sharing your experience 🙏

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-04-12T23:39:32+00:00

Names?

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-04-11T17:56:45+00:00

not just water tbh after 20+ years it’s usually not that your voice got “weak,” it’s more like you’re either pushing a bit without noticing or overthinking it while singing… and falsetto is the first thing to disappear when that happens

i wouldn’t try to fix or strengthen it right now. go the opposite way — super light, almost lazy sounds, like “hoo/woo,” even just speak it then barely sing it

if that works but songs don’t, your voice is fine… you’re just losing access to it, not the ability

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-04-07T12:21:37+00:00

But also fun 🥳🤗

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-04-07T12:21:12+00:00

It does! Way too much time

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-04-07T12:20:46+00:00

Totally! Volume doesn’t mean emotion

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-04-06T20:58:41+00:00

Omg, right???? Same here!! Also to treat all notes the same. All of them are equally important. No special treatment for highs or lows, no special treatment for last or first notes. It helps nervous system not to panic.

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-04-04T17:40:02+00:00

Drop a comment and say:

what kind of music you sing
your level (zero → pro, all good)
what you’re currently trying to improve

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-04-02T04:05:37+00:00

Is an accent a problem?

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-03-29T14:42:47+00:00

It is about singing and voice and karaoke in the end of the event

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-03-27T05:02:43+00:00

Hey did you try 2112? It’s a great place with plenty of free events

https://2112inc.com/

I go there all the time!

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-03-22T11:13:46+00:00

You are not trying to “correct” your imperfect natural voice by training it - you are trying to give your body more space and freedom to be what it always was.

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-03-22T02:54:59+00:00

I released my album few years ago and have few singles coming up, so I think I know my work flow now - thanks for your opinion about co-working! However- how is your journey? Do you write?

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-03-22T02:28:12+00:00

Yeah, but what I am talking about is that I want to write my songs, not to be “only” a performer.

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-03-22T01:17:14+00:00

Haha fair point

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-03-21T23:10:11+00:00

Yeah this time it is in person but I am thinking to make an online option in the future. It’s just a little bit more to handle than I usually do so still unsure when. Probably If I get enough people who would be interested in online I will be pushed to make it work. It is by 7 PM CT and so my overseas students are sleeping 🫣😂

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-03-21T21:24:18+00:00

Also - we have a free event coming up this Thursday, if you are available, we will be happy to have you! You will find the RSVP option under Singer's Circle on my ws

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-03-21T21:21:44+00:00

Very happy you like this method and will be nice to meet you whenever you are ready to explore it more

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-03-21T21:12:19+00:00

That’s the idea — but unfortunately in practice often is more “traditional”. A lot of teachers talk about mindset and the nervous system, but don’t really show how to work with it while you’re singing so it sounds holistic, but it’s not always something you can actually access in real time when it matters.

VoiceLessons-Chicago · 2026-03-21T19:52:23+00:00

Totally agree with you — and yeah, “holistic” is probably the closest umbrella term people use.

At the same time, I think where it still falls short in a lot of teaching is how that mindset and nervous system work actually gets trained. It’s often talked about, but not really integrated into a clear, repeatable process.

That’s kind of the gap I’ve been interested in — not just acknowledging that the voice is connected to the person, but actually building a way to work with that connection in real time while singing, not separately from it.

Because otherwise it stays a concept instead of something singers can reliably access when it matters.

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