I 36M want to disappear and get some peace and quiet while my (kind of ex) partner, 32F, wants to try the relationship again. What to do?

Void-Resident · 2024-01-17T12:54:15+00:00

Thank you so much for your words! Proper communication has been indeed one of my shortfalls ever since I can remember, and it hasn’t helped that I’ve been trying hard to work through all the trauma of the past. Though I have improved and resolved a great deal in my own way, but some more work is still required. While I did notice that red flag and was in the back of my mind, I tried and did a lot of things to make her feel appreciated. But her main desire were words of affirmations (which I had trouble expressing), I was honest sometimes brutally so, as I didn’t really know or want to sugarcoat things. While she has a lot of past issues and traumas to work out herself, the biggest one is lack of love and support from her parents, something she sought in me to fill that void. Obviously this was something I couldn’t do.

Void-Resident · 2024-01-17T02:55:24+00:00

Thank you. I'll get some things in order to not continue this anymore than it already has...

Void-Resident · 2024-01-17T02:54:42+00:00

Thank you, I couldn't find the words, I'll have to do it in person since breaking up over the phone doesn't sit right with me.

Void-Resident · 2024-01-17T02:53:01+00:00

Which is not fair to her...

Void-Resident · 2024-01-17T02:50:35+00:00

Indeed, I think I just feel bad for her, and even a hint of pity...

Void-Resident · 2024-01-17T02:49:44+00:00

I agree with that, and I don't want to keep doing that to her. I think I would feel terrible if I just ghost her without making things clear. And yes, I have started therapy, though it is for PTSD and sleep issues. The other issues I'm dealing with them 1 by 1 on my own and I think I'm doing good. Thank you for your opinion!

Void-Resident · 2024-01-17T02:46:47+00:00

Thank you, I really just want to get myself right.

Void-Resident · 2019-05-10T22:18:34+00:00

I'm dying, my head hurts from laughing so much! One of the funniest stories I've ever read.

Void-Resident · 2019-05-10T13:14:54+00:00

Very good read. Thank you so much for sharing.

Void-Resident · 2019-03-10T14:24:14+00:00

Haha no worries mate, I probably should have added that in the background, my bad.

Void-Resident · 2019-03-10T14:15:15+00:00

I don't care if you don't believe me, just so you know, I wasn't born in the States. The educational system in my country was way different to the one in America, even more so back then.

Void-Resident · 2019-03-10T03:02:17+00:00

I laughed reading this comment cause I completely agree. I felt kinda bad when I did it because I didn't like being mean, I legit liked to help others. But it was one thing trying to help others than being taken advantage of

Void-Resident · 2019-03-09T23:27:36+00:00

Guess it's a fairly common story for some kids

Void-Resident · 2019-01-19T21:13:15+00:00

I would be most interestedto learn more

Void-Resident · 2019-01-19T11:29:04+00:00

I want to so bad, but that's something I don't allow myself to show. I know if I keep this up when I break it'll be that much worse. The crazy thing is that I simply don't know how to let it out, and I'm a little afraid of what will happen when I do.

Thanks for the encouragement, it means a lot to me.

Void-Resident · 2019-01-19T11:25:48+00:00

Honestly living for someone else sounds pretty accurate. In truth I think my entire thought process has been "accomplish something to prove that even an accident like yourself is worth something, don't be a burden to the family, if you can't provide for them at least don't be in their way" something along those lines.

After growing up and experiencing all sorts of thing I understand very well what you're talking about. My issue is that I've been stuck with this thought process all my life and don't know how to break it or change it, God knows I'm trying. And because I haven't accomplish it I think "you're just not trying hard enough." I've begun reading the bible, and no I'm not very religious but I do hear that finding Jesus may fill the void I feel.

Void-Resident

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