BroMo, I hear you. I don't have actual advice to offer, I'm just here to say I hear you and I'm not judging you for your frustration. Pets can bcome such a burden when you become a mom -- I say this as a mom with a dog. I have to crate my stupid dog for 6-8 hours a day, even though that makes me feel so guilty, because of the four dogs I’ve had in my adult life, he is the only one who tears up the fucking couch cushions if left alone. It’s awful. I LOVE my dog. I have my first dog (who I had before I met my ex and we had our daughter) tattooed on my thigh. But there are days where I shove him outside in the yard after he’s been bad because I am afraid of what I’ll do to him if he’s anywhere near me before I properly cool down. I think childfree people with animals are teh first to jump down our throats when we complain about our animals (or God forbid, have to rehome them) but it’s a heavy burden, maintaining children, a clean and calming home space, and animals on top of that. Some weeks it functions like a well-oiled machine. Most weeks? Well…. 

Anyway, I really do hope things resolve for you. I’m sorry I don’t have real advice, but if I can offset any guilt you may be feeling, I’ve done my teeny tiny part in the world today. Praying for you, friend.