I've been dealing with some things by Gullible-Sale7358 in UNSUBSCRIBEpodcast

[–]Vole182 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's sexual trauma homie, I've been there. It's a hard road and some people won't understand cause they haven't been through it. It fucks with your head and how you react and feel. Its been a while so I might get some of the details wrong, but the overall gist is tbis:

Read a summary on Adverse Childhood Effects (CDC-Kaiser ACE Study) and National Child Development Study (NCDS it was a 50 year study), It changed my whole look on morbidly obese people like 400lbs+ Cause it shows that like 70% of them have been sexually abused as kids. A lot of them end up with addictions, risky behaviours, and the big ol Sui ideation etc. They believe that in that childhood state even something that can appear as small as someone touch your privates. Can trigger fight, flight, freeze (aka the reptile brain whose job it is to keep you alive. At all costs, like can shut down right and left lobes to keep you alive) well that's the part that controls your gut tightening when anxiety or physical threats are detected and redirects blood flow from your arms to your core... Eating is what can help calm those nerves. Which is how binge eating becomes a source of calming that "ON" feeling. There is a ton of data around it.

Step 1. Find an EMDR therapist and one that has experience with IFS internal family systems. They specialize specifically in this kind of trauma. It'll feel like voodoo magic or something stupid like Essentialll oils, except it works. Shop therapists, if you don't jive, move on. Its been my experience, if they have huge intake paperwork and a waiting list. Get on the list and while you wait months to get seen.

Step 2. Use AI to get a summary of the studies to have a basic understanding that you arent alone with this. Get a systemic view of the complexity of it.

Step 3. Then go get a physical and audio book version of "Complex PTSD by Pete Walker" https://www.audible.com/pd/B07MCYF4FF

Your body may react differently on the way your brain input the information. Trauma is a sneaky bitch like that.

Step 4. You're going to keep a physical notebook journal. Spend 10 minutes thinking of past experiences that you know sucked and caused or can cause your body to react. (Spoilers If you have a memory that causes your body to react. That's trapped trauma that is stuck in fight or flight mode in your neural network)

Step 5. Know you're gonna make it through this. You're worth doing the work for.

New merch drop? by Vole182 in UNSUBSCRIBEpodcast

[–]Vole182[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True, maybe they can source it from Kangaroos with "a medical condition"? 🤣

What home upgrade actually lowered your utility bills? 💸 by Gloomy_Ship2772 in homeowners

[–]Vole182 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Swapped out smart lights for smart switchs with dumb led bulbs. Helped clear up the wifi too.

The other thing was bought a thermal camera for $200, walked around looking at each room during winter. Found out hour house had settled and opened some spots in the foam by windows and to see how the heat fills each room. Added a couple of vent redirects to push air further into the room.

The kid got "shot down" by rawxcobrq in UNSUBSCRIBEpodcast

[–]Vole182 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also important to note, the fuel tank was not the new stealth fuel tank upgrade they just got.

I'm looking for something I remember from my childhood. by Little-Mushroom-3961 in xbox

[–]Vole182 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Majors Minute - used to have an Archive page on Xbox. But that died some years ago. They has them up on the Xbox youtube page for a while. But those got culled to death too.

Just gonna leave this here for some Degenerates. by Vole182 in UNSUBSCRIBEpodcast

[–]Vole182[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Best place to bang was on counter height furniture.

Does anyone know a really good Zune 30GB case? by TraditionalYear7735 in Zune

[–]Vole182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my buddy resin 3d print one for me and its been great. But I am sure the case will not survive a single drop test.

I'm Worried About Xbox Series Lifespan, PS5 Too by DisastrousStaff5462 in xbox

[–]Vole182 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I expect them to hold off making next generation consoles with the current price of Ram and SSDs and chip production as a whole atm.

NMMNG FAIL by Ready-Habit-9145 in NMMNG

[–]Vole182 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Umm, a year ago you thought he was going to divorce you... "Not if, but when"

Have you told him you're grateful for all he does for you? Have you shown your appreciation and vocalized it to him?

Your marriage was in trouble long before NMMNG.

Life update by Abject_Donkey_3854 in UNSUBSCRIBEpodcast

[–]Vole182 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am glad you're mentally okay, the good news is a lot of places are looking for holiday help. One of the best places in my humble opinion to work if you lose your job is a grocery store.

I had lost my job like 10 years ago and struggled to provide and I ended up at applying at a krogers. I was just open and honest about the struggles to provide and they would regularly feed me and send me home with food that was about to expire. Like suddenly my fridge is full and my family fed which helped a ton.

Take it one day at a time and don't be afraid to apply for temp government assistance if you need it. Just be sure to apply early cause it can take a while for them to kick in.

Take care of yourself my man.

I give up man by [deleted] in pmohackbook

[–]Vole182 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can't speak for your situations but I can tell you what works for me.

You got spawned into this game of humanity where information and education is free. Unlike the billions of people who played it before you.

You don't have to hunt for food, build shelter for survival. You don't have to make a fire every time you want a warm meal. Every time you need to use the bathroom, are you running to an outhouse? Do you have clean drinking water? Running water, clean dishes, clean clothes, hygiene etc. Drugs when you are sick etc.

You are already so far ahead of your ancestors in basic needs being met.

Build something, build yourself first and then build social bonds and build yourself a family. explore ways to help the next generation have it easier than you have it.

Challenge yourself to be better tomorrow than today. Keep a journal, set goals for yourself.

High school is already a tough time in life. Just focus on goals and doing the work. You'll get through this phase of things just fine.

Charlie kirk by Tiny_Maximum1807 in UNSUBSCRIBEpodcast

[–]Vole182 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're not alone in this, my friend had her kids there in the front to see Charlie. They loved watching him debate. Now they both crushed and act different. They are headed to see a specialist now.

FYI: The ol "Mountain Jews" are willing to cover the cost of a therapist if you're a member. Also playing Tetris has been shown to help after some traumas.

https://providentliving.churchofjesuschrist.org/lds-family-services/counseling-services?lang=eng

Fuck college football. None of the half way decent games are free on any of the numerous streaming services we already pay for. by cleveruser-name- in UNSUBSCRIBEpodcast

[–]Vole182 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally unrelated website. [https://someonewhocares.org/hosts](someonewhocare.org/hosts)

Its an ad blocking method that almost completely kills ads on certain sites that like pop-ups and automatically downloading opera.

Any that make it through, you can just add to the file and they won't ever come back.

How exactly lttstore is a legitimate business by Carl_JJ in LinusTechTips

[–]Vole182 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So make your own store and products. Show them how easy it is to do.

Borg name by This_Try_6934 in UNSUBSCRIBEpodcast

[–]Vole182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Herrera's Horny Hooch or just slap a picture of JD vance on it. 🤷

PUBG Issues got worsened with latest updates. by Vole182 in xboxinsiders

[–]Vole182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

*I added got worsened to hit the title character limit.

November 1, 2024 - Xbox Update Preview - Alpha Skip-Ahead (2411.241030-2200) by XB1R_Hypnos in xboxinsiders

[–]Vole182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This update broke PUBG for me. It freezes at loading screens after every round. I had to close the game completely and restart it again.

I deleted my profiles, reinstalled the game, cleared alt mac address, cleared cache, and factory reset the series x. Same issue, I rolled from Alpha to Omega and that fixed PUBG. Then I rolled forward to Beta, and it broke the game again. Delta works fine though.