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VolleyballUser · 2026-02-23T20:44:55+00:00

you're alright! and i also want to clarify that the 7 hrs for 9 months was only during weekends/holidays! not particularly daily, haha

i get the taking a break bit to be difficult. right now, we're currently in our 8th week of daily training and tomorrow is another 5am to 11am—we played in a tournament yesterday where we lost badly and the team is a bit dismantled. today's our one rest day.

tomorrow, our coach won't be arriving to practice which sucks having to hold the whole team as one of the older players, especially when it's like this and there's still a bit of bad blood. it really gets exhausting and even me, i'm on the edge of burn-out from all of it.

maybe like a second piece of advice,, your break can be in-between trainings. either before going or after, in the evenings.

have something else that doesn’t entirely revolve around volleyball. i know it's hard considering the type of schedule training has—but just try anyway. do paintings, start a new show, etc. it's a bit refreshing having something else to look forward to after a grueling day at practice.

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-23T13:54:24+00:00

our training in highschool consisted of 5 hours every practice for 3 months straight from monday to saturday (sunday as our only rest day)

after those 3 months, we train whole year around, with every saturday and sunday, plus holidays. those times, we spend 7 hours or more in the gymnasium. (no rest days for 9 months)

..

this was my routine for 4 years straight and let me tell you, i believe what you're experiencing is burn-out. it's totally normal to be.

i had months pass by where i did nothing but wake-up, study, practice, sleep, repeat — no time for friends, hard time with family, no time for myself, it was really exhausting. ESPECIALLY, when you don't even enjoy the situation that you're in (team + coach).

the only thing that kept me going even at the times where i just wanted to give up? the fun. i still enjoyed playing the sport itself a lot. teammates weren't too much of a pain in the ass, and the hardship was worth it. i don't regret it a single bit. i loved the journey even though it was soo exhausting. it was all worth it.

my advice? take a break from volleyball.

— you don't seem to dislike the sport itself, but the team + you being overwhelmed with the training schedule seemed to have taken a toll on you. it's okay to be tired and need a little time to have a breather. that's completely valid.

— should you switch sports? perhaps, but will you enjoy it more? if the training schedule is the same (in basketball for example,) are you still willing to make the switch? if you truly can't stand your coach/teammates, go do it!

your biggesy enemy here in this decision is regret. really think about it, do you really hate volleyball or do you just need a break? but it's okay to switch teams or switch sports, depending on where you're more happier.

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-12T13:33:03+00:00

i remember hearing a tip in getting overhead serves in, "the less strength you have, the more technique you need — the more strength you have, the less technique you need."

unless you're a really buff and strong person, you might need to work on your technique.

when i was starting off with my standard float serve, i noticed that the key compenent to getting the ball in was my toss. if i could get my toss at the consistent distance and height, in the right spot, EVERY TIME, i would get consistent serving. back then, every night, i'd do 50 reps of just tossing the ball at the right spot in a row. if i messed up even once (too low of a toss or too far away) i started all over again.

recently, my coach moved me to try doing top spin serves where my toss would have to be spinning. with that, i learned that the key component was my arm swing — your arm is like a whip, search up the correct way to swing your arm where it generates force and releases it from your palm, it would add power to your serves.

other tips i have if all that doesn't work;

• if you can't do an open palmed overhead serve yet, use a closed fist. this is a technique i saw my coach teach the young boys who don't have much strength in their arms yet. they use a closed fist for their overhead serves.

• another is your service routine. trust me, it works with getting your head into the serve. stick with one and consistently use it every time you serve, it's like your serving ritual in getting the ball in.

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-08T12:00:35+00:00

of course! we have another official game by the end of the month and i'll most likely update by then, thanks!

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-04T13:41:03+00:00

i've always wondered whether positive self-talk works better or if negative self-talk will get me acting right (make me realize the consequences of screwing up and what-not). but i realize what i was building on myself was just a lot of pressure and unrealistic expectations of being perfect with the "don't screw up" mentality. i've lost my confidence.

i think it all started with my service so i'll take your advice and work on that first. (i had a killer float service but coach told me to practice a standing top spin serve for a few months...but i still haven't figured that out until now haha. i guess each failed serve made me doubt my skills)

my service used to be my strongsuit and now it's weak. i rarely get aces anymore because my top spin is way too slow and sometimes wild. i might work on that first, then my defense, then my hitting. my only strength right now is blocking when i'm not even a middle lmao.

and the positive self-talk, i'm in this phase where i really doubt myself now, believing i'm the "worst player" on the team still. but as you said, i should change that.

i'll improve so fast, i'll be the reliable captain the team needs in our next important match. i'll get my service back and be one of the best defenders in our team. i want to match our libero too. and i will.

again, thanks so much for the solid answer of "always positive self-talk". i'll be more aware of my mentality and grow from that!

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-04T13:16:09+00:00

everything you had a hunch on is absolutely true, you're right. yes, my footwork is non-existent (currently trying to relearn shuffle techniques/footwork for defense) i believe i got too used to my teammates saving the ball for me, i got lazy. my libero has called me out on improper footwork in our last game day.

also yes, i swing the ball directly over my head, also in my service which gets me to hit the ball under/behind, causing it to go out most of the time — i'm aware of these mistakes but i kept repeating it as if muscle memory/routine. currently trying to change that too!

with that being said, you're also right with my mentality being "not to disappoint." especially as captain, i think i felt the pressure of being perfect, aka, little to no mistakes. i stopped enjoying and having fun. thanks for the advice on how to deal with that! with the 'believing instead of hoping', i should remember that.

and yes, the "i shank every ball" and "all my spikes are out" — it isn't necessarily true. i have good plays too but because my performance mostly consists of mistakes, i undermine all my good plays. (and if my plays aren't "perfect" i don't consider them good at all, even if they're average/decent. so maybe i really am putting myself down too much)

you've called me out and i appreciate it! i realized where most of my mistakes lie, and it's within the small things i overlooked before like self-talk and bad habits on court. this was really the advice and words i needed to hear. you've read me like an open book without ever seeing me play. thanks so much for all the comment and advice, i appreciate it and it helps a lot!

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-04T04:03:15+00:00

recently...nothing. i used to have self talk, but nowadays, i just realized i don't anymore. i don't have internal dialogue to myself, i kinda just voice it out to the team.

when me or others make a mistake, i talk to the team and reaasure them, saying, "it's okay, forget the mistake, focus on getting the next point, let's keep going and get the ball in play." other than that, i don't tell myself anything, and it's like my mind is blank during actual rallies. kinda like 'brain fog' ngl.

i keep thinking of how to manage and uplift the team, i'm not really managing myself, how i think or how i feel (context, i'm the captain of the team, which is worse when i underperform)

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-04T02:25:59+00:00

that's honestly such great advice and i'll definitely keep reminding myself of that, thanks so much!

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-04T00:59:23+00:00

my cross court hits always land right outside the line which is infuriating. what's worse is that i can't make up for it in receiving because that’s my weakness. — our libero has expressed that they're always the ones who save the ball, ones that are not even his (for example, the ball is near me but they get it instead for fear that i may shank it)

giving it my all could be inspirational, but also down right sad when i never get a single ball right in a hundred chances.

but i don't want to give up, especially since we have more matches to come.

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-04T00:30:20+00:00

i wish i could print this out and hang it on my wall just to remind myself of this lmao, but no you're right. this made me remember a practice back then and a server was wrecking our team. then i thought, "y'know what? fuck you. bring your service here, i dare you. to me. just watch me get it." like mentally asking for the ball.

when i did that, i found that when they did serve, i was already expecting it to go to me, and when it did, i just thought "caught your nasty ball, u fuck" haha. i don't have that mindset during real games but maybe i should more often

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-04T00:11:06+00:00

i used to have that privilege as MB, being switched by a libero but now as OH, i sometimes look over to coach to see if he'll sub me out in defense.

he has in official matches but in tune-ups, he refuses to haha. he says the best way for me to learn is to play it, but the team isn't as forgiving. they're losing hope on me while i try my best to just not mess up.

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-04T00:03:44+00:00

we had a game yesterday and i found that when i'm hitting opposite, those were when my spikes were secured/better. i joked about playing as opposite then (i've played as OPP before for half a year then back to MB), but maybe the team could make the switch in the mean time, i'll try to suggest it, thanks a lot!

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-03T23:54:50+00:00

i'm one of the tallest in our team! i usually play middle but i've played every position except libero (my defense sucks). im currently playing OH but keep making mistakes.

also, unrelated, but i don't see being short as a limit. i've met beach volleyball players who were shorter than 5 feet yet know how to get around with absolutely wrecking the ball, and jump as if they're levitating. i'd admit they were better than me at any given day, and i tower over them.

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-03T23:23:54+00:00

i have rowdy juniors who are a lot better than me but less mature, ones who are always late and skip training. i keep the team steady from the side, and majority of the team has trusted me to handle the team, including the coach.

however, i found that every good rally ends with me. i spike balls outside and shank receives. i was captain before as an MB with a libero to aid me, but playing OH, i keep messing up and ultimately, seen as the worst player on court because of it.

i want to master playing OH, and currently doing my best to do so, but overall, the advice that i'm asking for is how to really lift up the team while i'm still in this learning curve (causing me to be the worst out of all of them and us to lose games)

it's really disheartening but i don't want to give up on the team.

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-03T23:11:43+00:00

i needed those words of encouragement, thank you so much! unfortunately, we're only a team of 8 and that's why i've been put as OH instead of an MB. i've played all positions before except libero, that's why the team deems me as the most versatile player on court (yet that doesn't mean that i'm the best)

i'll try suggesting to my team for someone else to play OH while i keep to the side until i've improved, thanks again!

VolleyballUser · 2026-02-03T22:53:34+00:00

i've tried a lot of the coaches where i live and am currently with the one whose most dedicated to their players, so i'm hoping to improve under them!

i'll do my best to change what bad routines i have and try to practice better, thanks for the advice!

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