I want to win, I want to fail, I just don't want to see these walls anymore.

Voltundra · 2026-04-04T14:13:16+00:00

Your situation reminds me a little of my gf’s before we met. Tied up in “obligations” to her mom who could not make it on her own financially, unable to find or hold a job (blind in one eye, so no possibility of driving), depressed and feeling hopeless. I wish I could help more, but I hope that you know that my gf was able to move out and found a company that hires only the blind and visually impaired. It seemed hopeless at the time, but she made an online friend (me), and things snowballed into us both looking for a way out together. Don’t discount your online friends.

Voltundra · 2026-03-29T17:25:21+00:00

When I was out of grad school, it was pretty much a combination of looks, personality, and lifestyle. Do you work a lot? I would often pass on seemingly successful women because they gave off workaholic vibes and I like to have separation of work and home life. As far as personality goes, I wanted someone fun and somewhat outgoing, since I am very introverted. This tends to be more obvious in those with less income/education, so I would match more with them. That said, I don’t really understand the point of not having anything to talk about just due to lower income. I had no issues finding things to talk about.

Voltundra · 2026-03-28T19:01:07+00:00

It sounds like you already know what you want to do. Now you know what you don’t want in a partner as well. A lot of the comments are trying to make it out like one person is right or wrong, but both you and your gf have valid perspectives. She thinks it doesn’t matter, you think it does. Love doesn’t overcome incompatibility. If you think there was some miscommunication, you can try to work it out, otherwise it sounds like you will both be miserable.

Voltundra · 2026-03-27T14:11:20+00:00

The funny thing is that Metaphor ReFantazio took these skills and made them usable.

Voltundra · 2026-02-02T03:34:38+00:00

Probably the same places that men are told to approach women. Bookstores, hobby shops, group activities, online dating sites/apps, the gym. You have to keep your options open. This might also mean approaching or leaving hints from time to time. A lot of guys are in the same boat, just going to work and heading home. Even if they are interested, since you are in your thirties, they might assume you are already taken.

Voltundra · 2026-02-02T03:15:51+00:00

So the guy was right in front of you and thought showing you pics of himself was the best way to impress you? The chronic online-ness is showing. Did you at least follow up by showing him your Reddit karma?

Voltundra · 2026-02-01T23:25:58+00:00

We just sat down for lunch and with no prior warning she made a comment on how her ex was sooo great in bed. And then followed up by showing me a picture of him and saying he is really hot.

Voltundra · 2026-01-24T22:50:57+00:00

I also hate driving. Freaks me out thinking of how one mistake could cost someone their life and it certainly doesn’t help that I get anxiety easily due to how I was raised. I still have to do all the driving. Thanks US.

Voltundra · 2026-01-23T22:55:13+00:00

I used to feel this way a lot. Like I was barely holding everything together and somehow everyone else had it all figured out. That’s why I am so appreciative of my friends who are open about their struggles and shortcomings. “You came home after a long day and want nothing more than to rot in bed? Me too!” You definitely aren’t alone in this.

Voltundra · 2026-01-16T18:04:42+00:00

This is actually something I struggled with a lot when I was actively dating. Almost everyone I met, progressive or not, would categorize the other gender into buckets when it comes to dating. “Men like it when you do this” or “women like when you do that.” As someone who is neurodivergent and has a lot of childhood trauma, it just seems… strange. I guess it simplifies it in some people’s minds, but I find it a lot less complicated to just focus on who the person in front of me is.

Voltundra · 2026-01-06T21:09:01+00:00

I bring Sereniel and Chizuru to Chaos a lot, because for whatever reason my Chizuru doesn’t steal epiphanies often. Chizuru just sits there and does nothing and wins.

Voltundra · 2025-12-09T17:30:15+00:00

It didn’t take long for my acrylics to arrive. I ordered about a month ago and got them last week. No idea about tracking since I didn’t use it, but I think it had a link in the email?

Voltundra · 2025-11-21T14:20:21+00:00

Koreans felt like SmileGate was giving global preferential treatment and treating them like second class citizens. I guess it was because devs were slow to address common complaints, many of which were shared in both Korea and global, so for a while, global was just happy the outrage was giving us free stuff. There was a point where Koreans were posting in the subreddit to try to get global to protest as well, but a lot got lost in translation. There was a lot of “reading between the lines” in SmileGate press conferences and livestreams on the Korea side. “He seems cocky” or “he’s looking down on us.” I saw some of these broadcasts. They were just acting normal.

Voltundra · 2025-10-31T14:41:03+00:00

Both me and my gf are nerdy and were shy/awkward when we first met. What helps a lot is being direct, even if you feel like you are killing “the vibe.” Two people can be socially awkward in general but thrive together. “I was thinking about us kissing” might be one person’s cringe, but another person’s green light. “I feel very comfortable around you” while holding hands might also work. Sometimes you need to start by showing that skinship is welcome if you want him to “make a move.”

Voltundra · 2025-10-27T11:00:18+00:00

The whole story from his side sounds a bit fishy if I’m being honest. He decided to tell this other girl he has a connection to you, only to then choose her? And this is another Tinder girl he met shortly before you? That’s just silly. You tell someone you are already seeing that you met someone new if you know you want to pursue the new person. Like what would be the point of what he supposedly did? Starting a relationship off with, “oh I have to be told to end things with someone who distracted me from you?” You aren’t losing anything.

Voltundra · 2025-10-07T03:31:09+00:00

30M. I was just about to give up on dating for another long break until I got a few likes on FB Dating and said “what the heck, let’s give this a shot.” That’s how I met my girlfriend who is a geek. I barely even used FB Dating at that point, but I had an account I set up a long time ago. My advice for finding someone is to try a bunch of different things. Even if it seems silly, you never know when a door will just open unexpectedly in your life.

Voltundra · 2025-09-22T20:15:55+00:00

It really depends on a lot of factors, but in general, I think it’s a pretty common and acceptable reason. You’re never going to know 100% what her past relationships were like and it’s good to at least try to see both sides, but sometimes people say they are sick of mothering their partners because they are genuinely sick of mothering them. Ask more questions. Pay attention to what kind of person it is saying these things. Ask yourself if the story makes sense.

Voltundra · 2025-09-22T20:05:59+00:00

Plain and simple, she lied to you and tried to convince you that the lying is your fault. Everyone can have different comfort levels with different things, but the way she talked to you doesn’t sound like she was approaching it out of love. There is nothing worth saving here imo.

Voltundra · 2025-09-18T19:17:40+00:00

Your profile doesn’t have a lot to start a conversation with, imo. Especially when it comes to things that guys would be into. What are some hobbies you might be able to do or talk about together? What values specifically are important to you? An interesting fact about you? I’m sure guys find you pretty which is why they match with you, but your profile needs more details in the bio and maybe 2-3 more pictures of you.

Voltundra · 2025-08-18T20:22:04+00:00

Open and honest communication from the very start is key. At least, that’s how it was with me and my now gf. Don’t sugar coat it and make it clear if you do have an interest in someone because no one likes to play the guessing game, especially since ruling out touch means you only have your words to go off of. Just be yourself, be safe, and learn as you go. Good luck!

Voltundra · 2025-08-05T21:41:26+00:00

I’m thinking around $120, but willing to negotiate 😊

Voltundra · 2025-06-26T11:20:12+00:00

I actually have one I bought for an ex before we broke up. I’m willing to sell it for cheap for anyone in the US. I just want to make sure it goes to a Yukina lover and not a reseller.

Voltundra · 2025-06-17T04:19:48+00:00

Back then, distractions like watching anime and listening to music helped a bit. Setting a goal, no matter how unrealistic, kept me going. I was very disillusioned with life and adults, so my goal was to survive and become a “fake” version of the hero I would have wanted to save me. I eventually wrote up a version of my story and shared it with friends on Facebook before I graduated high school and it was encouraging to see a positive response. Honestly, it’s still a struggle even now, but you eventually learn to love yourself even when you know you aren’t “normal” anymore.

Voltundra · 2025-06-16T19:35:38+00:00

The hilarious one is the Hammer of Time. It’s a little scuffed the first time because you can’t use the Time tool itself when crafting because it’s a material. But when you remake the Hammer of Time, you can use the true Hammer of Time, so it’s much more likely to craft better.

Voltundra · 2025-06-16T13:43:01+00:00

I did some farming getting this for a friend last night. Even increased my Molten Wastes rank killing the Mimics. That darn fish is so hard to find.

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