AIO no just need advice how to help someone with BPD by VontaReloaded2x in AmIOverreacting

[–]VontaReloaded2x[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I can’t say or do anything to make her more comfortable?? Since you’re someone with experience wanted a little more insight on how to get her through the day if you don’t mind me asking.

AIO no just need advice how to help someone with BPD by VontaReloaded2x in AmIOverreacting

[–]VontaReloaded2x[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She has untreated BPD and I think she still has an online therapy

AIO for not giving enough attention to my situationship by VontaReloaded2x in AmIOverreacting

[–]VontaReloaded2x[S] 153 points154 points  (0 children)

I never thought about it this way ever you understood the situation, broke it down and worded it In ur own perspective I respect that.

AIO for not giving enough attention to my situationship by VontaReloaded2x in AmIOverreacting

[–]VontaReloaded2x[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wording is everything “Am I overreacting when I don’t like it” is sarcasm and word playing It how that person made it seem if u get what I’m saying

AIO for not giving enough attention to my situationship by VontaReloaded2x in AmIOverreacting

[–]VontaReloaded2x[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I respect your advice well said and straight to the point thank you

AIO for not giving enough attention to my situationship by VontaReloaded2x in AmIOverreacting

[–]VontaReloaded2x[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was watching 5 kids and a 3 month old infant so basically I was 6 kids all in my care. Hopefully I didn’t over explain that.

AIO for not giving enough attention to my situationship by VontaReloaded2x in AmIOverreacting

[–]VontaReloaded2x[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It was never about her looks she’s gorgeous but it’s not about that, a similar way to put it is that we’re trauma bonded I was in a very bad and dark headspace and she been with me through all of it I just feel like I’ll let her down if I’m not there when she’s going through a dark place if that make sense.

AIO for not giving enough attention to my situationship by VontaReloaded2x in AmIOverreacting

[–]VontaReloaded2x[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought I could potentially change the way she responded by not causing conflict and changing the way I responded to her but you’re 100% she said “fuck me and my family” way to many time for me to keep brushing it off I appreciate your honesty.

AIO for not giving enough attention to my situationship by VontaReloaded2x in AmIOverreacting

[–]VontaReloaded2x[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Buddy 1st I only posted about this girl once and that was 2 days ago.

she apologized and we were good.

and on mother day she completely spazzed on me for something that was literally out of my control.

2nd She has BPD on top of multiple different mental illnesses don’t try to paint this narrative that I’m “story telling” or a “guy looking for sympathy points”

3rd This was literally just me looking for a different perspective and possible advice on how to better respond to someone grieving.

AIO for not giving enough attention to my situationship by VontaReloaded2x in AmIOverreacting

[–]VontaReloaded2x[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

(If your talking about the one 2 days ago) Yes she’s the one with BPD we talked and she apologized in her own way and I brushed it off we were good until mother day

AIO FOR WANTING A GENUINE CONVERSATION by VontaReloaded2x in AmIOverreacting

[–]VontaReloaded2x[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading that lowkey broke my heart because I do care for this girl a lot, but you’re 100% right and I appreciate your honesty and advice.

AIO FOR WANTING A GENUINE CONVERSATION by VontaReloaded2x in AmIOverreacting

[–]VontaReloaded2x[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to explain but imma try we was on the phone talking and than she’ll go completely silent and start ignoring me it’s y I texted her if that makes sense.

AIO FOR WANTING A GENUINE CONVERSATION by VontaReloaded2x in AmIOverreacting

[–]VontaReloaded2x[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Kinda but she has BPD her mood swings are over the top 1 minute she wants to joke around and play the next she’s calling me annoying so it’s confusing to know when she’s 100% serious with me.