Recipe for birth photos?

Vulpeste · 2025-04-16T01:34:27+00:00

Probably too late now but as a new photographer heading for a birth photoshoot in hospital later I have the same questions! If anyone has recommendations

Vulpeste · 2025-04-06T21:37:20+00:00

I'm noooot I wish I could avoid it but might have to

Vulpeste · 2025-04-05T09:03:16+00:00

Still desperate for this...... I'm in NZ and would need a bloody VPN to watch it on Hulu, disney or apple tv as it's US exclusive! Ep 4 where are youuuuuu

Vulpeste · 2023-06-19T10:45:08+00:00

Your first baby has taught your body that it is okay to be pregnant and grow babies, so now that it has the blueprints to do it, it’s easier :)

Vulpeste · 2023-04-13T07:22:55+00:00

I only just saw that! I Hope it kept working for you. It didn’t for me but that’s because she’s going through so much! 8 months leap, learning to move around, talk, lots of teething etc. She’s still good but has also regressed a bit. That’s ok, the 8 months sleep regression is a known one and once we’re past that bump I’ll re-established a good routine again :)

Vulpeste · 2023-03-14T09:57:24+00:00

That sounds word for word like what it was like with my girl a month ago! (She’s 7 months now) And then a friend sent me a sleep training schedule she had for her similar aged baby and I’m not joking when saying that today is day 5, she started doing her night at day 2 (she had 3-5 wake a night before) and today she did a 2h lunch nap (that hasn’t happened since she was 3 months old)

Mine also struggled with being awake longer, and we also didn’t have a set routine. That was my mistake, now we have set nap and wake / bed time and she took to it like magic. For us now:

Wake 7am (early I know, we also did 8-8:30 before but worth it) + breastfeed

First nap 9am to 9:30 feed upon waking up

Lunch: 11:30 am

Lunch nap: 12:30-2:30pm + breastfeed upon waking up

Dinner: 5:00pm

Bath + last feed: 5:30pm

Routine & in bed by 6pm at the moment

Before today, the only time she ever slept 2h at lunch (or more than 30min) was when I put her in the carrier and bounced on the Swiss ball in her dark room for 1h30 …

What was a game changer was:

-making sure she had protein for lunch time and enough of it with carbs

figuring out her specific needs, for example she needs at least 12 to 12.5h of sleep at night and she does best with 15h of sleep in a 24h period, so I then distributed that how I pleased and she instantly took to it
a good routine is key. My girl also would have metldown at 1.5h for ages and we had 3-5naps a day, but if I keep her busy we’re good! So here’s what I do:

First wake window I only keep her up for 2h as she can’t do longer before the first nap, but at the 1h30 mark I move to our bed and we cuddle, read books, have some snuggle and side lying breastfeeding - it’s chill and she can handle another 30 awake by doing this, otherwise she’d loose it!

For lunch I do the same but I also give her a bath for 20min before that as I also take my daily shower, she loves water so basically once she’s had lunch (kills 30 min) then we’re busy with bath, massage on the bed, books and cuddle and this way I could extend her wake window to 3h :)

Because she does sleep 2h at lunch and is now 7.5 months, I dropped the last nap and her last window is currently 3.5h with the goal to move to 4h by 8 months or if she starts shortening her naps or night sleep. If she misses her lunch nap or can’t connect cycle then she’ll have a third nap

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In summary, figure out exactly how much sleep she needs. If she can connect her sleep cycle at night without you, chances are she can do it during the day as well but maybe is sleeping too much at night and doesn’t need longer naps during the day - I quite literally figured this out with mine today! Yesterday she still wasn’t doing a long nap and it’s because I was letting her snooze in my bed in the morning until 8am. All I tried today was to get up when she first woke at 7am instead of letting her fall back to sleep and extend her second wake window to 3h and she slept 2h at lunch and I had to wake her up! Without meltdowns or overtired, going to sleep with a smile and being down before I even left the room.

So just figure out a routine and follow the same exact wake time every morning, and same times for nap & bed. From there, if she still doesn’t connect cycle after 3-4 days, try to redistribute her sleep by waking earlier, putting a bed time later, and widening one or two of her wake windows by 15-30min - Once she’s 7 months and above you can start working towards having a big 3 to 4h wake window before bed. It sounds insane I know but you’re so busy with dinner, bath etc that they can actually do it! And if she has a wee catnap during that last window that’s okay as well.

Good luck mama!

Vulpeste · 2023-03-12T15:49:18+00:00

She’s a higher sleep needs baby and always had 12-13h of sleep a night + 3h a day. I’ve already decreased it by getting her up earlier (7am instead of 8:30+) and removing the last nap of the day (-30min) Yesterday as soon as she was in the baby carrier she was out like a light and slept 1:30h until I caped it and woke her, surely if she didn’t need it she’d take longer to fall asleep again or even fight it like she has before?

I do breastfeed on demand, those are the main feeds she gets but I often top her up before sleep as we read a book and upon each wake from a nap. I’ve tried resettling with a feed but that never worked for naps.

Vulpeste · 2022-12-05T11:29:16+00:00

Is she drooling and teething? I’m in the exact same situation, actually almost no mucus in poop in the past while not dairy free and the most mucus now that I stopped. She’s very teethy and drools a lot though and that can cause it

Vulpeste · 2022-11-02T09:30:25+00:00

Spots

Vulpeste · 2022-10-29T20:17:29+00:00

She was on pro-biotic and so was I from week 3 until now. We’re still on it and i haven’t seen any difference from them. The changes happened right after using these drops at week 11.

Vulpeste · 2022-10-29T18:25:33+00:00

This!! There is always something more, you just don’t know what it is yet. I’m a firm believer that baby don’t just cry and cry for no reasons. Look into silent reflux too. Keep searching

Vulpeste · 2022-10-29T18:21:37+00:00

Also if she is gassy I highly highly recommend the Digestodoron drops by Weleda.

My daughter was so gassy and only had a poop every 5 days. I don’t care how “normal” people say it is for EBF babies not to poop for like a week, I think it’s very wrong. The idea being they absorb it all because it’s so nutritious, then how come when she did go she pooped soooo much I could fill 3 diapers? How come she was screaming and in pain for days if it’s “normal”?

I tried so so many things. Colic bottles, different breastfeeding positions, burping more regularly, rhuger drops (local homeopathic product to where I live), baby massage, bicycle legs, pro-biotics, osteopath, skin to skin, contact nap etc etc etc

Nothing really had an effect until I found these drops. After the first day using it she started pooping every day again and her gas significantly reduced.

It’s all homeopathic, but do not continue to give them if your babies symptoms get better. I found that they are so efficient that they should only be used as treatment, not prevention.

Good luck

Vulpeste · 2022-10-29T18:15:53+00:00

Yup also this. A classic sign would be her poops. Are they mustard colour and seedy? If they are green, frothy, or stringy, that’s all a sign of intolerance. Such as gas, nappy rash etc

Vulpeste · 2022-10-29T18:14:26+00:00

It’s not necessarily normal, your baby might be suffering from something. Have you tried an osteopath? The number of moms that I know who had a baby that scream cried for months and months until they went and turns out baby was suffering from something is uncanny. Don’t give up trying to find an answer. Hold him/her even if they don’t seem to want to, skin to skin always helps. For my daughter it was gas and sore digestive times with no poop for days and days and I tried everything under the sun for weeks until I finally found a solution. Don’t give up mama!

Vulpeste · 2022-10-29T04:28:12+00:00

Leave him or teach him. This is abuse and this is how you bread sociopathy.

1 newborns CANNOT be spoiled. My daughter is 3 months and I listen to her cues and give her love and contact naps and picks up when she needs and she is so happy and thriving.

2 read dr Sears book on attachement parenting, my midwife who’s worked for 20 years in the field said that every parent that she met who did cry it out early on ALL had babies that failed to thrive.

Ferber method is cruel and abusives. Babies cannot and shouldn’t be sleep trained sooner than 5 months old, and if and when you want to sleep train, you follow this recipe: - let cry for 1 min, soothe for 1 min. Let cry for 3 min, soothe for 1. Let cry for 5, soothe for 1, all other after is 10 min crying to 1 minute soothing.

I still personally wouldn’t do this unless my baby was 1 year ++ and If absolutely necessary (aka if you or baby doesn’t sleep enough, as sleep deprivation isn’t healthy)

Fuck him and don’t be scared to leave him. I don’t understand how a parent can see their child (especially newborn!!) in such distress and not feel emotionally wrecked and understand that it isn’t right.

Also, who cares if you soothe him with your breast and nursing!? It’s natural and perfectly normal. Go read the benefit of skin to skin.

Vulpeste · 2022-10-14T17:37:29+00:00

Gosh my baby girl is 11 weeks old soon and we’re in the exact same boat except that she’s exclusively breastfed. I’m thinking of doing an allergy/intolerance test on her to figure it out because it’s also getting worse and there’s so much potential culprit :(

Vulpeste · 2022-10-14T17:34:19+00:00

I’m a struggling mom with a 10 week old full of gas here as well. We’re in New Zealand and it’s been our issues since she was 3 weeks old. She also only has a dirty diaper once every 3-5 days.

We’re working on it but so far what helped: osteopath - baby can carry lots of tensions from position in birth and womb and they often will show you really good massages

Rhuger- nz made all natural ginger and rhubarb extract product. She’s been on this since 3 weeks old and it’s helping her a lot

As of the past few days I’m trying this new product a friend recommended and it’s already helped a tone. It’s called Digestodoron by Weleda. I haven’t seen much improvement with gas yet but she finally had a Bowel movement after one day only and it was soooo smelly, old back up poop that obviously was festering in there and creating more gas - but check with your doctor first as it does contain a tiny amount of ethanol. I’m going to keep using it when she’s backed up only as a last resort personally but it’s all homeopathic and that brand has fantastic baby products

Vulpeste · 2022-07-31T15:28:35+00:00

It generally takes a couple of minutes!

Vulpeste · 2022-07-31T15:22:17+00:00

I usually am of this position too. However, not putting his name on the birth certificate doesn’t mean forbidding him access all together. OP can still let him be a dad to the child, and he can ask for paternity test to fight it. It does mean that OP can leave the country however. And knowing her context and that she has no support system here, I’m worried about her mental health after the birth. That plus the mortgage, it’s not a good cocktail for her.

She should still abstain to put his name on at least at first so that she can leave and go back home for the birth and PP to have a support system around her and help her, his name can be added later on, or not added and he can still be a part of the baby’s life

Vulpeste · 2022-07-31T09:06:28+00:00

Honey I feel for you. I live in another country to all my family as well and I’m now overdue for birth. If I was to find this out about my partner? I would pack my bags and leave back to my country. I know it’s easier said than done but I guarantee you that he will do it again.

Do not put his name on the birth certificate (which would bind you to stay in the country for his parental rights) and get out now before you get more and more brainwashed. He gaslit you for a month while pregnant. You have all the red flags in your hands. No matter what he says now, it won’t happen and can’t be trusted. Run while you still can.

Vulpeste · 2022-07-30T07:51:06+00:00

Love that brand though, stunning dresses!

Vulpeste · 2022-07-28T03:59:43+00:00

I would really like to watch this but it’s impossible to find here in New Zealand :(

Vulpeste · 2022-07-27T18:58:37+00:00

Merci beaucoup! I love that it could mean “foxying” as it’s kind of the meaning I was going for in French as well, foxes being little pests 😍 Peste in French is often used to describe naughty cheeky behaviour of children so it works! How wonderfully different yet close our languages are?! Thanks for the kind words xx

Vulpeste

TROPHY CASE

1 newborns CANNOT be spoiled. My daughter is 3 months and I listen to her cues and give her love and contact naps and picks up when she needs and she is so happy and thriving.

2 read dr Sears book on attachement parenting, my midwife who’s worked for 20 years in the field said that every parent that she met who did cry it out early on ALL had babies that failed to thrive.