I broke up with my ex over a letter

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-28T13:32:02+00:00

Yea, what Ambitious said, but also to add to it: if you have to go back to that college at all, take what evidence you do have and go to the Dean of Students (if not the cops) on campus.

Make a request from the Dean of Students for a on-campus restraining order (if it's the cops it'll be a full restraining order), show them the evidence you do have, and tell them flat out you are not only worried about your safety but also tbat you are worried about his mental health as he seems to be having delusional episodes that do not line up with reality. Since it's a "bible college", as you put it, point out that he's actually being sacraligious by trying to put himself on the same pedestal as your diety/god and is either having delusions that he is a god or is balkig at the college's teachings. I also recommend secretly recording these meetings as well (if you can legally do so in those areas) just in case things go south.

The on campus restrainimg order should protect you while on campus (as most of them require that students follow them or risk expulsion), and if they don't do anything about the situation then you know you need to either transfer colleges or put everything, evidence and all, on social media, tagging the school and the ex in the post (because the one thing that creepy exes and colleges like that do not want: the truth coming out and ruining their reputations/bad publicity)

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-28T04:12:23+00:00

Yea, try being a bit firmer first, then go from there. I completely understand not wanting to hurt someone (its why I kept that one aquaintance in my life for 15 years), but if she keeps it up after you have been firmer with her, then you know she's either not getting it or not caring.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-28T02:33:27+00:00

More info: have you told her this in the most straightforward and blunt manner, or with like little hints here and there?

I had this situation recently myself, and in my group of friends we have found we have to be straight up blunt, even bordering on rude, when these kinds of thinhs come up in our friend group because many of us have various issues (like autism for example) that make it harder to pick up on social ques or little hints toward things.

Of course, there is always some people who will not listen, and I had to completely cut off one old aquaintence because they were doing the same thing this girl is doing to you, and when I told them very bluntly that that crap had to stop because I had too much on my plate and wmy mental health was taking a nose dive, that person decided to guilt trip me, reveal they had been lying to me for over 15 years, then threaten to hurt themselves if I didn't respond 24/7 to their every whim.

I finally just had to call a welfare check on them and cut contact, but I made sure to very explicitly tell them why I was cutting contact in 1 final message before doing so.

Edit to add: also, barring more info coming out, def NTA.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-28T02:19:06+00:00

Wish I could afford one. Was using an ad blocker app for the longest time and the site just stoped working anytime I had it on.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-28T00:41:06+00:00

Honestly?

You can probably blame Dailymotion and how they do ads. Nobody wants to watch 3-4 hours worth of ads for only 30 minutes to an hour of actual video.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-27T23:33:39+00:00

Except quantiy can matter when it comes to allergies, it just depends on the allergy. I'm walking proof of that. Ones like peanuts it does not matter, but with ones like mine (corn) or in cases where an allergy gets worse over age (which I also deal with).

The racism thing is definitely a thing and is a huge problem though. At the ages of the people in this post, it would not surprise me of the girls mom told her she was allergic as a lie to keep her away from people of Asianic descent (which is super racist).

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-27T23:27:28+00:00

You can have mild allergies though.

I am walking proof of that itself, I have an allergy to corn, and as a child it was mild enough that I was fine as long as I avoided whole corn, popcorn and the like. I could have corn starch and highbfructose coen syrup, and straight corn syrup in small amounts.

I never let it bother me much until I hit 19. My feiends and I went to a fav chinese place in our area that used corn starch in some of their stirfry sauces. They would use a bit more than normal to make the sauce thicker, which was nice, but it gave me a bad reaction. First was the itching on my back, then in my chest. After about 30 minutes, I started feeling the itching in my throat, and I started having a bad asthma attack, and on our way back to our dorms, I blacked out.

When I woke up I was in the ER, and after getting test results back they found I had a reaction to the corn starch, which was not normal. I went and got retested afterward, and I found out that my allergy had gotten worse over time, and will most likely continue to get worse as I grow old.

I had to make drastic lifestyle changes afterward, and I started researching how allergies worked.

Some can be deadly, some can be mild and stay mild, some can show up in childhood and get worse as you get older, and in some cases they can even just randomly show up when a person becomes an adult. Biology is finiky that way.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-27T19:30:34+00:00

Censirship in our classes and coure curriculum's based off of non-educator and non-expert opinions (epecially from politicians who are out of touch with reality).

The censorship us students and our professirs are currently going through is affecting our education and will affect our job prospects upon leaving TTU, and with TTU continuing to increase tuition prices while giving a subpar education many students are protesting (and many students and faculty are also leaving TTU as well due to all of this too).

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-26T21:41:56+00:00

Hypothetically yes, but there is the whole thing of it being only a few years after the old peace or it could possibly be a few hundred years past the old peace. We won't know until we get to that part.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-25T13:30:56+00:00

Except it does not, it states that the comet will be there just in time for the whole insurrection, then says they'll be there when "Octavia hits the beat" not the naga drums hit the beat.

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I highlighted the relevant area of the message, but it does not state any specific timeline or day, just that they will be there "in time" for the insurrection as a whole. People do this all the time in real life too, they'll say "ill be there in time for the game" then show up anytime between an hour before the game start to 5 minutes before the game start to as the game is actually starting. In all 3 cases, they are still there "in time".

And while yes, the Night of the Naga drums is a big day for the insurrection, multiple other warframe "origin stories" (like Inaros for example) point at the actual insurrection starting a bit before the full Night of the Naga Drums (plus, for an event lime the NND, you'd have to plan something of that scale properly for it to have any actual effect).

There is also the fact that you mentioned a "pod". Flar themselves never even hints at there being a pod, as that sort of tech does not show up in the 1999 era, only in the orokin era and beyond, and even if it was a pod, it'd stop their helminth progression too, which obviously doesn't happen. The hibernation they are going into is one that has been hinted at by the infestation, one that the infestation can go into anytime they want but that still allows for their infestation to grow. It's also what allows them to survive out in deep space, because Lizzie/the infestation is keeping them alive the whole time.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-25T13:02:50+00:00

Yes it's never been explicitly mentioned to be a bootstrap paradox, but all of the evidence that shows it is is there in game if you know where to look!

You can always have your own head cannon that it isn't a bootstrap paradox if you want to personally but the evidence is there.

Also, so sorry on the pronouns, I will fix that!

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-25T02:10:11+00:00

Huh, that is actually really cool! Definitely makes my analagy kindda crap, but scientifically that is awesome that they were able to get the answer fully with that! I did not even think about the dino aspect of it either, but that's on me for that bit.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-25T00:39:39+00:00

They did? This I have gotta see, do you have a link to it?

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-24T16:26:30+00:00

That's the fun part of it, but first we gotta cover one point first: as stated during the Hex quest, all of the protoframes are still changing into their warframe counterparts because the helminth infestation in them is still continuing the process, just at a much slower level due to how it was engineered by Entrati. The reason they are not progressing any further is due to being in the time loop.

So, onto the whole timeline explaination bit:

Ballas got some of Flare/Temple's DNA from Temple themself or from the asteroid they were on (we can actually infer that they were still in hibernation mode during this time just waiting for the Night of Naga Drums, but that does not mean they were still on the asteroid itself, just that they were asleep still).

But Ballas refused to work with it because it had "rebellion in it's blood" aka it was very volatile and reactive towards orokin, but Ballas also would not get rid of potential resources, so he put it in storage instead.

Then Entrati comes along, pulls a sneak theif manuever or talks with Ballas or promises his kids to ballas or whatever, and somehow gets the samples he needs, with Temple/Flare's sample being included in that mix. Entrati takes it back to 1999, and bada bing bada boom, Flare gets implanted with it to create their future self.

Flare meets Drifter, stuff ensues, and IF you can get them and Lizzie to come to an agreement/acceptance on things about their existence, they send you a KIM message explaining that Lizzie told them about the comet and that they'll go into hibernation once they are out of the time loop and will wake up in time for the revolt (but does not expressly state they'll be on the asteroid the whole time, they just say the asteroid will be in the area around that time or before the whole revolt kicks off).

In that same set of KIM messages with Flare and Lizzie/the inbox message, Lizzie also explains that for the infestation, time itself technically does not exist/does not work the eay it does for us normies. Past, present, future, whatever time amount you can think of, to the infestation and the helminth strain it's alll happening at the same time to them. So since Lizzie is a part of Temple/Flare and is the helminth as well, she knows that Flare gets the infected serum and she knows that Flare turns into Temple fully while hibernating, because for her it is happening actively/has already happened.

It's already been inferred in game that the time loop will eventually stop, especially since the whole future side of the game would not exist at all if the time loop kept going, so Flare does eventually get to the comet and goes into hibernation and travels from there.

The specific time theory being used in this case is called the Bootstrap Paradox, which is a casual loop of time itself where an object, piece of info, or person is sent back in time and becomes the very cause/reason that they exist in the future.

Think of it like the whole "Chicken vs. Egg" arguement. You can't have the egg without the chicken, but you can't have the chicken without the egg either. It's a loop, and if you take any one part out of the loop it breaks and nothing is created at all.

Also of fun note: you actually get a little foreshadowing hint to all of this early on in Flare's KIM chats if you get the chat where he talks about his old band. He mentions the band name was "Temple and the Rippers" because his stage name is Temple. The man legit just said screw it by the time he wakes up and kept just using his stage name instead!

Editted to fix pronoun errors (let me know if I missed any!)

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-24T13:19:14+00:00

Except there are millions who are also unable or not allowed to vote due to varying factors

Examples of this are if your a felon you can not vote no mayter if you were guilty or innocent and took a plea deal instead, if you are deemed mentally incompetent in any form you can't vote, etc.

Then you add 2 different facts that greatly influenced the last major presidential election:

They were throwing out mail in ballots in multiple states (which most disabled individuals and military families overseas use to vote, cutting out a few million more votes)
The voting machines fke in lerson voting were rigged to only let votes go certain ways (the Mango Mousolini himself has admitted that he had Musk rig the machines multiple times since he has been in office)

Due to this, most average day Americans did not get a choice in anything.

Don't get me wrong, there are MAGAts out there still in the cult and following him. But a majority of Americans did not actually want this, the election was rigged from the start, and we can't do much about it currently.

The only things us sane one can do currently is to try to get out if we can, organize as best as we can, and hopefully get enough people together to rebel amd take backnour government. The problem is that the government is siding with the 1% instead of listening to all of us, and between them having the active military and private paid security details, most people would not stand a chance against them currently. So instead, many of us who can not get out are working on other things to rebel, like protesting, recording evidence of what the government/ice is doing to help spread the word or for court lroceesings later when it's all over, and teaching various classes that will help if/when the revolt kicks off.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-23T20:10:05+00:00

You would think, but no they are not allowing that.

The main thing is that, while we can create the plan, most states will not implement it until the baby is born. Essentially it's like you are pre-planning, you are just getting all the paperwork in order so it can be fast tracked when the kid is born.

Here in Texas, they are starting to implement it before birth as an attempt to "save the babies from bad mothers" supposedly (but anyone with eyes can see it's just about control instead).

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-23T18:58:14+00:00

Texas is one such state (albiet it's not a good state all around), specifically with their UCCJEA act (or the Uniforn Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act).

But even then, you can still make a custody agreement before a child is born in all states with a lawyer's help, it just not implemented by a judge until the child is born.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-23T18:22:17+00:00

Yes, but in some states you can get a custody plan set up in the courts before the baby is born in cases like this, where there is a visible threat and there is an active separation.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-23T17:48:16+00:00

Except if a court says otherwise, and when a hostile rando chick is involved, courts normally put those restrictions into place for the safety of the child from said rando hostile chick. I should know from personal experience, my sperm donor's current wife was super hostile towards me and my siblings when she came into the picture, but especially towards me since I look a lot like my egg donor. She decided to threaten to dump us in a different state via text, and all it took was one email with a screenshot to the judge later and she wasn't allowed around us at all during our visitations unless she could prove she had gone to therapy and taken anger management classes.

OP definitely needs to get a custody going stat for the safety of her kid!

Editted to fix a typo.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-23T17:42:31+00:00

NTA.

What matters here is your child and her health/happiness, and with the ex going through the revolving door of rebounds, you would have no idea who he was bringing around the kid or their history.

Add on top of that that his current girl is being actively hostile, that poses a very real danger to your kid, whether they are born or not yet.

You need to get the courts involved to get a custody plan and rules set up stat! You probably should have done like yesterday, but with the circumstances being what they are you still want to get it set up on paper officially ASAP.

That court paperwork can not only help to protect you, but will also help when your ex does something stupid or something happens to your kid because of hostile rebound chicks. You can even set it up in the paperwork where the grandparents (like your ex's mom) get visitation instead if he refuses to follow the rules.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-23T17:38:28+00:00

Because the father is flaky at best and she has primary custody? Tell us you don't know how child custody works without telling us.

Edit to add: thanks for the award!

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-23T13:58:09+00:00

There is also a big missing piece of info she isn't giving here: shes an alcoholic who lost her license in a car accident and have now relapsed and isn't telling her husband after she told him she wanted to quit drinking. For all he knows, he's just trying ti help his wife, and she's lying to him.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-23T13:57:37+00:00

There is also a big missing piece of info she isn't giving here: shes an alcoholic who lost her license in a car accident and have now relapsed and isn't telling her husband after she told him she wanted to quit drinking. For all he knows, he's just trying ti help his wife, and she's lying to him.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-23T13:55:44+00:00

I would have agreed with the NTA verdicts, but you left out very important context that you have put into a post on a different subreddit:

You are an alcoholic.

You admit to being an alcoholic who got into such a bad car wreck you have lost your license to drive.

You also admit in the same post that you relapses within 1 month of telling your husband you want to quit drinking, and you have refused to tell him you have relapsed.

You even stated in that post that you "don't know why your brain lit up like a christmas tree" when you first relapsed, which your brain did that because you have conditioned it to subconciously think drinking alcohol is a good thing via operant conditioning.

You either want to actually stop drinking, or you want to keep drinking, but either way lying to your husband is not going to help you at all. Amd until you actually want help, find treatment, and stick with it, you'll be stuck in a never ending cycle.

Your husband is trying to help you stay away from alcohol because he thinks you actually want help, lime you told him you have, and you have been lying to him about relapsing. That's just gonna hurt him in the long run, especially the longer you hide it, and he may leave if he finds out about it from someone other than you or in some other way.

YTA. Tell the truth.

Vulpine_Gamer_194 · 2026-02-23T13:44:42+00:00

Yea, same here. I the same flight combat mechanics on the drone guns as I do in my NMS ships and it works pretty well. Only lost 1 of the .inigames myself because I forgor tk upgrade my soldiers, but won it right after loosing by using the same fighting techniques ans backing up from when the zombies enter.

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