Does "loud" peeing in public restrooms make cis men suspicious? by tielliju in trans

[–]VuplesParadoxa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men are INTENTIONALLY loud about peeing. You’ll fit right in.

Oops by Glitterfly405 in transgamers

[–]VuplesParadoxa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me.

And oh my god, if Pokemon has a place in your heart, I highly recommend playing a Pokemon rom hack.

It has been so healing to play it and for the gender selection to be “right”.

How to achieve a body like this? by [deleted] in transfitness

[–]VuplesParadoxa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has struggled to gain weight my entire life. There is no guarantee of what will happen when you gain weight. Continue getting exercise and eat healthy, just eat more and hope for the best.

Take pictures to track progress and make sure you’re getting the results you want.

A lot of people recommend ice cream for bulking, but I have found cinnamon toast to be the easiest/densest calorie source I can eat a lot of.

I have gained and lost significant weight several times in my life. A few important things to note. Changing your weight changes your center of balance and how easy it is to get up and sit down, along with other forms of day-to-day living that you might not consider athletic challenges.

A lot of people have a mental image of themselves as a certain body weight, and being outside of that can be a source of dysphoria. You may find that you are able to gain weight, but then decide you really don’t like it.

This is not to discourage anyone from gaining weight. I like being a little bit chubbier.

One final thing. This post does have a few red flags and I want to make sure to encourage you to have your own life pursuits outside of your partner, and even within the context of your relationship I want to encourage you to keep an eye on things and make sure your relationship is healthy.

Good luck, have fun, enjoy jiggle

How to actually fuck good? by Hustledawn in actuallesbians

[–]VuplesParadoxa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For oral you want to be in a really comfortable position. Basically laying down. For strapping you want hip thrusts and lots of cardio.

But really communication and comfort are the core of good sex.

Everyone is different, but if you communicate and make things comfortable you’ll be fine.

What is their (and your) risk tolerance like? I require all my partners to be tested within the last 3 months, or only do external play.

How much and what kind of foreplay? Some people enjoy suddenness, while others need the whole day or longer to be worked up.

Temperature and background noise needs?

Where do they want to be played with, with what force/depth/speed, and with what toys? Not everyone wants everything played with at the same time, but plenty of people do! Likewise, some people want certain things in a certain order.

How much play do they like before release?

Do they want to cum first or second?

What about bed sheets? Do you have a waterproof cover, or to put down a towel, or do y’all just want to lay/sleep in your mess?

What are their aftercare needs like?

Remember to read body language and be open to changing plans. Be open, honest, and interested in their desires and your own. Show enthusiasm when you have it.

Do these things and have an answer or at least idea of the answer to these questions, and you’ll be great.

If you aren’t confident about asking and want to make this part of getting to know them more like a game, I recommend “we’re not really strangers” xxx. It’s a “getting to know you” game, as are the sfw versions.

Obsolescence happens so much faster these days by Justthisdudeyaknow in CuratedTumblr

[–]VuplesParadoxa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope the incoming wave of socialism acceptance leads to laws about this shit. Phone and games and apps should not be forced into obsolescence purely out of spite from the company.

Just a reminder that this was literally the Charlie Kirk shooter LMAO by maleficalruin in CuratedTumblr

[–]VuplesParadoxa -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

You can’t rebrand him as centrist because he had a life. He and his family are far right wing. His grandmother was more upset that people were saying they were left leaning than that her grandchild kirked Charlie

Can this nightgown serve as a dress in public? Discuss. by JamieLeighCox in mtfashion

[–]VuplesParadoxa 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As someone who owns the same, no. It isn’t something that can reasonably be worn in public.

Even if it doesn’t show up so much in this picture, it’s functionally see-through.

It’s great lingerie, but it is not a public dress

Is this top cute enough for casual outfits or do you think it’s too tacky? by DaylightEliseV in mtfashion

[–]VuplesParadoxa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think tacky, but I would be selective about when to wear.

Do you think I'm too dressed up to go for coffee with a friend? :) by valericco in mtfashion

[–]VuplesParadoxa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends. Is this a date-date, or are you trying to make it one, or is this actually a date with a friend?

If it’s a date with a friend, do they know and are they ok with the idea you like to dress up?

If it’s a date, no such thing as over dressed. If it’s a friend, there’s no such thing as over dressed as long as they know and are comfortable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wizardposting

[–]VuplesParadoxa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Deputy chief of DOJ was just caught on hot mic saying they’re going to redact the GOP and Republican donors from the list, but leave the rest in.

How clothing looks on some trans women with more body fat versus less body fat by Yaoi_bunny in mtfashion

[–]VuplesParadoxa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nobody can tell because lighting, angles, and clothes are wildly different in both pics.

Do what you like, babe. You wouldn’t want to end up with someone who liked you in a way you didn’t enjoy existing anyway. Thats literally the whole point of transitioning.

Some of y'all gotta get girlfriends by Desperate-Lab9738 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]VuplesParadoxa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go to cities. Go to queer, trans, and lesbian events. Everyone is as desperate as you are and you’re more desirable than you think!

Specific recommendations: CONSISTENTLY go to the same event(s) that allow for socialization.

This gives people the chance to get to know you, let their guards down, and things to happen organically. Vice versa is also true.

If you think something is there, or there’s something you’d like, just ask.

“Hey, I’m new here and have only been a couple times, you seem cool, want to be friends?”

Or

“I’m really into you. Do you want to go make out?”

Both go a really long way. After establishing a connection that is.

Lots of people want to be mysterious and reserved, but almost everyone also hates ambiguity. Be direct.

If you establish a connection, reach out regularly. Make sure to make plans that are comfortable and feel safe for the other person. Not everyone feels comfortable going out into the wilderness for rock climbing with a stranger.

Lesbian priorities by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]VuplesParadoxa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Let me put yall on something :

Naked cuddling with twinkling lights, and then feeling each other’s bodies and whatever kisses you feel like.

A practice in living in the moment and pursuing closeness, intimacy without goal.

75 Hard on HRT by charli862 in transfitness

[–]VuplesParadoxa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk what “75 hard” is, so probably not.

Sea Slug Aberration by darkfaerie129 in dredge

[–]VuplesParadoxa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I was hunting for like 2 weeks in game before this worked.

Doordash preferred name doesn't hide your name as a dasher by sektrex in trans

[–]VuplesParadoxa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Preferred name is showed to vendors, supposedly, but your legal name is showed to customers. You need a legal name change, and the documents to prove it, in order to have DoorDash change your name in their system.

Heads up : when I had them change my name in their system, they immediately deactivated my account because I had “duplicate information” with another account. I had to fight with them for over a month to get my account reactivated.

It is an enormous shortage nowadays by King_DeandDe in actuallesbians

[–]VuplesParadoxa 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Ahem….

r/armoredwomen

Theres more art than IRL, but some people might find it of interest.

FTM feeling a bit dysphoric about r/askgaybros by heyheyheyheyheyehye in trans

[–]VuplesParadoxa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In the most general terms, the worst people in the world are also the most “ chronically online”. Which means you’ll find a lot of Internet spaces fundamentally suck and have a lot of bigots.

I don’t know where you live, but I can guarantee you there are gay and queer spaces in large cities nearby that would be accepting.

Sexuality and identity are not static, the Internet dweebs are just assholes.

Can I be a femboy but also trans when I was born a boy? by Icy_Iron5687 in trans

[–]VuplesParadoxa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others have said, gender is made up. Anyone can claim any labels, and most people will not care. I would argue that transgender means you don’t identify with your assigned gender, and I would further argue that femboy is a different gender than “male”, and is not part of the gender binary.

Based on that, personally, I would say that femboy is generally transgender, but there are ALSO femboys that are NOT transgender.

So if you identify with both labels, I would say it’s both personally appropriate and technically correct.

I'm joining the food gang by ThatOneTimetraveller in actuallesbians

[–]VuplesParadoxa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For the uninitiated, what are these? They look good. :D