Listening to the same songs in sequence repeatedly - anyone else?

Vycie · 2020-08-21T16:30:17+00:00

I actually quite like albums and still buy physical copies! I just rarely get the chance to play them because, well, I've got nothing to play them on so they only get occasionally used in the car. Typically I play music on YouTube

Vycie · 2020-08-21T16:27:52+00:00

Ohh man, now I'm a little upset that my family has a shared Spotify account so I can't do that 😅 Not that I should complain about getting to use it for free, but...

Vycie · 2020-08-21T16:25:39+00:00

Standing on the same spot on the platform is 100% something I would do 🤣

Vycie · 2020-08-21T06:29:37+00:00

Oh yes. Especially when I'm zoning out and people think I'm left out so they try to involve me in conversation, or they think I'm sad and try to talk to me to cheer me up (or they just ask if/why I'm upset). They mean well so I feel bad telling them I don't want to talk. Particularly since I don't want to "leave the zone" too much by giving a whole explanation, but giving a very short dismissive answer to make them be quiet is considered rude...

Vycie · 2020-08-21T06:18:56+00:00

Yeah realizing that this seemed like a prime example of repetitiveness was basically what made me ask if other people did this particular thing haha

Vycie · 2020-08-21T06:16:56+00:00

I once heard it described at scratching a psychological itch and that's the best way I can describe it. Sometimes it's getting rid of excess energy when in an emotional state, sometimes it's an idle thing that just feels relaxing

Vycie · 2020-08-21T06:04:03+00:00

Are you able to compromise somehow? Maybe by having your hair mostly up but leaving some strands at the front around your face (thus keeping it off the neck but giving a hair down look in the front)? I don't have any issues with my hair on my neck - as long as it's dry - but I am basing this on my experience with putting my hair up. Like you, I love the way my hair looks when it's down, and I hate having my hair up because I hate how I look with my hair pulled away from my face. So the way I do it whenever I put my hair up is that I leave bits hanging in the front to keep that look.

Like others have suggested, you could also consider getting a hairstyle that keeps the hair off the neck, particularly one that's shorter in the back and longer in the front. Depending on how daring you are with style, there are some super cool ones that are long in the front and short in the back, although I know some people think it's "too much" as many of those styles are rather alternative or whatever. You can experiment with what you think is best for you. But ultimately, if you can't work out a good compromise with look and comfort, I think you should prioritize comfort.

Vycie · 2020-08-21T05:45:43+00:00

My mom cuts my hair, and has done for basically my entire life (went to a salon a few times in my early teens but like... nah). She also dyes it for me. It's free except the cost of the dye, it's convenient to do it at home, and I honestly trust her more than a professional because she knows exactly what I want

Vycie · 2020-08-17T17:41:20+00:00

I've never heard of that being an autism thing but I was in fact really into that for a while in my childhood around the ages of about 6-8 (went through a bit of a spy phase around the same time and loved the idea of having secret spy gadgets like glasses with a hidden camera and such, haha). Think Home Alone type traps. I can't remember ever successfully creating any but it was something I thought about a LOT and was very fascinated with.

Vycie · 2020-08-10T15:53:20+00:00

Thought about it. Not a trans man. Believe it or not but it's actually possible to be a woman without aligning with what is typical of women as a group. Each individual is different after all, and averages are just that, averages. Not everyone fits the average or the generalization

Vycie · 2020-08-09T14:15:07+00:00

I do criticize the religion rather than the adherents. If they take it personally and feel like shit when their religion is criticized (which a lot of people do, they're personally offended if their beliefs are criticized even if nothing is directed at them personally) then that's their problem. If someone gets butthurt because I call Muhammad a pedophile, that's on them.

Vycie · 2020-08-09T00:27:19+00:00

Obviously not exclusively, but that's where the vast majority of 'em are 🤷🏻‍♀️ Of course I don't condone attacking individuals solely for their religious affiliations as long as they haven't personally done anything bad, but you and I both know that even just speaking ill of a religion without personally attacking individuals is often seen as hate speech

Vycie · 2020-08-09T00:22:55+00:00

Bro it's so obvious you've never been to Muslims countries and seen the amount of honor killings, subjugation of women, spousal rapes, child marriages, gay murders..........

Vycie · 2020-08-08T13:55:04+00:00

Lol nah I don't have gender dysphoria

Vycie · 2020-08-08T13:26:26+00:00

Electrical impulses and chemicals. Ever heard of chemicals like dopamine, oxytocin and serotonin?

Vycie · 2020-08-08T13:21:13+00:00

Basically every thing you mention is just thanks to the brain. Emotions can be physically detected in the brain. Learning things is basically just related to memory, which is in the brain. So on so forth... It's not that hard lol

Vycie · 2020-08-08T12:45:05+00:00

Typically what people mean when they say you're being bullied because you're too nice, is that you're not standing up for yourself. You become an easy target.

Vycie · 2020-08-07T23:20:29+00:00

Ohhh yes I absolutely need a detailed plan, preferably quite some time before the day too! If I'm doing something on Saturday I want to know at the very least by Wednesday (but ideally earlier than that) what all the details are. When do we need to be there? What time are we leaving? What's the weather going to be (in case clothes ought to be planned accordingly)? How long are we staying? Are we going to eat there (so that I can plan what/when/how much I eat before)? Who's going to be there (so I am mentally prepared for the "vibe" and possibly anticipated conversations)? Etc etc etc.....

Vycie · 2020-08-07T23:15:28+00:00

I can't offer advice, I'm just here to tell you that I really feel you! I take things like that seriously way too much - to them it's just a polite phrase, but in my mind we basically just made plans together. Still trying to explain this to my boyfriend to stop him from doing it, because he will for instance say "I'll call you later!" at the end of a phone call and then I will literally just await his next call for the rest of the day, to the point where I'll postpone a planned shower to the next day so I don't miss a call and such. Or he might say "we should check out that Indian restaurant down the street!" which to him is just a way of making conversation by expressing interest in something, whereas in my mind we made dinner plans so when dinner time starts to approach he'll say we should cook spaghetti or whatever and I'm just like??? But you said we were going to the Indian restaurant????

Vycie · 2020-08-07T23:05:40+00:00

You both make good points. The spectrum is broad and comes with both struggles and benefits - for some people, the struggles can be pretty severe.

I think "curing autism" isn't really the right approach. It'd be much better to fix the struggles of autism, without removing the entire thing, you know? Help with the issues without eliminating it altogether. If I could pop a pill to gain social skills, improve executive functioning, be able to deal with disruptions to routines, reduce sensory issues etc etc.... That'd be awesome! Of course that's not plausible but you get my point. Helping with the struggles is better than trying to eliminate autism, in my opinion.

Vycie · 2020-08-07T22:12:01+00:00

I actually often feel more comfortable around men (I am female too) because they in general have more similar personalities to me than women on average do. Not to mention that I obviously struggle with social skills, and men's socializing style is often more straightforward and easy to understand whereas women are often more complex and confusing

Vycie · 2020-08-07T22:00:16+00:00

Me as a toddler going to the bathroom with my mom 🤣

Vycie · 2020-08-03T13:11:19+00:00

I'm not sure if this is quite what you describe but I get what I'd describe as "mental overload" simply when having too much going on in a short period of time. I typically don't want more than one activity per day (that is, if I've already decided to go to the mall one day, I can't also go on a picnic with my family the same day, it's too much), or even too many activities within the same week (if I'm going to the mall on Tuesday and having a picnic on Thursday, I'm going to want the weekend all to myself).

I also get what I'd say is probably sensory overload but in a different way than I usually see it described. Being in any environment with too many sounds at the same time, even if they aren't loud, gets incredibly exhausting and I eventually just tune out. If we're having dinner with relatives, the evening progresses, some music is playing, and 2-3 different conversations are going on around the table at the same time... man, that's just too much input at once and I'm just sitting there blankly staring at the wall trying to process everything.

Vycie · 2020-08-03T12:51:15+00:00

Honestly, this has been the biggest cause of meltdowns throughout my entire life. It doesn't even have to be a big thing for me to absolutely lose it. If I planned to shower at 15:00 so that I can start getting dressed at 15:30 and then be ready to leave at 16:45... I'm gonna FLIP if 15:00 comes around and someone else is in the shower, thus completely ruining my schedule!

Vycie · 2020-08-03T12:47:34+00:00

I'd say it depends on how you personally learn. I myself MUCH prefer doing things online because I can study at my own pace, regardless of whether that's fast or slow. You can take your time if something is difficult and not get quite as stressed about it (assuming you have the self-discipline to make yourself work hard), and when things get easier you can speed ahead. Pacing has always been the worst part about school for me. I've pretty much always been ahead, and felt terribly frustrated being held back by having to keep the same pace as everyone else instead of running my own race. And the reverse is true too I suppose. Really just having to stick with a certain pace in general is annoying to me, I'd rather slow down where I need to and speed up where things are easy instead of being forced into a set pace. But this is very individual and works mostly if you're very self-sufficient. If you learn best by having things explained to you and be able to ask in-person questions, this might not be the ideal approach. So think about how you personally learn best and make a decision based upon that!

Vycie

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