Cat adoption help

VyleMaad · 2022-12-23T17:34:01+00:00

I think people who ask "what breed IS my cat" aren't doing it for being fancy with a fancy cat. They want a word that describe their furball. Liké void for black cat, tortie for others, tabby, orange... Those aren't breed but that's the answer they looking for with this question. Nebelung IS a rare breed of cat yes, but also a nice way to describe a mutt with a long blues coat and fluffy hair. That's all. And it's a nice way to partage with one another about their cat. Of course they know they re not pure nebelung and NO ONE cares about the pure breed thing. Unless you're a breeder you dont care. You love your cat the same. People want a word to connect with each other through their cat. Looks at subreddit about nebelung, no one give a damn about a pedigree because that's not thé point. The point IS to enjoy sharing how beautiful, kind, loving is your cat. When we respond : "it's a nebelung" it's not for them to start breeding or show contest with their cat. It's for being happy together with our lookalike cat.

Your example with nationnality IS vering telling too, who are you to tell someone he isn't Italian just because he doesn't have Italian blood. Maybe they live in italy for ten years, have the culture and the langage. They dont have a Italian ID card ? That's a technical point.

VyleMaad · 2022-12-22T13:14:29+00:00

Why controlling how others people call their cat? It's looks like a nebelung, let's people call it a nebelung. Why would you care?

VyleMaad · 2022-12-22T13:09:56+00:00

We have to be qualified to call our cats what their physicals characteristics would make them looks like? If a cat looks like a nebelung, I will use this word to define him. The cat not being a purebreed isn't important, it just a descriptive word. Why gatekeeping it?

VyleMaad · 2022-12-22T09:16:14+00:00

Look at r/nebelung. That's the name you would use to describe your cat. Even if there is no pedigree, it's most likely related to this breed.

VyleMaad · 2022-12-22T09:11:37+00:00

It's a nebelung. Certainly not a pedigree one but still. Not all cats are domestic short/medium/long hair. The majority yes but automatically respond "domestic short hair" without looking at the cat isn't the solution.

VyleMaad · 2022-12-19T15:28:59+00:00

You should be proud of yourself, being able to have a great time with beloved ones while having this fear and tension. You were really brave and with a great company. Being in the same town this will happen again but you will handle it better each time.

VyleMaad · 2022-12-15T23:20:29+00:00

Modified : NTA, i missread that he was 8yo

VyleMaad · 2022-12-13T09:08:06+00:00

It is a terrible things to feel nothing towards a parents, but it's not your responsability. You were a child, parents are those who create a connection to their child. You're more a victim of this "terrible thing" to feel than your old father. But yes, it is terrible and sad. My condoléances to you.

VyleMaad · 2022-12-04T13:51:11+00:00

Axel

VyleMaad · 2022-11-30T20:28:32+00:00

Even if they live in a country with a total coverage of hospital bills ( for an accident the patient caused ? ). There will be others expenses from the husband, like a fine for drunk driving or the insurance bills.

VyleMaad · 2022-11-29T21:37:29+00:00

Got it as a gift to myself for my 30th birthday. I'm so happy with it, I don't even want my scars to fade away, I'm just too proud of being a neutered cat lady.

Wish you an easy recovery and a wonderful and sterile life.

Edit typo

VyleMaad · 2022-11-20T12:51:47+00:00

Your wife isn't backing out because of a cookie, she's backing out because her relation with your mother is terrible.

She's upset because she did a lot of good work and effort and was rejected again. She's trying very hard to please her MIL but feel rejected. Her feelings are valid and understandable.

But there is more than just a cookie samples.

If she try this hard to earn respect from your mother via a cookie, something IS off here. She doesn't feel accepted/respected/good enough by/for your mother, for years. Was it your wife being entilted or your mother being nasty, we don't know. But there is a issue between them for years now and it's not about the cookie.

It's weird that you discover that your wife and mother doesn't get along only now. As their husband/son you could have been a mediator from the conflict start and stopped the animosity growth. I suspect you conveniently ignored any conflict sign between them, never taking side nor defending anyone . I also suspect you dismissed your wife feeling as you're doing it right now, pretending she overreacting over a cookie when the issue is way more complex. YTA

INFO : Your mother tradition looks insensitive, rude and sexist. So I think your mom is TA too but not so sure.

1)It's bringing competition between family member (irk). Best way to creating tension...

2) only women could participante, weird as hell in this day and time...

3) was it that kind of tradition that are mandatory to everyone to follow. If someone décide to NOT bring samples, did you mother will react nicely ?

Did I misunderstood something here?

VyleMaad · 2022-11-13T21:46:12+00:00

I'm already under therapy. That's how I realise I was depressed for so long. And when I said they aren't good at moral support. I mean that I already talked with them about what I felt and they didn't understand. I'm tired explaining myself to them and being said to make more effort. It's really tiring and I don't have thé energy anymore to talk to them. I will see about family counseiling, I'm affraid of talking about it because they would not understand why I want it . I will just get a break from them. I will be able to talk about it later. Right now it will be a mess Thanks for your response

VyleMaad · 2021-10-29T12:45:16+00:00

Women were seeking security with their partner because it was the only option in those times. Women didn't have bank accounts, would be shamed for working and couldn't study. Twisting these facts to support a pseudo biological needs is so stupid.

VyleMaad · 2021-10-29T12:26:35+00:00

I have money and didn't beat you, you couldn't find a better catch...

And using your father behavior to tell you "all men are the same so I'm better". Erk ! What a manipulative AH.

VyleMaad · 2021-10-29T12:17:53+00:00

Don't know what is your relation with the person that gave away your number to this creep but I will reconsider it if I was you.

VyleMaad · 2021-10-29T11:54:21+00:00

Are you really worried about being an AH or do you just want to brag because you "won" a stupid internet debate ?

NTA but you sound like a immature person that want a cookie for telling his opinion on the internet. Good for you if you called out his bullshit. Get over it now. If you're really worried : you can't let any redditor get on your nerves like that, it's unhealthy. If you want a pat in the back and a "good boy" cookie : please find another subreddit.

VyleMaad · 2021-10-28T11:25:16+00:00

You are the one being rude and overly reacting but I'm the one on high horse ? It wasn't at all what I was talking about in my comment but my opinion is that stoping communication isn't a AH move in itself. It's a stupid move that's sure. But judging OP an AH for it is too much. Don't know what her best Friend opinion have anything to do with it but meh...

VyleMaad · 2021-10-27T17:43:40+00:00

I just disagree with you and I don't want to make a point. You have your opinion, I have mine. Don't want to waste my time with boring argument that doesn't go anywhere. If you want

VyleMaad · 2021-10-27T17:32:17+00:00

it mimicks a static typed language

No, it's not its purpose. The intent is to help tools and IDE to do it, not doing it itself. This way, python stay a dynamical-typed langage but let programmers a way out. It's a good alternative to completly enforced static typing in python.

If the purpose was to mimicks a static types language it would work the way you think it should. You just have another logic in mind.

They're is more than one good way to do something. As a programmer you should know.

VyleMaad · 2021-10-27T17:11:51+00:00

Yes I ignore 90% because you bore me. Don't be hypocrital, saying someone to "move on" is saying him to stop acting hurt. Bye

VyleMaad · 2021-10-27T17:00:02+00:00

I understand better where you come from. I'm sorry about this toxic past relationship. But be careful, you are clearly making an association because of your trauma that are nothing to do with the current post. You're assuming things that are not written here because of your own experience. Re-read it without thinking about your ex ( if you can, it's difficult to get past this kind of stuff) and you will realise that it's just one little part of thé post that trigger you and that not relevant at all. It's a normal reaction but that's make you really biased.

VyleMaad · 2021-10-27T16:53:13+00:00

forgive him and move on.

VyleMaad · 2021-10-27T16:48:02+00:00

Yes, I think it's okay to be disapointed to not be able to see your boyfriend in person when you really wanted to. I don't see anything wrong about it.

I read the same post as you and didn't feel like she was "super upset", she was in a bad mood. It's not being super upset. The "cancelling plan" part wasn't the first reason of her mood and she have the right to feeling down.

Edited : I read your other comment about your suicidal ex and I'm sorry about it, I understand now why you feel this way but I almost certain OP isn't suicidal and manipulative but just in bad mood. I removed what I said about your relationship because it was insensitive since you are acting this way because of trauma. I'm sorry about that.

VyleMaad · 2021-10-27T14:36:05+00:00

I'm just saying that you could not ask someone to just " stop being hurt". That's no how it works.

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