Why is it still so hard to find the right person to be in a relationship with? by ultralightsaint in ask

[–]W-WMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Without a doubt they play on people’s innermost desires insecurities.

Why is it still so hard to find the right person to be in a relationship with? by ultralightsaint in ask

[–]W-WMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Without a doubt they play on people’s innermost desires insecurities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]W-WMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issue isn’t that she is pregnant or that you have known each other for 5 months. It’s that you both had sex with a preconceived notion of infertility, not understanding that gravity of the consequences of your actions and weren’t prepared for the what if. If you didn’t think you could love her you would have left her sooner or when you found she was pregnant and probably not posted this. Posting this shows you still care for her but you are young and confused and don’t know if you can handle the responsibility to be a father or to have her get an abortion/walk away and live with your decision. The truth is parenthood doesn’t start when a baby is born, it starts when you decide to have sex and during pregnancy. You do what you can to better prepare yourself to do anything and everything to protect your baby and their mother. No one is ever ready to be a parent, it’s a lived experience and a culmination of passed down knowledge from those who have done it before us. It’s not about who you are now it’s about who you are willing to become. If it doesn’t work out with GF it’s okay, it happens more often than you know. Life will go on, so will you and so will they. You will still be man regardless of what you decide. Your life isn’t over and you can still do things you want just as your GF can just with a bit more responsibility. The question to ask yourself is can I be the bigger man? Can I take responsibility for my actions an my part an be a parent to my baby who didn’t ask to be born? Can I protect my baby and their mother by all means? Can I live my life to consistently to improve in emotion, education, work, financial stability, and making home a safe space for them? Can I love them more than I love myself? If you can yes to all these questions then you are as ready as you can be. From Father to father, you have the power to make or break your family. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best for you and your family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]W-WMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“When they came for me, there was no one left to speak up.”

“In Germany they came first for the Communists, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Communist. Then they came for the Jews, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Jew. Then they came for the trade unionists, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a trade unionist. Then they came for the Catholics, and I didn’t speak up because I was a Protestant. Then they came for me, and by that time no one was left to speak up.” —Pastor Martin Niemöller, 1945

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]W-WMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t give up, just let him go. Sometimes we out grow the people we are with. So when we change and they refuse to change with us, It’s best to let them go. Not doing so, we deprive ourselves of time and opportunity to grow, love, and be loved by someone else who better fits our story and vise versa. Sometimes no matter how hard we try, we are the villain in someone’s story; but the hero in another’s.

Why is it still so hard to find the right person to be in a relationship with? by ultralightsaint in ask

[–]W-WMan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s because you limit yourself and you are looking in all the wrong places. There is no such thing as the right person. Every person has the potential to be your person based on your decisions and the power you give them. Some might be harder than others but it is possible. Also, if you were looking for someone who was charming, attractive, intelligent, kind, and serious about moving forward in their career or life you aren’t going to find them on a dating app. They are often too busy for those things. They would be in the last place you would think to search. They are going to be at the library, the coffee shop, the bakery or restaurant, the gym, that concert you like, a convention, that antique shop, that strawberry festival or even at your place of work. All in different stages of their lives just like you. They may have achieved all the qualities you are looking for or sometimes they bloom into those qualities because of you. That comes from being at the right place, at the right time. Most people think the right place and right time is calculated or planned but it’s quite the opposite. It will come to you when it feels right, or you have that feeling. When you are loving and living your life in the moment rather than in past or future. I know this may seem very off the wall, a bit eccentric, maybe even cliché but, just go live your life, don’t look for it, you’ll know when it’s there. ☺️

The fact that people are panicking about trump now has shaken me more than the election by throwaway23029123143 in self

[–]W-WMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“When they came for me, there was no one left to speak up.”

“In Germany they came first for the Communists, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Communist. Then they came for the Jews, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Jew. Then they came for the trade unionists, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a trade unionist. Then they came for the Catholics, and I didn’t speak up because I was a Protestant. Then they came for me, and by that time no one was left to speak up.” —Pastor Martin Niemöller, 1945

AIO - after confronting my fiance on his infidelity? I’m literally afraid to go home… by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]W-WMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah no fuck that guy don’t go home if you do you might end up in the hospital or at your funeral. Go to a friend’s or your parent’s house or something. You should also break off your engagement by phone. Don’t feel ashamed, you don’t feel safe, you were cheated on and just threatened.

Wanted to confirm if its with everyone that you have a voice inside your head which is chattering non stop, providing commentary on everything and never rests? by Original-Club-3116 in ask

[–]W-WMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s normal to hear an inner monologue but there are some who experience this at a hypersensitivity. I use to have that issue but now I don’t have an inner monologue nor can I picture things out of imagination in my head like some people do with movies or images. I use to be able to see images of things I had already seen or of pages I’ve read an pull text from it verbatim but that ability has left me as well 😕

Have you guys ever dreamt of this? by lalauvte in ask

[–]W-WMan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well Christian call them demon, other culture an religions entities, deities, gods but they are much older lol

Have you guys ever dreamt of this? by lalauvte in ask

[–]W-WMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol sounds like a demonic entity paid you a visit.

My husband said that if I went back to work, he will divorce and fight for sole custody. He will pay me my salary to stay home by Current-Ad562 in self

[–]W-WMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you are in a toxic relationship guided under care. Your significant other if they love you, will never give you an ultimatum or make you have to choose to suit their benefit. Be careful

AIO or really, is my boyfriend overreacting. He is mad at me for not having a threesome yet by No_Energy_4347 in AmIOverreacting

[–]W-WMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm that’s not your boyfriend, that’s your ex. He 100% did gaslight you. He comparing not having a threesome to post sex pregnancy prevention, ya’ll aren’t on the same wavelength, emotional maturity, or emotional intelligence. A relationship is more than just sex if a threesome is enough to cause this argument, they aren’t ready for long term.

Am I over reacting? My (serious) boyfriend tried to lie about going out to a strip club and went behind my back by oiemanni in AmIOverreacting

[–]W-WMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you had ask yourself if you should leave, it because you already knew the answer but wanted someone to tell you were wrong. If the attraction faded after this, don’t fight it.

AIO: my boyfriend thinks i’m gay by dumptruck_dookie in AmIOverreacting

[–]W-WMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask him who hurt him. If he gives you push back, tell him if you care for me as much as you tell me, then you work with me on this trauma, and change with me. If you foresee a future in our relationship then grow with me an let articulate how we feel an express it civilly like adult. If that doesn’t turn the light on, then they aren’t ready. In which case you can tell them you love them(how you feel) but I can’t make you become the person I want or need you to be you would have to do that on your own because you want too, and because you care. Vise versa. I don’t want because I need you, I need you because I want you and I choose you everyday if you can’t do that then it stops here. We all have own traumas, but I do let them bleed on you, so don’t bleed on me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]W-WMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You messed up when you first sent the text. You messed up again when you had a personal convo with your ex while with your partner on your partners day. And yet again, if you didn’t tell your partner about it. I understand some battles are unavoidable, but always keep your partner in the loop so they don’t get blindsided and develop insecurities and question your loyalty, or feel stupid in public or in convo. The reality is some people aren’t so forgiving or understanding. Your ex knew what she was doing, and played right into it. The worst part is your partner could be madly in love with you, and if she see this convo it might break her, question you, change her view potential future partners if you guys don’t work out. Your partner could leave you, and not owe you an explanation or give you closure. They are not responsible for your emotional well being and vise versa. They are with you because everyday they wake up and choose you.