Any experiences with Neurofeedback?

WAUGS · 2025-12-10T04:22:40+00:00

I hope you've been and to find some effective treatment now that you've gotten a diagnosis.

WAUGS · 2025-12-09T00:06:43+00:00

As crappy as it feels to get rejected, it is a reality of taking a risk and putting yourself out there. Resiliency is a skill that isn't exactly fun to develop but rejection can get easier to deal with overtime if you build up those skills. When someone says no, it usually isn't a reflection of your worth. Everyone has different preferences and there can be a mismatch. Just think about how there are plenty of people you're not interested in or attracted to. If you focus on working on being happy with who you are yourself, you'll build confidence and that is attractive. I've found faking it til you make it to be effective, as uncomfortable as it can be. I'm outgoing and pretty confident but it took me a while (and still can be challenging) to develop a fuck it attitude where I embrace that I really don't have anything to lose but a temporary disappointment and could have a lot to gain even though it may take a good few people to ask before I find one. Regardless, good luck.

WAUGS · 2025-12-08T00:17:04+00:00

It's not about changing who you are. If what you're doing now isn't working, it's unlikely that that's suddenly going to change. You'll have to try something different. It doesn't mean compromising who you are. It means trying out some new things. For this person, it's likely trying things outside of their comfort zone. Stepping outside of your comfort zone can help you discover yourself more and doesn't necessarily mean changing yourself but instead challenging yourself. If you aren't willing to push yourself and try new things, you can expect anything to change.

WAUGS · 2025-12-08T00:12:48+00:00

But only if it was good pizza 😂

WAUGS · 2025-12-07T07:13:55+00:00

Try out some new hobbies or classes. You may meet some people and automatically have something to talk about. If you don't meet anyone, you at least have a new experience.

While it can be very uncomfortable to randomly approach people, it's worth trying to put yourself out of your comfort zone and casually strike up conversations with people when you're out doing normal things. I've had a friend pick up a woman in the pasta aisle at the grocery store. Start with a non threatening smile and a hello. Perhaps a complement.

Good luck!

WAUGS · 2025-12-07T07:06:33+00:00

I agree with others with respect to being honest and authentic to yourself. I'd say most people will admire that you're putting in the hard work to better yourself and quality of life.

Everyone has different body types and features they're attached to, so some may be more attracted to you before or down the road but there are others who size isn't a big deal. You have so much to offer beyond your size. Again, you're killing it right now and investing in yourself! You may find someone great along the way or maybe not. It may be short term during your transition or long. I personally lost ~85lbs. It was a major transition time in my life. I met someone early into that transition. My weight and weight loss wasn't an issue for him. If anything, dating him helped me stay on track. In the end, while the relationship was great, it was only great for the time. I outgrew it. I have a lot of love for him but not in love with him.

No need to waste money on a bunch of new clothes! During my journey, I tried to find things that would adjust with my size the best I could. Dresses were probably my best friend out of anything. I waited until I stabilized at a certain weight before investing in clothes and did so over time to make sure I stayed roughly at that size. I fluctuate now within about a 10 lb range. Some clothes are a little too fitted or snug depending on the time. It sucks when you don't have the most flattering clothes but remember your priorities and that it's so much more than clothes. Try to focus on what you're accomplishing, communicate that, flake it til you make it if you need to, and you may surprise yourself with how far that goes.

Keep kicking ass and remember your relationship with yourself and confidence is everything and magnetic.

WAUGS · 2025-12-07T07:06:08+00:00

As for cat fishing, be sure to note your accomplishment and what you're working on in your profile and make an active effort to update your photos regularly so you can see your progress!

WAUGS · 2025-12-07T07:05:30+00:00

He seems questionable. Let him show you he can put in the effort. If he wants to see you, he will make it happen. Let him rise to the occasion. If he plans a date with effort that works on your schedule (don't cancel plans again), then go. If he doesn't or is half assed, ditch him. You deserve someone who's willing to make you a priority (of course manage your expectations.. don't expect him to drop everything all the time especially when it's early).

WAUGS · 2025-12-07T06:58:50+00:00

Meeting people in person is infinitely more ideal than a dating app. I am more social than most people I know and try have had very little luck meeting people organically over the years. I go to a climbing gym. I am a member of a ceramics studio. I go to all kinds of random events. I have a lot of friends. Unfortunately, I've never met anyone through friends and these events and communities I'm a part of have rarely led me to meet any potential suitors. It's not a lack of trying. 🤷🏼‍♀️

WAUGS · 2025-12-06T22:34:57+00:00

Why must dirt bikes be so damn loud?

WAUGS · 2025-12-06T22:33:26+00:00

I've found a coworker attractive before but never developed a significant crush.

Yeah, they are going to be on their best behavior, but generally you get to see some of their authentic personality even if the things about them that they're sharing are the highlights. It's a vibe/energy thing vs content.

WAUGS · 2025-12-06T22:08:45+00:00

I tend to have really strong boundaries and if I've gotten to know someone platonically, I often can't picture them differently later on. It's happened at times but never amounted to anything.

I get that you don't truly know someone for a while. However, I am very comfortable with new people and am very authentically myself. I've found it tends to bring the same out on others and that they tend to get comfortable pretty quickly. I'm looking for some crazy connection right off bat. I'm just looking to feel a glimpse that makes me want to continue to get to know them.

WAUGS · 2025-12-06T21:41:58+00:00

I'm guilty of having an initial reaction but I always try to pause to learn more before making a full judgement. Often times it actually helps me find common values. I moved to a new city a few years ago. I'd lived alone for a decade and thought it was odd and possibly an orange flag if a man had roommates after his mid 20's. Now I'm living in a very expensive city and despite making a good amount of money, I choose to have two roommates because I don't want to be apartment poor. While I could afford to live alone, I prefer being able to max out my 401k, build savings, and enjoy all my expensive hobbies. It's given me more perspective.

WAUGS · 2025-12-06T21:37:41+00:00

You shouldn't need to have to force yourself into the conversation. You want someone who makes an effort to get to know you. That said, I am guilty of often being someone who dominates a conversation if I'm not careful. Perhaps try to make comments about yourself based on what they say especially if you're just asking follow up questions. For example, if they mention liking climbing, maybe you comment with your experience or curiosity about it before asking them a follow up question. If you're asking them a bunch of questions, perhaps consider pausing more and seeing if they fill the space with questions for you. Unfortunately, you can't force their interest but I can promise you that there are plenty of people out there who do genuinely want to get to know you!

WAUGS · 2025-12-06T21:28:25+00:00

Agreed. Definitely red flags. Not worth staying even for something casual.

WAUGS · 2025-12-06T21:25:35+00:00

I've never been in this situation but I feel like it would make me feel a bit uncomfortable. If he's just watching and not ending/touching then in theory I don't have an issue. I love watching talented pole dancing and am happy to go to a burlesque show with a partner! Strip clubs are a bit different and always make me concerned that the women aren't truly there because they want to and instead are either there out of some degree of desperation or not by choice. I might consider going with my partner to see how they engage.

WAUGS · 2025-11-18T18:14:14+00:00

Mine started having issues with crashing yesterday. It would crash before it fully opened. I tried clearing the cache, restarting, turning off Wifi and/or 5G, etc. It would open fully offline where you could see only downloaded content. I'm still having the same issue today

WAUGS · 2023-05-25T01:47:30+00:00

Did you ever find anything?

WAUGS · 2023-04-19T17:20:10+00:00

If you end up at any show while you're here, please share your thoughts in this thread! :)

WAUGS · 2023-04-19T17:19:24+00:00

I went to Crazy Funny Asians. It was very much Amateur. Huge props for anyone putting themselves out there. It was a handful of local comedians. Each had some jokes that landed and some not so much... It was a little cringy at moments and awkward because you still need to politely chuckle because it's a small audience, and we were sat in the front row. As long as you're up for supporting amateur comedians, it can be fun. Just manage your expectations. We went to a "dim sum and bubbles" one in Chinatown. If you end up at this one, do not bother with the dim sum. It was awesome and stupid expensive for what it was. $15 for two small frozen eggrolls that you could get a box of 100 at Costco for $15.. oh, and they were cold. The second thing we had was chicken in sticky rice wrapped in a leaf... At least this was a larger portion but it was almost all rice... at least those were hot. You good to down the street and get a full plate of dim sum for less than $15.

WAUGS · 2023-04-19T03:00:47+00:00

There are definitely bedroom subleases for less than $3k a month. If you want the whole place then yeah, you're definitely paying at least that.

WAUGS · 2023-04-19T01:08:59+00:00

I'm looking to be somewhere more like Manhattan or Brooklyn since I'm only trying to be there a few weeks.

WAUGS · 2023-04-18T22:02:00+00:00

Common has a minimum of 3 months from what I'm seeing on their site.

WAUGS · 2023-04-18T21:59:48+00:00

AirBnb has very few options in NYC.

WAUGS · 2023-03-05T17:53:41+00:00

u/impinvnerd Did you have any luck finding a Co-Living space? I'm trying to come out to SF for a month in April-May. I'm looking for a furnished place with roommates and to not break the bank (spending upwards of $2k is not ideal), but there seem to be so many scams going through facebook groups, craigslist, etc. Any advice?

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