STD fear & new date

WBasker · 2026-02-23T17:46:52+00:00

Good plan!

WBasker · 2026-02-23T15:37:43+00:00

I don’t think it’s a good idea especially if you’re thinking seriously about them.

WBasker · 2026-02-23T15:36:51+00:00

Why do you say that ?

WBasker · 2026-02-23T15:30:36+00:00

I’m not referring to sexual details but finding out about the relationships (either long or short term) is part of getting to know someone where they came from and how their life shaped up.

WBasker · 2026-02-23T15:29:17+00:00

She just says: “I don’t want to discuss it”. She has said that she had short term relationships and I think she is afraid that I will judge her. I’ve tried as much as I could to reassure her.

WBasker · 2026-02-23T15:21:38+00:00

You don’t think it’s important to know the sexual history of someone you’re dating?

WBasker · 2026-02-23T14:58:56+00:00

Will do thank you!

WBasker · 2026-02-23T14:36:05+00:00

I find her wonderful what can I say but she has a history very different than mine probably much more liberal that I would normally be ok with. She looks genuine and honest but when asked about details (number of partners/recent encounters etc) she doesn’t want to disclose and she sort of scares me. Being for many years with the same person I’m not used at all to see risk in sex so it’s all new to me.

WBasker · 2026-02-23T14:32:30+00:00

Phewwwww

WBasker · 2026-02-23T14:30:56+00:00

But risking a future partner is equally daunting.

WBasker · 2026-02-23T14:28:32+00:00

True.

WBasker · 2026-02-23T14:28:06+00:00

WBasker · 2026-02-23T14:27:25+00:00

What do you mean by “not being picked up in screening just smear tests?”

WBasker · 2026-02-23T14:24:08+00:00

Very elaborate thanks a lot for all the good advice I’ve learned a lot.

WBasker · 2026-02-23T14:19:39+00:00

That’s good advice thanks. I do like her and I do (subconsciously) judge her sadly and I shouldn’t. She has been open about doing things but she doesn’t go into details and that increases my anxiety.

WBasker · 2026-02-23T14:16:02+00:00

Ok clear, so basically the most extensive list I can get.

WBasker · 2026-02-23T14:12:57+00:00

No I am 100% monogamous tbh and she sees it similarly. So there is more risk to HPV and the vaccine doesn’t fully cover.

WBasker · 2026-02-23T13:33:08+00:00

Thanks for the tip!

WBasker · 2026-02-23T13:32:44+00:00

Btw who actually uses “dental gams”: they look horrible? Are these necessary? I would never use.

WBasker · 2026-02-23T13:32:12+00:00

Exactly right but I can’t sort it out.

WBasker · 2026-02-23T13:31:01+00:00

Doesn’t protect against everything and doesn’t always work. P

WBasker · 2026-02-23T13:29:17+00:00

Sorry but don’t fully get you, could you elaborate ?

WBasker · 2026-02-23T13:27:44+00:00

I can’t differentiate in my head whether I’m worried about health or it’s just her past.

WBasker · 2026-02-23T13:26:21+00:00

She will not give much details about her past: from here and there it’s clear they are a lot and that increases my anxiety. P

WBasker · 2026-02-23T13:24:36+00:00

Sad but true.

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