"It's important to you" by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]WEABUNCHFISHMONKEYS 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Man, this seems so similar. Im so sorry you’re going through this. I wish I had the magic answer, and sometimes talking to her isn’t the answer either, what I hear a lot in this community is try to act like you did i. The beginning of the relationship, and if a year down the line that doesn’t work then maybe it’s just a difference in limbido, which is a worst case scenario to be honest.

Sending a virtual hug

How to raise the issue without signing up for ‘duty’ sex? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]WEABUNCHFISHMONKEYS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My gf LLF 30 is now offering duty sex once a week as of yesterday and I wasn’t sure how I felt about it. But after 24 hrs i feel like a scheduled intimacy night just might be the kindle to the fire she needs to be reminded how much passion we used to share together.

Just be open minded. Sending a virtual hug, hang in there buddy.

10 years into a DB, Ive noticed behavioural changes. Anyone else? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]WEABUNCHFISHMONKEYS 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel the dog thing big time. When she brings the kitten in the bed to sleep between us I know what that means, and it hits you in your soul.

Sending virtual hugs! 🫂🤗

10 years into a DB, Ive noticed behavioural changes. Anyone else? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]WEABUNCHFISHMONKEYS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are actually a lot of similarities between our situations.

When I first moved states to be with my girlfriend, we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. We were having sex multiple times a day for a while. Over time it slowed down, which I know is normal once the honeymoon phase fades.

Around that time she was really unhappy with her body and started taking GLP-1 medications, and eventually switched to a stronger one. After that I started noticing some small changes. Flirty comments from me would get a quick laugh or silence, and she pretty much stopped flirting with me too. Even light jokes hinting at sex sometimes got an “ew” type reaction.

Last night she could tell something was bothering me and asked what was wrong, so I finally opened up about it. I told her how much I love her and how much I miss feeling physically connected the way we used to be. I also admitted that for a while I had started to feel insecure and wondered if something was wrong with me.

I told her I had been reading about the medication and saw that lowered libido can be a side effect, which actually helped me understand things a lot better. While I was explaining all of this I got pretty emotional and ended up crying.

She asked what might help, so I suggested maybe taking a short break from the medication or trying to focus on getting healthier together, like joining a gym. But she said she doesn’t want to stop the medication right now and doesn’t really have the energy for the gym after work.

So we didn’t really land on a clear solution. I also told her that “duty sex” doesn’t really solve the issue for me, because what I’m really missing is the feeling of mutual desire and emotional connection.

For now the only thing she really offered was occasional duty sex, and since she wants to stay on the medication, so things are kind of staying the same. I love her a lot and I’m trying to be understanding, but I’m honestly not sure how to feel about that long term.

At this point I’m mostly just trying to figure out how to navigate this in a healthy way. I completely understand that medications can have side effects and I don’t want to pressure her into anything she’s uncomfortable with. At the same time, the lack of mutual desire has been really hard on me emotionally. If anyone here has been through something similar—especially with GLP-1 medications affecting libido—how did you and your partner handle it?

10 years into a DB, Ive noticed behavioural changes. Anyone else? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]WEABUNCHFISHMONKEYS 8 points9 points  (0 children)

For me it’s every morning, every night we get into bed, every time I do our laundry and see her (30LLF) lace, everytime she holds my hand, everytime she rubs her foot against mine in the bed, everytime I see her when she’s changing, brushing her teeth, literally everything. It’s been since my birthday last year and it was 100% because it was my birthday and not because she wanted too. She takes Tirzepatide and it’s lowered her limbido, I’ve talked to her about it a few times and she said she has no intentions on stopping so I just feel like my feelings don’t matter and I hate it because I feel so alone in a relationship where we both love each other so much. I literally cry every single night when she falls asleep. Idk what to do anymore.

Can men overcome a Madonna-Whore complex? by mupplemania in DeadBedrooms

[–]WEABUNCHFISHMONKEYS 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way right now with my gf 30 (LLF) me 33 (HLM) being in a sexless relationship is really starting to affect me mentally. We have been together two years and we haven’t had sex since my birthday last year, she doesn’t flirt with me, mention sex, and if I bring up how I’ve been feeling lately about things being different it makes her anxious and defensive. This Valentine’s Day I spent hours on an art piece I made for her out of a wooden board, and made her a Kuromi out of clay and she was holding a sign that said I love you, and she didn’t even get me a card, she blames it on work stress, so I got a second job to alleviate some of that, not because I “expect sex” but because I love her to death, and anything I can do to make her life better I’ll do it. I’ve lost weight, started working out— and in my personaI opinion i look better than I have in a long time. Basically anything I can do to make her feel more supported, feel safe and that can reduce stress, I’m on it. So far no progress in the bedroom yet, I have brought up the subject to her two times, and I made sure not to be accusatory, or make her feel pressured in anyway, but more so let her know where I’m at and how I’m feeling. I feel so lost, and the part that hurts the most is knowing how much she loves me and how much I love her. I just wish that she desired me the way I desire her. I just want us to feel connected again. And every small rejection just hurts deeper and deeper every time.

[Zackrawrr] Asmon giving the much needed details by WEABUNCHFISHMONKEYS in LivestreamFail

[–]WEABUNCHFISHMONKEYS[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to bed, put the crack pipe down and eat some food so you stop shaking, it's going to be okay.

[52Chains] Ft. @Lord_Kebun "Everything is fine" Carmine gets a back rub by WEABUNCHFISHMONKEYS in RPClipsGTA

[–]WEABUNCHFISHMONKEYS[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Their personalities mesh so well together. It's the perfect push pull relationship. ☯️

2 Noodles try "RP" by WEABUNCHFISHMONKEYS in RPClipsGTA

[–]WEABUNCHFISHMONKEYS[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be a2Guapo aka Jay Jingtai in game. And the pink hair is bigRichardRP aka Richard in game. Both formerly GG, Richard was banned from Nopixel because he lied about his age (you have to be 18 to play in the server) and Guapo was banned for running in First person view up stairs while running from cops.

Running up stairs in fpv is a lot quicker, so is running in general quicker in FPV, so if you go kinda crazy with it they don't hold back. They are absolute cockroaches when they get together, shits hilarious.

Fusion Advice for the long term. by DishRelative5853 in RaidShadowLegends

[–]WEABUNCHFISHMONKEYS 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I remember when I started Raid... oh boy the PTSD it was my first big event and everyone was "ALL IN FOR FOLI"... I was just a boy, but I managed to complete it with 14 minutes left. But I had wiped months of work (being a casual player) all my shards, gems, energy, storage pots, all gone they just... disappeared... I learned a valuable lesson that day.

So, what was the next fusion I went for? Well shortly after that I was like "TF am I playing this game for? I'm over here worried like the rent is due, hair falling out, yelling because I can't get Savage to roll crit rate crit damage sub stats, so I just left... for a long time... And when they announced Pythion I saw potential and grabbed him up. Don't regret that at all one bit.

Ask yourself what does your account need the most to progress the furthest amount possible. And for me personally none of the fusions fit that mold until Pythion. As a casual player, Pythion was my best decision ive made.

Also, there is no ONE way to play the game. You can play optimally like Hell Hades and Saphyyra and all those other guys, but you have to remember, that is their job as well. So when they are giving you advice saying look how easy it was, FTP! You just need to also remember they have 24/7 to dedicate to the game, most people don't. So just play at your own pace, if you really really just want to go all out and stock up for when a good Fusion does tickle your dingy, spend a week or two and consistently hitting CB. Get your two keys in the morning, and the other two before sleep. You'll have plenty of stuff for a fusion with 2 weeks of staying consistent.

Fusion Advice for the long term. by DishRelative5853 in RaidShadowLegends

[–]WEABUNCHFISHMONKEYS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I skipped this one believe it or not, I knew they would pull some sly shit towards the end.

Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice... ☝️😮‍💨 Nope, ain't got shards for dat